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ABCs and 123s
[DISCLAIMER] In the United States (U.S.), “ABCs and 123s” refers to the fundamental building blocks of early childhood education, regarding the English (a Latin-script) alphabet (i.e., A, B, C…) for reading and literacy, and Hindu-Arabic numeral system (1, 2, 3…) for counting and basic math. Although I learned my ABCs and 123s at a young age, it wasn’t until adulthood that I was taught of another use for these fundamental building blocks of mental, emotional, and behavior

Deric Hollings
2 days ago12 min read


Negative, but Healthy Disappointment: Seasons Change, and Friends Do Too
[DISCLAIMER] When dabbling in amateur photography while residing in Bomb City during 2009, I met person X. She was an alternative model, associated with the scene subculture, and someone I once considered a relatively close friend (one attached to another by affection or esteem). To provide an adequate example of our tight bond, when person X told me that she received a death threat of imminent potential, not wanting to involve the police – as was the case with many of my

Deric Hollings
3 days ago13 min read


Stigma: Sometimes, It Hurts; However, Nobody Can Insult You Without Your Permission
[DISCLAIMER] The James Talarico Fiasco In my personal and professional practice of care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I sometimes encounter the unhelpful effects of stigma—which the American Psychological Association thusly defines: [T]he negative social attitude attached to a characteristic of an individual that may be regarded as a mental, physical, or social deficiency. A stigma implies social disapproval and can lead un

Deric Hollings
4 days ago15 min read


Words Do Hurt, You Chopped Down That Man’s Pride: That’s Not How Life Works
[DISCLAIMER] On the album Brighter Days (2014), by lyricist Awon and music producer Kameleon Beats, is the track “Still Waters”. Containing a sample of the Four Tops’ song “Still Water (Love)” (1970), Awon states on the hip hop track: We all know what it’s like, surviving nights after fights With the love of our life, it’s never right You[’re] so restless, butt naked, even your mind’s froze Seeing his face every time your eyes close Words do hurt, you chopped down that ma

Deric Hollings
6 days ago7 min read


The Same Thing’ll Make You Laugh’ll Make You Cry
[DISCLAIMER] My late stepmom sometimes voiced the expression, “The same thing’ll make you laugh’ll make you cry.” Regarding this saying, it’s worth noting that the American Psychological Association (APA) thusly defines laughter: [V]ocal expression of amusement, enjoyment, or derision, characterized by inspiratory and expiratory movements occurring in rapid succession. Laughter is pleasurable because it serves to release tension built up when people listen to an amusing sto

Deric Hollings
Oct 813 min read


This Is My Place, My House, My Rules
[DISCLAIMER] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Kristen (formerly Kris May), I heard her spin the track “House (Solomun Remix)” (2024) by London Grammar, remixed by Solomun. The lyrics include, “This is my place, my house, my rules.” When living with my dad from half of my fifth grade to half of my seventh grade years, and then for a brief time after graduating high school, I often heard a similar narrative as was expressed in “House (Solomun Remi

Deric Hollings
Sep 287 min read


Startle Response and Instinct: Inductive and Deductive Reasoning
[DISCLAIMER] Earlier this morning, when checking my mailbox while the sky was still dark, I observed the behavior of an armadillo, of the nine-banded variety. Because the placental mammal is nocturnal by nature, it likely didn’t anticipate or expect me to be out and about while it strolled around. The creature probably had poor hearing, as my knees and ankles make the sound of crackling firewood when I walk. Thus, the armadillo didn’t hear me approaching, as I apparently

Deric Hollings
Sep 1716 min read


Healthfully Negative vs. Unhealthfully Negative Reactions
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful n

Deric Hollings
Sep 1610 min read


Negative, but Unhealthy Sadness: You Aren’t Disturbed by Events From Childhood
[DISCLAIMER] In the above photo, I’m depicted holding a toy rifle while posing with my female sisters and cousins. Three people in that picture were said to have been sexually assaulted and/or raped by members of our family. Yet, I knew nothing about this matter until I became an adult. During a time when I owned real rifles and would likely have sought subjective justice against the alleged offenders, I had a discussion with one of the family members in the photo above.

