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You Are a Changeable Person, Who Sometimes Acts Well and Sometimes Behaves Badly

[DISCLAIMER] On the collaborative album by lyricist Kota the Friend and music producer Statik Selektah, To See a Sunset (2023), is the song “Real Ones”. Noteworthy, it contains a sample of Bettye Swann’s track “Either You Love Me or You Leave Me” (1975) and has a relaxed quality to it. In his first verse, Kota states, “People judge left and right, everyone is fallible [liable to be erroneous]. Fuck the world! Focus on the babies comin’ after you. Middle finger to your opi

Ask Albert Ellis

Deric Hollings

Sep 297 min read

You're So Out the Loop

[DISCLAIMER] On the album Rare (2017), by singer and rapper K Camp, is the song “Out the Loop”, featuring rapper Trouble, and which was produced by XL Eagle and Nard & B. On the chorus, K Camp states, “You[’re] so out the loop. You[’re] so out the loop!” This idiomatic phrase regards an individual who isn’t part of a group of people making decisions about particular matters, or who know about such decisions. As an example, I’m out of the loop concerning data centers, espe

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Jun 66 min read

Expectations: I've Been Sorting Through a Lot of Shit That's in My Head Now

[DISCLAIMER] The American Psychological Association defines preference as “the act of choosing one alternative over others,” expectation as “a state of tense, emotional anticipation,” and anticipation as “looking forward to a future event or state, sometimes with an affective component (e.g., pleasure, anxiety).” Of these terms, I stated in Hopeful Anticipation vs. Disturbing Expectation: Essentially, anticipation is an excited, hopeful, and open-minded looking forward to

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Jun 410 min read

You Are Not Your Beliefs or Ideas

[ DISCLAIMER ] In a blogpost entitled Reasoning With the Unreasonable , I succinctly stated that “people are not their beliefs .” For context, the American Psychological Association (APA) thusly defines belief: 1. acceptance of the truth, reality , or validity of something (e.g., a phenomenon, a person’s veracity), particularly in the absence of substantiation. 2. an association of some characteristic or attribute, usually evaluative in nature, with an attitude ob

Deric Hollings

Mar 89 min read