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We Must Seize What Flees
[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th
Deric Hollings
Nov 16 min read
I Can't Stand It!
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on the ABC model , one of the major techniques of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I find it useful to discuss the finer points of beliefs which are irrational (not in accordance with both logic and reason ). For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption , not the occurr
Deric Hollings
Oct 234 min read
I Can't Take It: It's More Than I Can Handle
[DISCLAIMER] Have you ever been exposed to a CS gas chamber? I have. In a blogpost entitled Resilience, I described my experience from...
Deric Hollings
May 196 min read
Sit Down if You Can't Stand Me
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons about the ABC model of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I often...
Deric Hollings
Feb 234 min read
It's Time for the Percolator
[ DISCLAIMER ] I have a friend who has low frustration tolerance (LFT) for songs in which lyrics are used repeatedly. As such, she’s...
Deric Hollings
Jan 75 min read
FLAT
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use In 1999, Mr. Oizo released the song “Flat Beat.” At the time, I appreciated the way its varied tones...
Deric Hollings
Mar 23, 20244 min read
Focus on the Target Problem
[DISCLAIMER] Unlike some people within the field of mental, emotional, and behavioral health or wellness, I’ve chosen not to ditch the...
Deric Hollings
Feb 13, 20245 min read
To Stand or to Sit, That is the Question
[DISCLAIMER] For many years, I’ve admired Malcolm X (later known as el-Hall Malik el-Shabazz). Though I could provide in-depth analysis...
Deric Hollings
Aug 28, 20235 min read
Do Something About It
[DISCLAIMER] There’s a scene in the 2009 film Mother and Child that stood out to me when watching it and thinking about how I approach...
Deric Hollings
Aug 2, 20234 min read
How Much Can You Take?
[DISCLAIMER] In middle school, I recall hearing bass emitting from a car that would often cruise the main street in front of my family’s...
Deric Hollings
Jul 14, 20236 min read
Want vs. Need
[ DISCLAIMER ] ** Unique disclaimer : If you desire a short post—the kind of TikTok-esque content that delivers unhelpful advice which...
Deric Hollings
May 3, 202319 min read
Pillars
[DISCLAIMER] When listening to the laidback song “Pillars” by MindsOne and Kev Brown, I’m reminded of something I heard when undergoing...
Deric Hollings
Apr 28, 20235 min read
Sticks and Stones
[DISCLAIMER] From childhood, I recall when children would often say, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words shall never hurt...
Deric Hollings
Mar 7, 20236 min read
Low Frustration Tolerance
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use What is LFT? One of my main goals when practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is to help...
Deric Hollings
Dec 2, 20227 min read
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