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Adding Fuel to the Fire
[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . Concerning this blogpost, some defining terms may be necessary. First, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines a habit thusly: [A] well-learned behavior or automatic seque
Deric Hollings
11 hours ago10 min read
I Can't Stand It!
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on the ABC model , one of the major techniques of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I find it useful to discuss the finer points of beliefs which are irrational (not in accordance with both logic and reason ). For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption , not the occurr
Deric Hollings
Oct 234 min read
Toxic Fuel
[ DISCLAIMER ] The above image is one of the few photos I have in which I experienced anger in the moment. It was taken by my (then)...
Deric Hollings
Jul 18 min read
One
[ DISCLAIMER ] In 2007, the late rapper Sean Price ( also known as Sean P, Ruck, Scagnetti, Tha Inflicsta, Ruckus, Decepticon Sean,...
Deric Hollings
Jun 177 min read
It Isn't Manly to Be Enraged
[ DISCLAIMER ] The above photo was taken shortly after my divorce in 2006, when I was employed in the field of nuclear security and my...
Deric Hollings
Jun 137 min read
Seeing RED
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , artist: Ammotu , fair use In my youth, I was a fan of the X-Men —a superhero team in comic books which...
Deric Hollings
Jun 47 min read
REBT and Emotions
[DISCLAIMER] When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I occasionally encounter criticism about the perceived promotion...
Deric Hollings
Mar 14, 20244 min read
Relax Your Mind, Let Your Conscious be Free
[DISCLAIMER] In 1989, I attended LL Cool J’s Nitro World Tour, which featured Eazy-E, N.W.A, Slick Rick, De La Soul, and though he was...
Deric Hollings
Feb 22, 20246 min read
Hulk
[DISCLAIMER] As a young boy, I adored many characters from comic books and graphic novels. However, I had a difficult time sitting still...
Deric Hollings
Oct 18, 20239 min read
Road Rage
[DISCLAIMER] Road rage Road rage is defined as “a motorist’s uncontrolled anger that is usually provoked by another motorist’s irritating...
Deric Hollings
Mar 9, 20237 min read
Why You Mad?
[DISCLAIMER] Why? Early in my social work education I was told, “We never ask the client ‘Why?’ because it’s a question implying...
Deric Hollings
Dec 7, 202213 min read
Redirecting Lightning
[DISCLAIMER] **Avatar: The Last Airbender animated series spoiler alert** Photo credit, fair use Introduction I recently spoke with...
Deric Hollings
Oct 28, 202215 min read
Wild Out
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use Brief Background on LOX I recently had a conversation with someone concerning my approach to Rational...
Deric Hollings
Sep 16, 202240 min read
Green with Anger
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use Recently, I sent a clip of the She-Hulk: Attorney at Law series to someone, because I wanted input...
Deric Hollings
Aug 24, 202227 min read
My Ni
[DISCLAIMER] In his song entitled “The eND,” lyricist Torae, along with Shaquawna Shanté, addresses a topic I think is worth expanding...
Deric Hollings
Jul 12, 202214 min read
Unconditional Acceptance
[DISCLAIMER] **Fire hip hop music contained in each linked “Let It Go” reference** Context One of the Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy...
Deric Hollings
Jul 11, 202218 min read
What the Future Holds
[DISCLAIMER] There are a number of rap groups—duos, trios, etc.—that are heavily intertwined with various periods of my life. One such...
Deric Hollings
Jun 30, 20229 min read
Rigid Terms of Service
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use Using Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I help clients challenge unhelpful and unhealthy...
Deric Hollings
Jun 27, 20226 min read
Desire and Disturbance
[DISCLAIMER] Recently, I was asked about the difference between desire and disturbance. Specifically, what are the elements which...
Deric Hollings
May 28, 202211 min read
Circle of Concern
[DISCLAIMER] When considering what impact I have on my life, on the lives of others, and the world as a whole, I find it useful to...
Deric Hollings
May 17, 20228 min read
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