Nobody and Nothing Can Make You Feel Happy, or Otherwise

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I recall that in childhood, when cleaning our house, my mom would play the album I Feel for You (1984), the fifth solo studio release by R&B and funk singer Chaka Khan. I liked the song “I Feel for You”, which featured rapper Melle Mel of Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five.

Fusing R&B, funk, and hip hop, the track was a fitting selection for breakdancing at outdoor urban settings, as well as within clubs—regarding which I was too young to attend. In any event, I can’t remember if my mom also owned the album Stompin’ at the Savoy – Live (1983).

The anthology was by R&B and funk band Rufus, featuring Chaka Khan as the lead singer. Though I’m uncertain about whether or not my mom owned the album, I distinctly remember hearing a song from it, entitled “Ain’t Nobody”, which was featured in the film Breakin’ (1984).

The chorus states, “Ain’t nobody (Nobody) loves me better (Loves me better). Makes me happy, makes me feel this way (Nobody). Ain’t nobody (Ain’t nobody) loves me better than you.” I enjoyed the track 42 years ago, when watching Breakin’ in a movie theater, and I still do!

While recently listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Liana DJ, I heard her spin the song “Nobody (Extended Mix)” (2025) by MRAK and Asal. It’s a dance and house music track that remixes “Ain’t Nobody” by Rufus, namely vocals by Chaka Khan. I dig it!

Now, I consider the lyrics of both “Ain’t Nobody” and “Nobody (Extended Mix)” when contemplating my approach to care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”). Thus, I invite you to consider my approach to mental health care.

When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I use personal responsibility and accountability (collectively “ownership”). For improved understanding, responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible, such as a moral, legal, or mental accountability.

Here, “responsible” is defined as liable to be called to account as the primary cause, motive, or agent, and being able to answer for one’s conduct and obligations—something, such as the demands of conscience or custom, that obligates one to a course of action.

Also, “accountable” is defined as subject to giving an account—a statement explaining one’s conduct. Accountability is defined as the quality or state of being accountable, especially regarding an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.

When providing psychoeducational lessons on REBT, a psychotherapeutic modality which arguably requires that one preferably should take personal ownership in order to reduce self-distress or self-disturbance, I lean heavily on both responsibility and accountability.

This is because I maintain that people have personal agency (a person’s ability to control one’s own reactions to activating events which are beyond one’s own dominion, especially when one’s response is limited by someone or something else). This is a matter of self-empowerment.

REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurrence itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence. This is known as distress or disturbance.

Noteworthy, with virtually any undesirable Action that occurs, it’s your unfavorable Beliefs which cause unpleasant distress or disturbance (Consequence). Given this framing of self-distress and self-disturbance, it’s worth noting that one REBT source states (page 71):

REBT conceptualizes [distress] as healthy even though it is intense. Other approaches to therapy have as their goal the reduction of the intensity of negative emotions. They take this position because they do not keenly differentiate between healthy negative emotions (distress) and unhealthy negative emotions (disturbance).

Now, REBT keenly distinguishes between healthy distress and unhealthy disturbance. Healthy distress stems from your rational beliefs about a negative activating event [Action], whilst disturbance stems from your irrational beliefs about the same event.

Complete elimination of distress is highly unlikely in an impermanent and uncertain world wherein people conceptually suffer, struggle, and battle with, or merely experience hardship. Still, individuals often make matters worse for themselves by disturbing about such instances.

In particular, there are four predominate irrational beliefs which people often use to distress or disturb themselves: global evaluations, low frustration tolerance, awfulizing, and demandingness. When contemplating these unproductive scripts, think of the acronym GLAD.

Additionally, from a psychological standpoint, people distress or disturb themselves using a Belief-Consequence (B-C) connection. Of course, this isn’t to suggest that in the context of the naturalistic or physical world there is no Action-Consequence (A-C) connection.

Before providing an example regarding the distinction between the A-C and B-C connections, I thank you for granting me a personal anecdote. When enlisted in the United States Marine Corps, I served as a Marine Security Guard (MSG) in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

MSG det Rio, August 18, 1999 (27 years ago from today)

Admittedly, my time with MSG detachment (det) Rio was met with mixed feelings. For context, the American Psychological Association (APA) thusly defines feeling:

1. a self-contained phenomenal experience. Feelings are subjective, evaluative, and independent of the sensations, thoughts, or images evoking them. They are inevitably evaluated as pleasant or unpleasant, but they can have more specific intrapsychic qualities, so that, for example, the affective tone of fear is experienced as different from that of anger.

