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An Inscription on Your Gravestone
[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman . Lately, how much time have you devoted to contemplation of your inevitable death? How much time have you squandered when thinking about the lives of others who are also inescapably heading

Deric Hollings
7 days ago5 min read


Reasoned Choice: Someone There Is Dying
[ DISCLAIMER ] In my youth, adults convinced me that heavy metal music was satanic (of, relating to, or characteristic of Satan or Satanism—obsession with or affinity for evil : specifically, worship of Satan marked by the travesty of Christian rites). Thus, I was forbidden from listening to metal. As such, I unfortunately missed out on enjoying metal music from Metallica . All the same, I was vaguely familiar with some of the band’s songs, because they were quite popul

Deric Hollings
Feb 169 min read


Let's Talk About Death
[ DISCLAIMER ] During my elementary school years, my older sister and I would stay awake at night so that we could watch adult programs. On one occasion, we were able to witness the song “ Push It ” by hip hop trio Salt-N-Pepa being performed on television. The song dripped with sexual innuendo! Although not entirely aware of the ins and outs regarding sexual intercourse, my sister and I were able to ascertain the song’s meaning. That was my introduction to Salt-N-Pepa,

Deric Hollings
Feb 156 min read


Gallows Humor: Nihilist Penguin
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit (edited), fair use Admittedly, I enjoy gallows humor (a style of comedy which makes light of subject matter that is generally considered taboo, particularly subjects that are typically considered serious or painful to discuss, aiming to influence discomfort, serious thought , and amusement for their audience). Since having begun the informal practice of life coaching in 1991, beginning formal practice of psychotherapy in 2011, I’ve come t

Deric Hollings
Jan 299 min read


You Gotta Give It Time, and the Pain Will Pass
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Jan 177 min read


We Must Seize What Flees
[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th

Deric Hollings
Nov 1, 20256 min read


The 5 Stages
[ DISCLAIMER ] Throughout my adolescent years I heard people referencing the 5 stages of grief, which were proposed by Elisabeth...

Deric Hollings
Sep 27, 20258 min read


Options
[ DISCLAIMER ] The Wisdom of My Late Stepmom Earlier, I listened to the track “ Options ”, from the Su & Tye – EP (2025), by Sule ...

Deric Hollings
Aug 31, 202514 min read


One Day, You Will Die, Die, Die
[ DISCLAIMER ] During my senior year of high school, I sat in a home economics class. Seated next to me was a girl to whom I’ll refer...

Deric Hollings
Aug 31, 20255 min read


Happy Trails
[ DISCLAIMER ] When I was a child, my grandma by marriage used to chain-smoke while watching Western films and television (TV) series...

Deric Hollings
Jul 19, 20256 min read


Enjoy This Brief Time We Have On Earth
[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing...

Deric Hollings
Jul 19, 20256 min read


Memento Mori
[ DISCLAIMER ] * 28 Years Later spoilers contained herein. Photo credit , property of Sony Pictures Releasing, fair use I enjoyed...

Deric Hollings
Jun 26, 20256 min read


I Will Live My Life Till My Life Runs Out
[ DISCLAIMER ] * The Life of Chuck spoilers contained herein. Photo credit , property of Neon, fair use I recently watched The Life...

Deric Hollings
Jun 23, 20255 min read


The Gift of Memory Lives On
[ DISCLAIMER ] On their 2011 album Professional Dreamers , a hip hop group from Västerås, Sweden known as Looptroop Rockers released...

Deric Hollings
Jun 18, 20258 min read


Yellow Ribbon
[ DISCLAIMER ] Being that today is May 1, 2025, and given that my mind sporadically recalls songs at random times, a military cadence...

Deric Hollings
May 1, 20255 min read


Clarity in Seeing What Others Overlook
[ DISCLAIMER ] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing...

Deric Hollings
May 1, 20254 min read


You Will Realize You Are Dying Before Your Time
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , artist: Don Aguillo , fair use In childhood, I enjoyed watching Masters of the Universe and ThunderCats...

Deric Hollings
Apr 8, 20254 min read


Nightshift
[ DISCLAIMER ] When I was young, my thick and naturally curly hair grew relatively quickly. Because hairstyling was considered an...

Deric Hollings
Feb 16, 20256 min read


So Long, Country Bumpkin
[ DISCLAIMER ] I find it humorous to discover the reactions of people when I inform them about my dad’s musical tastes and subcultural...

Deric Hollings
Feb 9, 20258 min read


Kim-Jade
[ DISCLAIMER ] I met Kim-Jade (“KJ”) in 2011, during the same month that I graduated with a Master of Arts in Counseling degree. In...

Deric Hollings
Feb 6, 20255 min read
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