All I Can Do
- Deric Hollings
- Aug 1
- 4 min read
In a blogpost entitled To Try Is My Goal, I outlined my modified approach to Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). Rather than formerly seeking to help people feel better regarding their mental, emotional, and behavior health wants and needs, I now try to help people get better.
The key to my adapted methodology is that by trying to help individuals improve their level of functioning and quality of life I achieve success by merely attempting this endeavor. This is a significantly different objective than demanding that I absolutistically must help people.
All I can do is strive to aid in the understanding of, belief in, and routine practice of REBT. However, if the people with whom I work outright neglect the personal responsibility and accountability necessary for success with REBT, then they haven’t done all they could do.
When contemplating this matter further I’m reminded of a relatively new track by Nim K. entitled “All I Can Do” from her debut album Queen of the Misfits (2025). Lyrics include:
Realize early mornings and late nights
I see the hate, can’t hide the pain in my eyes
Hold my tongue, eat your words, swallowin’ my pride
Mortified, traumatized, but that’s life
Goin’ hard, goin’ hard for me’s and mine’s
Always go my hardest till all my stars align
It’s all about grind, ‘bout the face, go for ya mind
All I can do is try, try again, and press rewind
When providing psychoeducational lessons on REBT I’m cognizant of the limits regarding my level of control and influence. All I can do is try, try again, and press rewind if someone misunderstands the manner in which I’ve taught the ABC model and unconditional acceptance.
As for belief in and routine practice of REBT, that’s entirely up to the individual. I’m goin’ hard for me’s and mine’s, though it isn’t as though others must value REBT as much as I. Therefore, all I can do is try. Beyond that, people recommendatorily should try, as well. You ready to try?
If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help you understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.
As the world’s foremost hip hop-influenced REBT psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.
At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!
Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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