The core characteristic that differentiates feelings from cognitive, sensory, or perceptual intrapsychic experiences is the link of affect to appraisal. Feelings differ from emotions in being purely mental, whereas emotions are designed to engage with the world.

2. any experienced sensation, particularly a tactile or temperature sensation (e.g., pain, coldness).

One of the most difficult aspects of my approach to mental health care is convincing people that their feelings relate either to emotions (e.g., disgust), or sensations (e.g., tightness in the jaw). After all, even the APA maintains that “feelings differ from emotions,” making my job difficult.

Specifically, it isn’t uncommon for the clients with whom I work to conflate intuitions with feelings. As an example, client X may say, “I feel like you’re not listening to me.” However, in this context, the so-called feeling isn’t an emotion or sensation. It’s an intuition.

To be clear, the APA defines intuition as “immediate insight or perception, as contrasted with conscious reasoning or reflection,” and defines insight as “the clear and often sudden discernment of a solution to a problem by means that are not obvious and may never become so, even after one has tried hard to work out how one has arrived at the solution.”

Now, consider which sentence sounds more appropriate: “I feel like you’re not listening to me,” or, “It seems like you’re not listening to me.” For clarity, to “seem” is to appear to the observation or understanding. This correlates with intuition and insight, not an actual feeling.

Some people reject the framing of feelings that I’ve outlined herein, as you may also do so. Nevertheless, there’s a reason why I quibble with misuse of this term. Using the ABC model, feelings relate to Consequences, not Beliefs. Allow me to briefly explain.

Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive philosophies of life in order to explore Effective new beliefs. Whereas rigid beliefs cause self-disturbance, flexible beliefs result in an un-disturbed condition.

For the sake of illustration, consider that the APA defines happiness as “an emotion of joy, gladness, satisfaction, and well-being.” Now, demonstrating the difference between the A-C and B-C connections, consider the following example. For context, a Carioca is a resident of Rio.

From an A-C view, I was stationed in Rio (Action), and I was introduced to many Cariocas (Consequence). This material world connection isn’t all that surprising, given that one who lives in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil is likely to encounter Cariocas on a daily basis.

Now, when assigned to MSG det Rio, I met a lot of Cariocas for whom I maintained affection (Action). About them, I rationally Believed, “Cariocas are like extended family members, and I preferably should treat them as I would regarding the people I love.”

Using this Belief, I was healthily happy (Consequence). Given that the ABC model is used to address negative, but healthy distress, or negative, though unhealthy disturbance, there was no reason to Dispute my rational Belief that caused a desirable Consequence.

Alternatively, using an undesirable B-C connection, when assigned to MSG det Rio, I encountered Marines regarding whom I had no affection. Particularly, there was infrequent conflict concerning a number of the tactical team members with whom I served (Action).

I then irrationally Believed, “These guys are worthless [G], and I can’t bear how they treat me [L], because it’s terrible [A], as I absolutely shouldn’t be treated so poorly [D]!” Using this Belief, I then experienced negative, but unhealthy anger and aggression (Consequence).

In both examples, whether relating to healthy happiness or unhealthy anger and aggression, it wasn’t as Chaka Khan sang, “Makes me happy [or otherwise], makes me feel this way.” Nobody and nothing can make you feel happy, or otherwise. Rather, the B-C connection does that.

If my framing of this matter supposedly feels unlikely to you, then I argue that you’ve misunderstood the psychoeducational lesson presented herein. The lesson may seem unlikely, you may think or believe it’s unlikely, or you may even have a hunch about its unlikeliness.

I’ll grant this sort of intuition or insight. However, these matters aren’t feelings. Even if you disagree, perhaps actually feeling anger, I’ve not made you angry. The B-C connection did that. After all, no one and nothing makes you feel an emotional Consequence. Your Beliefs do that. Own it!

If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help you understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.

As the world’s foremost hip hop and EDM-influenced REBT psychotherapist—promoting content related to EDM, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

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