Consider What You Desire

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Have you ever imagined what it would be like to live the seemingly glamourous life of a celebrity? Perhaps you’ve envisioned strolling down the red carpet at a well-publicized event while being admired by thousands or millions of people.

When desiring such a lifestyle, do you stop to consider (to think about carefully) that the people you admire have complex lives, not entirely different from yours? Contemplating this matter, I think of the psychotherapeutic modality I practice and a book I’ve been steadily reading.

As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman.

The authors state, “Look how quickly the partying of a young starlet turns to drug addiction and a stalled career. Ask yourself: Is that really worth it? Is it really that pleasurable? Consider that when you crave something or contemplate indulging in a “harmless” vice” (page 66).

I won’t highlight specific celebrities herein. Yet, I suspect you can readily think of famous people who once seemingly had it all, though who have now fallen from grace of the fickle public eye. Is that the lifestyle you truly want? Is a crash worth the ascension?

Make no mistake about what I’m saying. I’m not suggesting that people mustn’t be famous, or aspire for that level of status. Contrarily, I’m merely inviting you to consider what you desire. Is fame and fortune really worth it? Is it genuinely as pleasurable as you imagine?

Even if you amassed popularity and fortune, wouldn’t you still breathe the same air as the rest of us, bleed when you’re cut, and experience the highs and lows which are inherent in life? Wouldn’t your existence still be burdened by complexity, perhaps even more than before?

Is that what you want? Are the envisioned celebrities, who you doubtlessly can readily think of, the sort of people after whom you want to model your life? Perhaps, perhaps not. Thus, I encourage you to consider what you desire.

If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life—helping you to sharpen your critical thinking skills, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.

As a psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues ranging from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

Photo credit, fair use

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