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Negative, but Healthy Disappointment: Seasons Change, and Friends Do Too

[DISCLAIMER] When dabbling in amateur photography while residing in Bomb City during 2009, I met person X. She was an alternative model, associated with the scene subculture, and someone I once considered a relatively close friend (one attached to another by affection or esteem). To provide an adequate example of our tight bond, when person X told me that she received a death threat of imminent potential, not wanting to involve the police – as was the case with many of my

Ask Albert Ellis

Deric Hollings

2 hours ago13 min read

How Could This Happen to Me?

[ DISCLAIMER ] On the second studio album Still Not Getting Any... (2004) by Canadian rock band Simple Plan is the song “ Untitled (How Could This Happen to Me?) ”. Describing the video for the track, one source states: The music video tells a story of a car crash on a rainy evening where a young male drunk driver crashes his Toyota Camry head-on into a Trans Am driven by a female, resulting in her death. The drunk driver, however, survives relatively uninjured, and en

Deric Hollings

Apr 510 min read

When You Leave That Way You Can Never Go Back

[ DISCLAIMER ] My Former Family When residing in a children’s home, I met a family at a Churches of Christ congregation that sponsored the nonprofit organization overseeing my residential placement. Between my freshman and sophomore year, I was invited to live with the family under legal guardianship . The eldest daughter of that family had four boys to whom I was close. At one point or another, I’d changed diapers, fed, played and took naps with, and tended to other r

Deric Hollings

Mar 2913 min read

Healthy Remorse vs. Unhealthy Guilt

[ DISCLAIMER ] Earlier, when listening to rapper Key Glock ’s sixth mixtape Son of a Gun (2020), I heard the song “ Cops N Robbers ” in which he states, “Throwin’ bullets, not knuckles. Young Glock Brady , I’ma score, yeah (Fire). Cutthroat to the core. I’ll kill a nigga with no remorse !” That’s when I thought about a psychoeducational lesson on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). For context, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines remorse as “a s

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Mar 2711 min read