[DISCLAIMER] In adolescence, I was taught to compliment females (girls and women) so that they could experience satisfying outcomes. Specifically, the matriarch of a family that invited me to live with them when I was a teenager told me about which types of accolades were most desired. “We like it when you [males (boys and men)] notice that we’ve gotten a haircut—whether or not it looks good,” she said.” “Tell us nice things, like we’re wearing a pretty dress, we smell ni

[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, Designed by Magnific, fair use As it pertains to this blogpost, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines an effect as “an event or state that is brought about as the result of another (its cause).” To demonstrate a causative effect, I now invite you to consider Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). First, it may be worth noting that one source states, “A carousel or carrousel (mainly North American English), merry-go-round (Inter

[ DISCLAIMER ] Imagine that I told you about an electronic dance music (EDM) track to which I often danced when in South America, as I said “it was such a vibe … it felt so good,” do you think you could identify the error in that expression? If not, you aren’t alone. Many people wouldn’t be able to! As such, I invite you to consider a psychoeducational lesson on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) so that you may separate yourself from a crowd of ignorance (lacki

[ DISCLAIMER ] From the third compilation album Revenge of the Dreamers III (2019), by Dreamville Records , is the song “ Disgusted ” by rappers Cozz and Childish Major . The track begins with Cozz stating: I’m disgusted, she said she[’s] in love, but it’s nothin’ we discussed yet Says she love my hair, and that shit growin’ so luscious And she wanna fuck, but I know she fucked my cousin Every time I think about you I say, “You[’re] disgustin’!” Per the American Psych

[ DISCLAIMER ] I enlisted in the United States (U.S.) Marine Corps in 1996, serving as military police and as a Marine Security Guard , with a final discharge from military service in 2007. Yet, that single sentence doesn’t provide a meaningful depiction of the in-service challenges I faced. On June 5, 2002, under authority of the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ), I was subject to a non-judicial punishment procedure for failure to obey an order or regulation (

[ DISCLAIMER ] Earlier, when listening to rapper Key Glock ’s sixth mixtape Son of a Gun (2020), I heard the song “ Cops N Robbers ” in which he states, “Throwin’ bullets, not knuckles. Young Glock Brady , I’ma score, yeah (Fire). Cutthroat to the core. I’ll kill a nigga with no remorse !” That’s when I thought about a psychoeducational lesson on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). For context, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines remorse as “a s

[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . Per one Stoic source , “You spend your present moment agonizing over a future tragedy that’ll likely never happen. If it does happen, you’ll have suffered twice . If it doesn’t happen, y

[ DISCLAIMER ] I practice Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), a psychotherapeutic modality developed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis . Unlike other models which focus on the past (having existed or taken place in a period before the present), I stated of REBT in It’s In the Past : The overwhelming majority of clients with whom I’ve ever worked have discussed unresolved issues of the past. While I meet with these individuals in the present, I’m unable to alte

[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing...