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Never Gonna Give You Up, No Matter How You Treat Me
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n
Deric Hollings
11 hours ago8 min read
I Cut Off a Couple of Friends, and They’re Not Allowed to Come Back
[DISCLAIMER] When prospective clients reach out to me regarding professional care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), they sometimes appear to be taken aback when learning that I advocate cutting people off (terminating social relationships of various sorts). Still, I stated in Cutting That Which Isn’t Necessary, “It’s often the case in one’s impermanent and uncertain life that cutting that which isn’t necessary is the best option
Deric Hollings
6 days ago6 min read
Voicemails for Isabelle: Attachment, Detachment, and Nonattachment
[DISCLAIMER] *Voicemails for Isabelle (2026) spoilers contained herein. Photo credit, property of Sony Pictures, Escape Artists, and Netflix, fair use Since my youth, I’ve enjoyed the romantic comedy (rom-com) genre of films. For instance, during high school, a family took me in to live with them from a children’s home. They had a daughter (“Antebellum”) who was of similar age, and with whom I was passionately in love. She and I would eat scrambled egg and grilled chees
Deric Hollings
Jul 1217 min read
It Is What It Is
[DISCLAIMER] “Son,” my dad told me when I was a child, “I don’t know why I brought children into this world when it’s so wicked [morally very bad; evil],” per 1 John 5:19. He went on to explain that anyone with knowledge of the Bible would do well to reconsider the desire to have kids. This was a revelation to me, as my dad had four children! Furthermore, his admission was contrary to what my late stepmom told me when saying it was an “abomination” not to abide by the bib
Deric Hollings
May 299 min read
You'll Always Be the Place I Belong, but I'm Letting Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Xenia Torino (UA) , I heard her spin the track “ After Love ” by Anyma , from his album Genesys II (2024), featuring vocals by Delilah Montagu . The second verse states: Where does the feeling go when it’s gone? Will it reappear? When it finds its storm ? You’ll always be the place I belong, But I’m letting go . I’m not that strong. When contemplating these lyrics, I can relate from both a per
Deric Hollings
Apr 87 min read
All You Got to Do Is Let It Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Jan 2510 min read
A Clean Break: Somebody That I Used to Know
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Jan 1610 min read
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