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Making the Crooked Straight

  • Writer: Deric Hollings
    Deric Hollings
  • May 25
  • 4 min read

 

As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman.

 

Is there anyone who serves as an aspirational guide to you in life? I’ve had many figures that’ve fulfilled this role to me. My dad, a male house parent at a children’s home, a male sergeant in Okinawa, Japan, Yeshua (also known as Jesus), and others come to mind.

 

Regarding this matter, authors of The Daily Stoic quote ancient Roman emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius who stated, “Take a good hard look at people’s ruling principle, especially of the wise, what they run away from and what they seek out” (page 42).

 

My eldest sister, up to whom I looked, was one of the wisest people I knew as a child. I paid close attention to what she sought out, what she avoided, and matters in which she was simply uninterested. Concerning examples of her guidance, authors of The Daily Stoic state (page 42):

 

Seneca has said, “Without a ruler to do it against, you can’t make crooked straight.” That is the role of wise people in our lives—to serve as model and inspiration. To bounce our ideas off and test our presumptions.


 

Featured in the artificial intelligence image above is a ruler. Notice how it has straight edges, though the numbering sequence is incorrect. This image reminds me of the inspiration I drew from my older sister. She was merely fallible, though she helped straighten out my behavior.

 

If you envision a seemingly blameless (sinless) individual up to whom you could aspire, is it possible that you – a flawed human being – can ever emulate the guiding principles of someone like Jesus? Pertaining to this matter, authors of The Daily Stoic suggest (page 42):

 

Who that person will be for you is up to you. Perhaps it’s your father or your mother. Maybe it’s a philosopher or a writer or a thinker. Perhaps WWJD (What would Jesus do?) is the right model for you. But pick someone, watch what they do (and what they don’t do), and do your best to do the same.

 

Pragmatically speaking, I was never going to walk on water, heal the infirmed, turn water into wine, or be able to perform other miraculous deeds. However, I could strive to become more like my sister who, like me, was an imperfect being. As such, I’m grateful for her inspiration.

 

Now, I again ask, is there anyone who serves as an aspirational guide to you in life? Are you imagining a similar figure as when you were first asked this question? Either way, are you able to make the crooked straight by following the guidance of your chosen representative?

 

Perfection isn’t the objective. Rather, merely measuring yourself against the example of another being – as it relates to healthy comparison and not self-disturbingly unhealthy evaluation – is something that you may find beneficial in your walk upon the path of Stoically rational living.

 

If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life—helping you to sharpen your critical thinking skills, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.

 

As a psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues ranging from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

 

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

 

 

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

 

References:

 

Daily Stoic. (n.d.). Translating the Stoics: An interview with “The Daily Stoic” co-author Stephen Hanselman. Retrieved from https://dailystoic.com/stephen-hanselman-interview/

Holiday, R. and Hanselman, S. (2016). The daily stoic: 366 meditations on wisdom, perseverance, and the art of living. Penguin Random House LLC. Retrieved from https://www.pdfdrive.com/the-daily-stoic-366-meditations-on-wisdom-perseverance-and-the-art-of-living-d61378067.html

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