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Ultimatums
[ DISCLAIMER ] If I never again provide couples services for care of mental, emotional, and behavior health , it’ll be too soon. Wait....
Deric Hollings
Jul 47 min read
Another of Life's Little Tragedies
[ DISCLAIMER ] I have no misgiving about my professional decision to stop working with couples. After all, practicing Rational Emotive...
Deric Hollings
Jul 34 min read
The Art of Asking
[ DISCLAIMER ] In a blogpost entitled Assumptions , I said, “An assumption is defined as assuming that something is true or a fact ,...
Deric Hollings
Jun 295 min read
Non-Monogamous Desires
[ DISCLAIMER ] Having been raised with Judeo-Christian values , which included active practice of faith-based tenets for over half my...
Deric Hollings
Apr 2112 min read
This Cake Smells Unpleasant
[ DISCLAIMER ] In a blogpost entitled You Can’t Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too , I described an axiom of the post’s namesake by...
Deric Hollings
Apr 154 min read
Rejected and Dejected
[ DISCLAIMER ] I often hear people discuss a misperceived Action-Consequence (A-C) connection , rather than a Belief-Consequence (B-C)...
Deric Hollings
Apr 159 min read
What's the Big Idea?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , Everett Collection, fair use In childhood, I enjoyed watching reruns of shows featuring The Three Stooges...
Deric Hollings
Apr 126 min read
Bad Words
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use In the 2013 black comedy film Bad Words , directed by and starring Jason Bateman , Guy Trilby...
Deric Hollings
Apr 75 min read
A Demanded Thing Is a Necessary One
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Imagine being in an intimate partner relationship with a person who demands frequent piggyback...
Deric Hollings
Mar 25 min read
Questioning, Challenging, and Contradicting Irrational Beliefs
[ DISCLAIMER ] At around the time that I graduated with a master’s degree in counseling (2011), I befriended a woman who I’ll refer to...
Deric Hollings
Mar 26 min read
Power of Positive Thinking
[ DISCLAIMER ] Many years ago, when I still used Instagram and treated the social media platform as a blogging forum, I posted the...
Deric Hollings
Mar 27 min read
But I've Always Done This
[ DISCLAIMER ] In a blogpost entitled Sunk-Cost Fallacy , I addressed illogical and unreasonable beliefs regarding investment into a...
Deric Hollings
Mar 23 min read
Disturbed About Symptoms
[ DISCLAIMER ] Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and...
Deric Hollings
Mar 25 min read
The Entirety of Chapter Nine
[ DISCLAIMER ] When attending graduate school for counseling (2009-2011) and focusing on the study of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy...
Deric Hollings
Jan 134 min read
To Marry or Not
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Imagine that I offered you a jar containing 10 pieces of candy. It could be any variety of...
Deric Hollings
Nov 21, 20249 min read
The "D" Doesn't Stand for Delightful
[ DISCLAIMER ] While practicing rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), I realize that when introducing clients to the ABC model ...
Deric Hollings
Nov 21, 20246 min read
Love Through Societal Focus
[ DISCLAIMER ] In a blogpost entitled Is It Infatuation or Love? I discussed the concepts of infatuation, love, and true love in...
Deric Hollings
Nov 20, 202410 min read
Is It Infatuation or Love?
[ DISCLAIMER ] The often misunderstood term inflation can be defined as a feeling of foolish or obsessively strong love for, admiration...
Deric Hollings
Nov 18, 20249 min read
Net of Devotion
[ DISCLAIMER ] Have you ever read a passage in a book and thought to yourself, “It’s as though the author is speaking about me”? Even...
Deric Hollings
Nov 4, 20248 min read
Self-Love and Self-Respect
[ DISCLAIMER ] I have no qualms about admitting that I don’t agree with everything expressed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis who...
Deric Hollings
Nov 3, 202411 min read
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