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I Still Can't Let It Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 13, 20258 min read


Keeping up With the Joneses: The Grass Is Always Greener
[ DISCLAIMER ] Do you find that comparison is the thief of joy , as you covet ( desire what belongs to another, inordinately or culpably) the possessions or lived experience of other individuals? If so, you aren’t alone. In fact, there’s an expression regarding such behavior, as one source states: “Keeping up with the Joneses” is an idiom, or popular phrase, that refers to the pressure to “keep up” with your neighbor’s social status, wealth, or popularity. It refers t

Deric Hollings
Nov 12, 20256 min read


Ice Skating: Hold Your Balance
[ DISCLAIMER ] Earlier, when looking through video content from my time in the Marine Corps (1996-2007), for a Veterans Day blogpost, I came across footage of my first time ice skating. In 1998, when stationed in Okinawa, Japan, I found that there was no exception to gravity’s force when on ice. The memory of that subjectively humorous event reminded me of a Passport Rav song from his 2021 album Sand in My Carry On , entitled “ Ice Skating ”. For those who are unfamilia

Deric Hollings
Nov 11, 20255 min read


In the Trunk
[ DISCLAIMER ] I recently visited an automotive shop for a state-mandated emissions inspection. While sitting in the lobby, a man glanced down at my exposed calves and saw a large United States (U.S.) Marine Corps tattoo, as the following dialogue ensued: Man: You a Marine? Me: Yes. Man: Semper fi ! Me: Do or die! Oorah ! Man: How long’d ya do? Me: 11 years. Man: You were halfway to retirement. What happened? Me: Were you a Marine? Man: Yes, 22 years. Me

Deric Hollings
Nov 11, 20258 min read


You Gotta Know the Ledge
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 10, 20258 min read


Crashout
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , property of Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures fair use When searching Reddit for content regarding daily practice of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I came across a subjectively humorous anecdote . In the post featuring a 2011 Walt Disney Animation Studios rendition of Winnie the Pooh , the following dialogue unfolds: Piglet: [Pooh, Rabbit, Owl, Eeyore, Kanga and Roo are trapped in a hole and Piglet gets a rope - only to cut it

Deric Hollings
Nov 10, 20256 min read


Gotta Change the World
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 9, 20259 min read


You Gots to Chill
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 8, 20258 min read


The Senses and Self-Defense
[ DISCLAIMER ] *Unique disclaimer: Nothing stated herein is meant to serve as legal or other forms of advice . The topic addressed in this blogpost is for psychoeducational and informational purposes only. Consult with qualified legal counsel before acting on any measure expressed herein. Moving on. When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Clara Datz , I heard a track entitled “ The Senses ” by Armen Miran and Pambouk from their 2023 EP Doors of Pe

Deric Hollings
Nov 6, 202516 min read


You Gotta Be Better Than the Ones Who Precede Ya
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 5, 20257 min read


Whatever's Whispered in Darkness Has to Come to Light
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 4, 20258 min read


Peace of Mind From No Wrongdoing
[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . The authors quote ancient Roman Stoic philosopher Seneca who stated, “The greatest portion of peace of mind is doing nothing wrong . Those who lack self-control live disoriented and di

Deric Hollings
Nov 4, 202510 min read


GTFOH
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 2, 20259 min read


Must I Kick a Curse to Be Rough Enough?
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 1, 20259 min read


We Must Seize What Flees
[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th

Deric Hollings
Nov 1, 20256 min read


Best to Live Your Life to the Fullest
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Oct 31, 20259 min read


Your Life's Worth More Than Mine
[ DISCLAIMER ] Within my blog, I make no secret about the fact that I was once a stepdad to a little girl who I helped raise from when she was six-months- to a five-year-old. Although things didn’t work out between her mom and me, I remain grateful for the experience of having helped to raise a child. Given this context, I appreciate the song “ Vertebrae ” by Canadian lyricist Dan-e-o from his fifth solo album, The Day It All Changed , an ode to his daughter, Melina, w

Deric Hollings
Oct 29, 202510 min read


Ya Better Back Up!
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Oct 29, 20257 min read


Suicide and Suicide Attempts: Jumping Out the Window
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , photographer: Brian McElhiney , property of Stars and Stripes, fair use When serving as military police (MP) while stationed aboard Camp Kinser , a major logistics base for Marine Corps Forces on Okinawa, Japan from 1997 to 1999, I responded to an emergency call at the Kinser towers (on-base military family housing). The crisis call related to an attempted suicide in-progress. Regarding this matter, the American Psychological Association (A

Deric Hollings
Oct 27, 20258 min read


Lifestyles of the Rich and Shameless
[ DISCLAIMER ] Growing up in a standard slightly above abject poverty (the most severe form of poverty, defined as a lack of basic human needs like food, clean water, sanitation, and shelter), I recall watching the television series Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous which was hosted by Robin Leach . Although the program didn’t distract from my own circumstances (i.e., government-assisted living, roach and rat infestations, insecure housing, etc.), I’d often fantasize abo

Deric Hollings
Oct 24, 20259 min read
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