30 Years Ago

[DISCLAIMER]

Dubstep is a subgenre of electronic dance music (EDM) that’s generally characterized by the use of syncopated rhythmic patterns, with prominent basslines, and a dark tone. There are people who enjoy EDM and who despise dubstep. I’m not among that cohort.

Admittedly, I infrequently listen to dubstep. Nevertheless, I’m occasionally reminded of a track or two from the subgenre which I enjoy. Case in point, I listened to Pillijah’s track “30 Years Ago” earlier today and was reminded of a couple people from my days of high school.

Although the above photo wasn’t taken three decades ago, the women standing on either side of me graduated high school when I did in 1995. For a time, we were all quite close.

When a family took me into their home during the summer between my freshman and sophomore years of high school, until halfway through my senior year, I lived with one of these women. Together, we participated in a carpool with the other individual in the photo.

After graduation, throughout my time in the Marine Corps, each of us remained relatively close through writing, calling, and seeing one another in-person. As tends to happen, with years fading and matters arising, I lost contact with the women of whom I was once fond.

Unlike the characteristically dark tone to dubstep music, there’s nothing worth self-disturbing over in regard to lost friendships from 30 years ago. People come and go in this impermanent and uncertain life. To upset myself with unhelpful beliefs about this matter would be unwise.

Besides, I have contact with only a handful of people that I knew in 1995. Although my 30th class reunion will soon take place, I’m content with not attending (just as I’ve not attended any such events since graduating). Thus, I’m simply grateful for what once was and I move on.

How about you? What’s your perspective as the years turn into decades and slip away? How do you react when the people to whom you were once close no longer remain in your life? If you’d like to know how to attain a state of contentment in this regard, I look forward to hearing from you.

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