All You Do Is Party

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I recently listened to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Karry G which featured the track “All You Do Is Party” by Joey Commandeur. When hearing the song, I was mentally transported to Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

In the photo above, members of the Marine Security Guard detachment threw a festa party in the backyard of our Marine house (between 1999 and 2000). At these events, it was customary for people to dress up in a manner similar to how costumes are worn at Halloween parties.

The party depicted in the photo was the one at which Marines had our best turn out. Although I DJ’ed EDM at the time, I didn’t spin on the night of this particular festa party. Nevertheless, I recall going to bars, clubs, raves, and festivals several nights per week.

Back then, it seemed like all I did was party. This is why the Commandeur track reminded me of my time in Rio. For my part, it was the best of times! As a matter that’s personally humorous, lyrics of “All You Do Is Party” state:

You come home, talkin’ ‘bout the sick bass—the du-umm-du-umm and the doof-doof. That’s all I hear about. Do you know that all you are good for, all that you do on this Earth is to party?

All you do is party! [x4]

What time do you call this? [x2] Gettin’ home at God knows what hour! All you do is party! You come home talkin’ ‘bout the sick bass—the du-umm-du-umm and the doof-doof. That’s all I hear about. Do you know that all you are good for, all that you do on this Earth is to party?

All you do is party! [x4]

When viewed through the lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), filtered through the ABC model, I imagine the vocalist expressing healthy distress (i.e., annoyance) rather than unhealthy disturbance (i.e., anger). Thus, there’s a distinction between distress and disturbance.

For instance, imagine being a neighbor adjacent to the Marine house during a festa party at which sick bass was played (Action). Depending on your personal philosophy of life, you may experience either annoyance or anger in relation to the du-umm-du-umm and the doof-doof.

Bear in mind that from a psychological standpoint, people distress or disturb themselves using a Belief-Consequence (B-C) connection. Of course, this isn’t to suggest that in the context of the naturalistic or physical world there is no Action-Consequence (A-C) connection.

For a case of the A-C connection, one source describes the colloquial term “bass sickness” as occurring “when you sit too close to a speaker at a party or concert, the bass is so loud [Action] it causes nausea [Consequence].” In the physical world, bass actually causes a sensory effect.

Yet, given the B-C connection, when hearing sick bass emanating from the Marine house (Action) and Believing, “This is terrible and I can’t stand it, so those worthless Marines absolutely mustn’t play their music so loud,” then anger would likely result (Consequence).

Alternatively, when hearing the du-umm-du-umm and the doof-doof (Action) and Believing, “Although those Marines preferably shouldn’t play their music loudly, I’m aware that I’ve also blared music when partying before,” then annoyance would likely result (Consequence).

Fortunately for the neighbors adjacent to the Marine house, not all we did was party. We generally respected their ears. In any event, self-disturbance or self-distress is a matter of what one tells oneself. Provided you understand this distinction, where’s the next festa party at!?

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