[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, Designed by Freepik, fair use I invite you to imagine that a current problem you’re facing is akin to a metaphorical cliff which you’re climbing. Other people are also ascending the rock face, as some individuals appear to have an easier time with the climb. What is it you tell yourself during this imaginary journey? One figurative tool you can use along your ascent, which relates to a form of self-narrative, is virtue (a quality or characterist

[ DISCLAIMER ] When living in a children’s home, during my freshman year of high school, a houseparent at the all-boy cottage in which I lived taught me an invaluable lesson. “ Mind over matter ,” he stated, “I don’t mind, because it doesn’t matter.” Here, some points of clarity may be helpful. Colloquially, “mind” is defined as the element or complex of elements in an individual that feels , perceives , thinks or believes , wills , and especially reasons . In the sense

[ DISCLAIMER ] Many years ago, when I was relatively new to the field of mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I worked with children (also referred to as “littles”). On one particular day, the woman tasked with training me used an expression I found humorous. “How do you eat an elephant?” she asked a little as I shadowed my trainer. The child client sat for a moment and thought. “I don’t know,” the little said when shrugging. “One bite

[ DISCLAIMER ] As a child, my mom was quite poor. Raising three children with unstable employment of an unskilled worker, my mom moved...

[DISCLAIMER] On their 1996 album Legal Drug Money, hip hop group Lost Boyz featured the song “1, 2, 3” which has an evolving hook that...

[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use Years ago, before practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I relied heavily on friends,...

[DISCLAIMER] In my youth, I learned a concept from my dad that has served me well throughout life. As well, it’s a technique I use with...