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What if in the Opposite Direction
[DISCLAIMER] What if I dedicate time to writing this blogpost and no one reads it? Worse yet, what if someone reads it and instead of...
Deric Hollings
Jun 7, 20248 min read
Open, Honest, and Vulnerable Communication
[DISCLAIMER] Throughout my youth, I encountered an oft-repeated stereotype about males (boys and men) regarding communication—a process...
Deric Hollings
May 17, 20245 min read
This, Too, Shall Pass
[DISCLAIMER] For many reasons, my late stepmother, “DT,” remains as the most influential figure in my life. She’s perhaps one of the...
Deric Hollings
May 14, 20245 min read
Tactically Strategic
[DISCLAIMER] I was on voluntary appellate leave with the Department of Defense from 2003 to 2007. Wanting to continue use of skills...
Deric Hollings
May 14, 20246 min read
MUSTur-Baby
[DISCLAIMER] During the final week of fifth grade, when attending Crawford Elementary School in Aurora, Colorado, students were allowed...
Deric Hollings
May 10, 20244 min read
Resilience
[DISCLAIMER] During Marine recruit training at Camp Pendleton, California, I recall having succinctly conceptualized the experience of...
Deric Hollings
May 8, 20247 min read
Belief in Knowing
[DISCLAIMER] One of my greatest challenges when practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) with clients is getting people to...
Deric Hollings
May 5, 20247 min read
Why is this Tiger Here?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use According to one source , “The number of people killed in tiger attacks crossed the 100 mark in...
Deric Hollings
May 4, 20245 min read
When the Work Pays Off
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use During graduate school for counseling I attended practicum hours at a Department of Veterans Affairs...
Deric Hollings
May 2, 20246 min read
Embrace the Suck
[DISCLAIMER] When stationed in Okinawa, Japan as a Marine in 1997, I learned that the abbreviation “MP” didn’t solely stand for “military...
Deric Hollings
Apr 29, 20246 min read
Eudaimonia
[ DISCLAIMER ] When the late psychologist Albert Ellis developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), he incorporated into this...
Deric Hollings
Apr 26, 202410 min read
Homework
[DISCLAIMER] Fellow military police (MP) buddies “D” and “Tooth” introduced me to the music of Daft Punk when I was stationed in Okinawa,...
Deric Hollings
Apr 18, 20246 min read
Semper Gumby
[DISCLAIMER] When serving in the Marine Corps between 1996 and 2007, I frequently heard the axiom “Semper Gumby.” As the motto of the...
Deric Hollings
Apr 13, 20245 min read
Welcome to Complex Systems
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use I’m a fan of biologists Bret Weinstein and Heather Heying’s DarkHorse podcast in which Weinsten often...
Deric Hollings
Apr 10, 20246 min read
Simplifying Unconditional Acceptance
[DISCLAIMER] Admittedly, when I first discovered the Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) technique of unconditional acceptance (UA),...
Deric Hollings
Apr 7, 20245 min read
Play It Through
[DISCLAIMER] Although not a technique specific to Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), my late stepmom taught me a helpful tool...
Deric Hollings
Mar 30, 20247 min read
Hear, Hold, Help
[DISCLAIMER] When in graduate school for social work, I took a class entitled Couples Counseling during the 2013 fall semester. At the...
Deric Hollings
Mar 21, 20247 min read
Suffering, Struggling, and Battling vs. Experiencing
[DISCLAIMER] I invite you to read aloud the following sentences: · I suffer with mental illness. · I suffer from depression. · I...
Deric Hollings
Feb 27, 20244 min read
No
[DISCLAIMER] In 2001, a film called The Wash was released and I decided not to watch it, because I didn’t want it to spoil my memory of...
Deric Hollings
Feb 18, 20245 min read
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