Nobody Believes That
Are you familiar with the phenomenon of a referential index shift—when the subject of the sentence shifts from one perspective to another?
See if you can spot this occurrence in the following Ron DeSantis quote, wherein the Governor of Florida criticizes former President Donald Trump’s critique of the response to COVID-19 by former Governor of New York, Andrew Cuomo:
When you are saying that Cuomo did better on COVID than Florida did, you are revealing yourself to just be full of it. Nobody believes that. And you know why? And you know why I know that? Because I remember in 2020 and 2021 when he was praising Florida for being open.
The referential index is a formal way of indicating reference when analyzing a sentence. DeSantis used two such indexes and associated shifts in the quote.
First, DeSantis referred to Trump when saying, “When you are saying that Cuomo […],” “[…] you know why I know that,” and, “[…] he was praising Florida for being open.” The shift occurred when switching from the objective pronoun (“you”) to a normative pronoun (“he”).
Second, DeSantis stated, “Nobody believes that,” when referencing himself—as indicated by clarifying his statement by suggesting, “And you know why I know that.” This was a subtle shift in the narrative, as the average person may have understood “nobody” to refer to people other than DeSantis.
According to one source, “The beauty of this language pattern is that it is a very common turn of phrase that people do without thinking. Thus it is unlikely ever to be picked up by the listener’s conscious awareness.”
Even though we may not be cognizant of how we speak in the moment, a referential index shift can occur and may serve as a method of distancing or separating oneself from a subject. For instance, instead of saying, “I never know what to do,” a person may shift by saying, “You never know what to do.”
As far as know, there is no hard and fast rule that expresses how every instance of referential index shifting is unhealthy, bad, or symbolic of some other cause for concern. Rather, I highlight this phenomenon, because I think the words we use matter.
When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I encourage people to take personal ownership of the assumptions they maintain. Highlighting referential index shifts is part of how I dispute the irrational beliefs of clients.
Individual responsibility and accountability allows one the ability to shift personally-held beliefs rather than reverting to the shifting of a referential index—passive exemption of blame. Once you own your role in the problem, work may then take place to do something about your response to undesired events.
Dear reader, now that I’ve highlighted the occurrence of referential index shifts, what are your thoughts about this matter? Do you tell yourself, “Nobody believes that actually occurs”? If so, I may be able to assist you with understanding the topic a bit further.
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Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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