Deric Hollings
Sep 1410 min read


Harm: Negative, Though Healthy or Unhealthy Disgust
[DISCLAIMER] In the above photo, I sat in a wheelchair at a hospital and attempted to portray the look of despondency (a state characterized by feelings of hopelessness and despair). Yet, my buddy who took the picture was cracking jokes, so I tried to hold back a smile. We then laughed quite a bit! To some people, my depiction of a person with a disability may seem inappropriate. Moreover, some individuals may claim that my behavior was harmful (of a kind likely to be dam

Deric Hollings
Sep 28 min read


Wisdom and Acting Justly Are One and the Same
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman. The authors quote ancient Stoic Marcus Aurelius, who stated, “Soon you will die, and still you aren’t sincere, undisturbed, or free from suspicion that external things can harm you, nor are you gr

Deric Hollings
Aug 1910 min read


Nobody and Nothing Can Make You Feel Happy, or Otherwise
[DISCLAIMER] I recall that in childhood, when cleaning our house, my mom would play the album I Feel for You (1984), the fifth solo studio release by R&B and funk singer Chaka Khan. I liked the song “I Feel for You”, which featured rapper Melle Mel of Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five. Fusing R&B, funk, and hip hop, the track was a fitting selection for breakdancing at outdoor urban settings, as well as within clubs—regarding which I was too young to attend. In any e

Deric Hollings
Aug 1813 min read


Examination of Consequences and Allowing for Time Outs
[DISCLAIMER] I recently spoke with client X about the examination of consequences, as well as allowing for time outs when practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). As it can be challenging to provide this information in a session with limited time, I’ll now share it with you herein. First, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines examination as “a test, observation, or other means of investigation carried out on a patient to evaluate physical or men

Deric Hollings
Jul 279 min read


Tar-Baby: One’s Beliefs Cause the Consequences
[DISCLAIMER] In childhood, my sisters and I owned a vinyl record of the controversial live-action/animated musical drama film Song of the South (1946). Although I’m biracial (white and black), I’m not offended by my beliefs about the film’s racial dynamics. I’ll explain this view in a bit. Based on the collective written stories Uncle Remus: His Songs and His Sayings: The Folk-Lore of the Old Plantation (1886) by Joel Chandler Harris, the film follows a young boy named Jo

Deric Hollings
Jul 2111 min read


Emotional Exhaustion: Drained, Agitated, and Overwhelmed
[DISCLAIMER] The American Psychological Association (APA) defines emotion as “a complex reaction pattern, involving experiential, behavioral, and physiological elements, by which an individual attempts to deal with a personally significant matter or event.” Colloquially, emotions are called feelings. Additionally, the APA defines exhaustion as “a state of extreme fatigue,” as the APA also defines fatigue as “a state of tiredness and diminished functioning. Fatigue is typi

Deric Hollings
Jul 157 min read


In the Words of el-Hajj Malik el-Shabazz, “I Don’t Feel That Stick”
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman. The authors quote Stoic philosopher Epictetus, who stated, “He was sent to prison. But the observation ‘he has suffered evil,’ is an addition coming from you” (page 345). Here, Epictetus advocated

Deric Hollings
Jul 138 min read


It’s Not the Thing Itself That Troubles You, but Only Your Judgment of It
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman. The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher and Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, who stated, “When you are distressed by an external thing, it’s not the thing itself that troubles you, but only your

Deric Hollings
Jul 1010 min read


Nonconscious: Just Because You Can’t Detect the Belief Doesn’t Mean That It Isn’t Present
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to the clients with whom I work, I often find that some people require additional information about the conscious, preconscious, unconscious, and nonconscious conceptual functions of the mind. For clarity, I practice REBT in my personal and professional life. Thus, I subscribe to many propositions put forth in REBT theory, which was initially developed by the late psychologis

Deric Hollings
Jul 910 min read


All Gas, No Brakes: Fright
[DISCLAIMER] Jeffrey (2016) is the fourth commercial mixtape by rapper Young Thug, featuring the track “Wyclef Jean”, which was produced by TM88 and Supah Mario. It’s reportedly in homage to singer and lyricist Wyclef Jean, yet the song bears no meaningful connection to Jean’s legacy. On the track, Young Thug addresses a one-night stand by stating, “I told her keep going on the gas, fuck the brakes. Only here for one night, let me put it on your face.” If you don’t compre

Deric Hollings
Jun 126 min read


To Offend and Endure Offense: Você Tem Chulé
[DISCLAIMER] In adolescence, I was taught to compliment females (girls and women) so that they could experience satisfying outcomes. Specifically, the matriarch of a family that invited me to live with them when I was a teenager told me about which types of accolades were most desired. “We like it when you [males (boys and men)] notice that we’ve gotten a haircut—whether or not it looks good,” she said.” “Tell us nice things, like we’re wearing a pretty dress, we smell ni

Deric Hollings
Jun 59 min read
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