[DISCLAIMER] DV vs. IPV When living with my dad in childhood, he regularly assaulted and battered me. Therefore, I endured mental, emotional, and physical abuse. For context, the American Psychological Association (APA) thusly defines abuse, as this term is used herein: [I]nteractions in which one person behaves in a cruel, violent, demeaning, or invasive manner toward another person or an animal. The term most commonly implies physical mistreatment but also encompasses

[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. On page 32, Ellis stated that REBT “has many techniques of helping people overcome their strong tendencies

[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. To adequately address the subject matter of this blogpost, I thank you for granting my use of a personal an

[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

[DISCLAIMER] On the third studio album, Getback (2007), by hip hop group Little Brother (lyricists Phonte and Big Pooh, and producer 9th Wonder) is the song “Can’t Win for Losing” which was produced by !llmind. Before exploring a portion of the song’s content, I’ll address the track’s namesake. Per one source, the phrase “can’t win for losing” means that the “odds are stacked against me. (Or no matter how much I try, I never succeed.).” This is a matter of hopelessness (t

[DISCLAIMER] I view many events through the proverbial lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). Herein, I’ll provide a psychoeducational lesson that involves thinking and believing which is rational (in accordance with both logic and reason), or not (i.e., irrational), as it regards REBT. Here, “logic” is the interrelation or sequence of facts or events when seen as inevitable or predictable, and “reason” is a statement offered in explanation or justification. Fo

[DISCLAIMER] On the mixtape Sinatra 2 (2017), by subjectively underappreciated lyricist Vado, is the song “Egos”. When filtered through the lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), particularly the ABC model, the track discusses unhealthy and healthy negative emotions. For example, Vado states, “A good nigga, I tried to be. Hate when you lie to me. No more apologies, obviously. It took a lot from inside of me to just leave silently and not become violently, hones

[DISCLAIMER] *What’s Love Got to Do With It (1993) spoilers contained herein. Photo credit, Property of Touchstone Pictures and Buena Vista Pictures Distribution, fair use My now-deceased mom was a fan of the late Tina Turner (born Anna Mae Bullock). As such, my mother owned a vinyl record of Private Dancer (1984) and played the song “What’s Love Got to Do with It” loudly from a stereo when cleaning our home. The chorus states: What’s love got to do, got to do with it?

[ DISCLAIMER ] Have you ever been in love with or simply loved someone so much that after the person leaves (i.e., a breakup, death, etc.) it’s almost as though (or actually, in some cases) you can still hear the individual’s name? If so, then you aren’t alone. Aside from the clients with whom I work, as a number of them report this experience, I was reminded of this matter when listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Vera Aire . Namely, she spun the tra

[ DISCLAIMER ] In 1998, while on leave from Okinawa, Japan when serving in the United States Marine Corps (USMC), I sat watching gameplay concerning boys of the family who accepted me into their household from the children’s home in which I previously lived. At the time, I was self-disturbed by irrational beliefs about a former intimate partner who broke up with me as I underwent USMC Recruit Training in 1996. Per my distorted view, she was playing games with my affect