When using the ABC model of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I encourage clients to consider the consequences of their irrational beliefs. The cognitive, emotive, bodily sensation, and behavioral responses to unhelpful assumptions may take many forms.
For instance, client X may believe that people shouldn’t reject her direct message (DM) on a social media platform. As a result of her demanding attitude, client X then experiences unhealthy anger.
Here, the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger is subjective. Client X may determine that healthy anger is what she feels when believing that people shouldn’t abuse animals, though when not everyone else shares her belief and animals are inevitably abused, she becomes angry.
With her emotional experience, client X then conducts a social media awareness campaign regarding a local establishment in which the abuse has occurred. Although I may not personally subscribe to client X’s notion of her behavior having manifested from healthy anger, she perceives it as a favorable outcome.
On the other hand, when client X’s DM is ignored or mocked, she considers the bombardment of unpleasant thoughts, burning sensation in her gut, and punching of a wall to have been related to unhealthy anger. The differentiating factor between her healthy and unhealthy anger is how the emotive state does or doesn’t serve her interests and goals.
Now, suppose that client X wants to dispute the irrational belief that causes the consequence of unhealthy anger. She expresses that a preferred consequence would relate to frustration, as it’s unlikely that she will be overjoyed or experience pleasure when a DM is rejected.
Sometimes, frustration serves more as its own activating event rather than solely as a consequence of one’s belief. As well, even with her expressed goal, there may be a distinction between healthy and unhealthy frustration.
Regarding these caveats, page 97 of The REBT Therapist’s Pocket Companion invites REBT practitioners to consider that frustration tends to impede a person’s progress in a session. Therefore, it may need to be treated as an action worthy of belief-exploring and disputation.
Still, if an individual insists on treating frustration as a consequence and not an activating event, REBT practitioners are encouraged to help clients distinguish between healthy frustration (which may prompt creativity to overcome a block in one’s progress) and unhealthy frustration (which may prompt impulsivity and self-defeating behavior).
In this regard, it may be useful to conceptualize unhealthy frustration as similar to unhealthy anger. The important takeaway herein is that there is a difference between healthy and unhealthy emotive consequences.
If healthy anger or healthy frustration prompts the process of constructive problem-solving, then this is likely a preferable experience to unhealthy anger or unhealthy frustration which may lead to behavior that isn’t aligned with one’s interests and goals.
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Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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