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If at First You Don't Succeed, Try, Try Again

[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . The authors quote Epictetus who stated, “If you are defeated once and tell yourself you will overcome, but carry on as before, know in the end you’ll be so ill and weakened that eventuall

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Dec 25, 20259 min read

You're a Volunteer for That Ride, Not a Victim, Sucka

[ DISCLAIMER ] On the album Ascended Masters (2020), by rappers Checkmait and Mark Deez , is the track “ Sublime ”. In part, lyrics state, “You’re always on my mind . I think about you all the time. Your beauty’s so sublime. I’m yours. You’re mine,” as the song describes someone who’s in love . In my youth and early adulthood, someone with that mindset was known as a “sucka” (or “succa” for people using terminology of the Crips ). One source thusly describes this term,

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Dec 8, 20259 min read

We Must Seize What Flees

[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Nov 1, 20256 min read

I Can't Stand It!

[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on the ABC model , one of the major techniques of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I find it useful to discuss the finer points of beliefs which are irrational (not in accordance with both logic and reason ). For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption , not the occurr

Deric Hollings

Oct 23, 20254 min read