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I Could No Longer Take It, Had to Make Some Changes
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
2 days ago7 min read


Escapism, Escape Behavior, Avoidance, and Avoidance Behavior
[DISCLAIMER] On the album Stop Looking for Noise (feat. Don Dubious) (2022), by lyricist Radio B and producer Don Dubious, is the song “Stop Looking for Noise” on which the lyricist states, “Nigga, put yo phone down. Stop looking for noise. Everything is all right now.” Unless my interpretation of the lyrics is wrong, Radio B uses wordplay regarding the phrase everything is alright (or everything is all right)—meaning that all is well, and instead suggests that all things

Deric Hollings
Sep 2610 min read


I Can’t Take It Anymore, Because You Don’t Treat Me Like You Should
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
Sep 188 min read


I Don’t Think That I Can Take All That
[DISCLAIMER] On his eleventh solo studio album, Deeply Rooted (2015), lyricist Scarface (of Geto Boys fame) released the song “You”, that featured vocals by lyricist and singer CeeLo (of Goodie Mob fame), and which was coproduced by N.O. Joe and EP. On his first verse, Scarface states: I been there, done that, grew from my fuck-ups A hard head make a nigga soft ass tougher My momma used to say that one day I’d suffer If I ain’t tighten up and get my shit right, trust her

Deric Hollings
Sep 156 min read


I Just Can't Deal
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
Jul 249 min read


I Can’t Take Anymore, the Feelings I Have for You
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
Jul 198 min read


This Man Should Be in Hell, He’s Horrible
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
Jul 139 min read


Self-Distress and Distress Tolerance
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use Early in my graduate studies regarding professional care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I chose to practice Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), a psychotherapeutic modality developed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis. REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption,

Deric Hollings
Jul 711 min read


I Can't Make It Out Alone
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
May 117 min read


Discomfort Anxiety: Where Are You Going?
[DISCLAIMER] In high school, after years of tolerating distorted vision, a family that invited me to live with them from the children’s home in which I was a resident took me to an optometrist. It turned out that I needed prescription eyewear. If memory serves, once I received my new glasses, I was excited about being able to see details of the leaves on a tree from a window of the optometry clinic. “See that?” the optometrist said, “That’s what you’ve been missing!” On

Deric Hollings
May 1011 min read


Sick of All, You Had Enough
[DISCLAIMER] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Celiá, I heard her spin the track “Before My Eyes” (2025) by Goom Gum and Dancing on Lego. In part, the lyrics state “sick of all, you had enough” and “pick up all you have in love.” When used flexibly, the phrases “sick of all” and “had enough” infer that an individual is tremendously frustrated, annoyed, disappointed, etc. with a situation. However, when used rigidly, the same inference applies tho

Deric Hollings
Apr 275 min read


Intolerance: There's No Way That I Can Take This
[ DISCLAIMER ] I listened to a recent electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Aneya Rose during which she spun the track “ Right Now ” (2022) by James Hurr . In part, the lyrics state, “Tell me, baby, ‘cause I want to break it down. There’s no way that I can take this no more.” With a double negative , the singer uses an unaccommodating belief that indicates intolerance—the quality or state of being intolerant—unable or unwilling to endure. Now, I’ll provide a psychoed

Deric Hollings
Apr 148 min read


Excuses, Explanations, and Justifications
[ DISCLAIMER ] When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I use personal responsibility and accountability (collectively “ ownership ”). For improved understanding , responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible, such as a moral , legal , or mental accountability. Here, “responsible” is defined as liable to be called to account as the primary cause, motive , or agent, and being able to answer for one’s conduct and obligations —s

Deric Hollings
Apr 127 min read


My Ex Can't Stand It
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Apr 118 min read


I'm Sick of Being in the Same Situation With You
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Mar 228 min read


Cold Feet: Can You Stand Them?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Years ago, I spoke with client X whose wife had recently departed. He reminded me of an important lesson about the distinction between low frustration tolerance (LFT) and high frustration tolerance (HFT)— Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) concepts. I now share his example with you. In common parlance, tolerance is defined as the capacity to endure pain or hardship. Additionally, according to the American Psychological Asso

Deric Hollings
Feb 108 min read


I Just Can't Take It
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Jan 1410 min read


You're a Volunteer for That Ride, Not a Victim, Sucka
[ DISCLAIMER ] On the album Ascended Masters (2020), by rappers Checkmait and Mark Deez , is the track “ Sublime ”. In part, lyrics state, “You’re always on my mind . I think about you all the time. Your beauty’s so sublime. I’m yours. You’re mine,” as the song describes someone who’s in love . In my youth and early adulthood, someone with that mindset was known as a “sucka” (or “succa” for people using terminology of the Crips ). One source thusly describes this term,

Deric Hollings
Dec 8, 20259 min read


I Still Can't Let It Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Nov 13, 20258 min read


We Must Seize What Flees
[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th

Deric Hollings
Nov 1, 20256 min read
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