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There's a War Goin' on Outside, That's Just the Way It Is

[ DISCLAIMER ] Mobb Deep, Heltah Skeltah, and 2Pac Among classic tracks from the golden age of hip hop , songs with which arguably even those individuals who don’t like rap music remain familiar, are “ Survival of the Fittest ” by duo Mobb Deep (lyricists Havoc and the late Prodigy ) and “ Changes ” by the late lyricist 2Pac . Featured on Mobb Deep’s second studio album The Infamous (1995), “Survival of the Fittest” was produced by Havoc and contains a sample from th

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Mar 217 min read

Cold Feet: Can You Stand Them?

[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Years ago, I spoke with client X whose wife had recently departed. He reminded me of an important lesson about the distinction between low frustration tolerance (LFT) and high frustration tolerance (HFT)— Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) concepts. I now share his example with you. In common parlance, tolerance is defined as the capacity to endure pain or hardship. Additionally, according to the American Psychological Asso

Deric Hollings

Feb 108 min read

Adaptive and Maladaptive Emotions and Behavior

[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I find it useful to discuss concepts which are accepted due to common knowledge (something that many or most people know). Often, what one presumes to know isn’t truly known by others. According to one source , regarding game theory , common knowledge may be described as “the idea that something is not merely known by all the players in the game, but is also known to be

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Feb 810 min read

Imagine Doing a Good Deed Without Telling Others About It

[ DISCLAIMER ] As a resident of a children’s home in 1992, I comprehended exploitation (the action of making use of and benefiting from resources). Specifically, I voiced my grievance to houseparents about social oppression, though I didn’t have the terminology to describe it as well as one source does: A common conception of social oppression is seen as when a single group in society unjustly takes advantage of, and exercises power over, another group using dominance

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Jan 308 min read

Delightfully Disappointed

[ DISCLAIMER ] * Stranger Things spoilers contained herein. Photo credit , property of Netflix, fair use When season one of the science fiction television series Stranger Things first aired in 2016, I enjoyed it quite a bit. Mainly, the show was chock-full of ‘80s nostalgic iconography and expressions, and I liked seeing a ragtag group of friends fortified through their love of a game. Although in childhood I was forbidden from interacting with the fantasy tabletop ro

Deric Hollings

Jan 111 min read

The Senses and Self-Defense

[ DISCLAIMER ] *Unique disclaimer: Nothing stated herein is meant to serve as legal or other forms of advice . The topic addressed in this blogpost is for psychoeducational and informational purposes only. Consult with qualified legal counsel before acting on any measure expressed herein. Moving on. When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Clara Datz , I heard a track entitled “ The Senses ” by Armen Miran and Pambouk from their 2023 EP Doors of Pe

EDM and REBT

Deric Hollings

Nov 6, 202516 min read

Depression and Reasoned Choice

[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher Epictetus who stated, “Where is Good ? In our reasoned choices . Where is Evil ? In our reasoned choices . Where is that which is neither Good

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Oct 31, 202516 min read