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I Still Can't Let It Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 138 min read
We Must Seize What Flees
[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th
Deric Hollings
Nov 16 min read
I Can't Stand It!
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on the ABC model , one of the major techniques of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I find it useful to discuss the finer points of beliefs which are irrational (not in accordance with both logic and reason ). For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption , not the occurr
Deric Hollings
Oct 234 min read
I Can't Take It: It's More Than I Can Handle
[DISCLAIMER] Have you ever been exposed to a CS gas chamber? I have. In a blogpost entitled Resilience, I described my experience from...
Deric Hollings
May 196 min read
Tolerable FAD
[ DISCLAIMER ] Depicted in the above photo are three fashion elements in which I no longer participate, as they relate to a passing...
Deric Hollings
Apr 185 min read
Sit Down if You Can't Stand Me
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons about the ABC model of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I often...
Deric Hollings
Feb 234 min read
It's Time for the Percolator
[ DISCLAIMER ] I have a friend who has low frustration tolerance (LFT) for songs in which lyrics are used repeatedly. As such, she’s...
Deric Hollings
Jan 75 min read
I Can't Take It
[ DISCLAIMER ] For those readers who are unfamiliar with Texas history, the following information serves as context pertaining to this...
Deric Hollings
Mar 29, 202410 min read
FLAT
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use In 1999, Mr. Oizo released the song “Flat Beat.” At the time, I appreciated the way its varied tones...
Deric Hollings
Mar 23, 20244 min read
Deal Wit Dis
[DISCLAIMER] In my first year of high school, West Coast gangsta rap group South Central Cartel (S.C.C.) released an album entitled South...
Deric Hollings
Mar 17, 20246 min read
High Frustration Tolerance
[DISCLAIMER] Given responses I’ve heard from people in my personal and professional life about dating, I’m glad that my days of courtship...
Deric Hollings
Feb 24, 20247 min read
Focus on the Target Problem
[DISCLAIMER] Unlike some people within the field of mental, emotional, and behavioral health or wellness, I’ve chosen not to ditch the...
Deric Hollings
Feb 13, 20245 min read
Rational Expression
[DISCLAIMER] A client recently told me that when I began working with him years ago, he didn’t fully comprehend the Rational Emotive...
Deric Hollings
Feb 6, 20243 min read
Don't be Jealous
[DISCLAIMER] REBT When I underwent training for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) in 2021, a trainee passionately disagreed with a...
Deric Hollings
Jan 10, 20247 min read
Can't Go for That
[DISCLAIMER] ReksHit up My mom was a fan of Hall & Oates, so I heard the pop rock duo played throughout my home as a child. Personally, I...
Deric Hollings
Oct 18, 20238 min read
The Four Horsemen
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use As a child, my dad practiced the religious faith of the Jehovah’s Witnesses. Sharing information in...
Deric Hollings
Sep 18, 20236 min read
To Stand or to Sit, That is the Question
[DISCLAIMER] For many years, I’ve admired Malcolm X (later known as el-Hall Malik el-Shabazz). Though I could provide in-depth analysis...
Deric Hollings
Aug 28, 20235 min read
Do Something About It
[DISCLAIMER] There’s a scene in the 2009 film Mother and Child that stood out to me when watching it and thinking about how I approach...
Deric Hollings
Aug 2, 20234 min read
How Much Can You Take?
[DISCLAIMER] In middle school, I recall hearing bass emitting from a car that would often cruise the main street in front of my family’s...
Deric Hollings
Jul 14, 20236 min read
Want vs. Need
[ DISCLAIMER ] ** Unique disclaimer : If you desire a short post—the kind of TikTok-esque content that delivers unhelpful advice which...
Deric Hollings
May 3, 202319 min read
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