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Reminiscing About Sloppy Steaks: I Used to Be a P.O.S.
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , property of Netflix, fair use I Think You Should Leave with Tim Robinson is a sketch comedy television series created by Tim Robinson and Zach Kanin , and leans heavily on cringe comedy with elements of surreal humor. Regarding the current post, you’re invited to consider a season two scene in which a man states: [baby cries when passed to the man] Of course he cries when I hold him. It’s not a big deal. Ah, it’s not a big deal. I guess he
Deric Hollings
Nov 26, 202511 min read
Show Me How You Feel: I Wish You Would Heal It
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 26, 20259 min read
Thinking About What Other People Think
[ DISCLAIMER ] Throughout my life, my behavior has shifted back and forth regarding the hair above my neckline (i.e., on my face and head). This issue represents a changing opinion (a view, judgment , or appraisal formed in the mind about a particular matter), about which I stated in Nightshift : When I was young, my thick and naturally curly hair grew relatively quickly. Because hairstyling was considered an unaffordable luxury, my mom favored inexpensive buzz cuts (a
Deric Hollings
Nov 26, 202510 min read
If You Keep Playin' Games
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 25, 202510 min read
I Need You to Follow
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 25, 20259 min read
Logos and Natural Order
[ DISCLAIMER ] I served in the United States (U.S.) Marine Corps from 1996 to 2007, with my primary billet as military police (MP). During that time, men and women were held to different standards of physical fitness. Regarding this matter, one source claims: While they are gaining seniority in the US military, women continue to face discrimination. As women were forging paths into the military, men sought ways to differentiate themselves and maintain their dominance in
Deric Hollings
Nov 25, 202513 min read
Order of Operations
[ DISCLAIMER ] REBT When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavo
Deric Hollings
Nov 23, 202516 min read
Fortuna: Is It Luck or Effort?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Growing up under the teachings of Jehovah’s Witnesses , my dad taught me not to believe in luck (a force that brings good fortune or adversity, and the events or circumstances that operate for or against an individual). Regarding my dad’s advisement against belief in luck, one source states: Supernatural interpretations of luck consider it to be an attribute of a person or of an object, or the result of a favorable (or unfavorable) view manifested by a dei
Deric Hollings
Nov 23, 20256 min read
Don't Get Caught Lackin'
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 22, 202510 min read
Jack
[ DISCLAIMER ] As a resident of a children’s home sponsored by a local congregation of the Churches of Christ in Bomb City , I met Jack who was an elder (a biblically qualified man who serves as a spiritual leader, overseeing and shepherding the local congregation alongside other elders). Each time Jack greeted me, he delivered one of the most firm handshakes I’d ever experienced. His grip was downright painful, as Jack would laugh as I writhed in agony. “What’s the matt
Deric Hollings
Nov 22, 20255 min read
Tomorrow Can Wait
[ DISCLAIMER ] On the electronic dance music (EDM) anthology Pop Life (2007), the third studio album released by French DJ and record producer David Guetta , is the track “ Tomorrow Can Wait ” which features Chris Willis and DJ Tocadisco . Lyrics of the chorus state: Live life here and now , tomorrow can wait Dance all through the night, sleepin’ all day Stuck inside a box, you gotta get out Stand up, get up, live your life now, come on Within the cited lyrics is a h
Deric Hollings
Nov 21, 20256 min read
What Will You Do When You Get Punched in the Face?
[ DISCLAIMER ] By the time I attended United States Marine Corps Recruit Training (1996), I’d already been in a number of physical altercations. As my experience with fistfights began in elementary school, I had awareness of what it was like to get punched in the face. For instance, as a resident of a children’s home in middle and high school, I’d engaged in mutual affrays with various boys. On one instance, a school bus driver pulled me off of a boy who sucker punched me
Deric Hollings
Nov 20, 20258 min read
It's Gon' Have to Be Whatever
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 20, 20258 min read
An Erudite Know-It-All Engaging in Virtue Signaling and Purity Testing
[ DISCLAIMER ] For this post, a number of definitions are required. The term “erudite” is an adjective relating to having or showing knowledge that is gained by studying: possessing or displaying erudition (extensive knowledge acquired chiefly from books: profound, recondite, or bookish learning). In the ‘80s and ‘90s, the term used for erudite scholars was “nerd,” which is a noun relating to a person devoted to intellectual, academic, or technical pursuits or interests
Deric Hollings
Nov 19, 202511 min read
Self-Love and Self-Acceptance
[ DISCLAIMER ] The above photo was taken during my senior year of high school, as I resided with a family who allowed me to live with them after my residency at a children’s home. By that point in my life, I’d wanted to kill myself for almost a decade. Looking at the picture, I see sadness in my eyes. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), sadness is defines as “an emotional state of unhappiness, ranging in intensity from mild to extreme and usuall
Deric Hollings
Nov 18, 202517 min read
Muscle Memory: REBT Metaphorical Dry Firing
[ DISCLAIMER ] When serving in the United States Marine Corps (1996-2007) in the billet of military police (MP), I was introduced to the concept of muscle memory . Regarding this topic, one source states: Muscle memory is a form of procedural memory that involves consolidating a specific motor task into memory through repetition, which has been used synonymously with motor learning. When a movement is repeated over time, the brain creates a long-term muscle memory for
Deric Hollings
Nov 18, 202511 min read
Bloodbending: A Moral and Ethical Dilemma Regarding Control
[ DISCLAIMER ] * Avatar: The Last Airbender spoilers contained herein. Photo credit , property of Nickelodeon, fair use ATLA – I ask that you keep an open mind In no less than five posts within my blog, I’ve discussed the animated fantasy action television series Avatar: The Last Airbender (ATLA). Aside from it being my favorite animated series, I argue that ATLA contains theoretical, philosophical, and spiritual concepts worth considering. Therefore, this is a seri
Deric Hollings
Nov 17, 202523 min read
Pay Attention to What's in Front of You
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius who stated, “ Pay attention to what’s in front of you —the principle , the task, or what’s being portra
Deric Hollings
Nov 17, 20254 min read
Mental Health, Mental Illness, and Mental Disorder
[ DISCLAIMER ] One shared experience regarding my graduate studies for counseling (2009-2011) and social work (2012-2014) related to confusion about terms within the field of mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”). For instance, what does “mental health” mean? Mental Health The concept of mental health may seem like a no-brainer (something that requires a minimum of thought). However, I find it useful to offer varying definitions and de
Deric Hollings
Nov 16, 202514 min read
Better Know How to Act
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a
Deric Hollings
Nov 16, 20258 min read
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