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Spilled Milk: Tolerance and Acceptance

[DISCLAIMER] I invite you to consider that one source states, “We’ve all heard the phase before – ‘Don’t cry over spilled milk.’ It’s a classic saying meant to remind us that getting upset over things we can’t change won’t do any good,” using milk as a symbol of something valuable, yet easily lost. Sometimes expressed as “there’s no use crying over spilled milk,” the meaning of this idiomatic expression infers that there’s no point in being upset over something that has a

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

3 days ago17 min read

Life Goes On, and So Does Death

[DISCLAIMER] I’ve just heard about the reported death of singer Oliver Tree. His song “Life Goes On”, from the album Ugly Is Beautiful (2020), has served as content for many electronic dance music (EDM) remixes. Over the years, I’ve enjoyed both the original track and its modifications. According to one source, “Tree stated in an interview that ‘Life Goes On’ is about ‘a problematic relationship where one person treats the other person badly […] shouldn’t waste time on to

EDM and REBT

Deric Hollings

6 days ago5 min read

I Can't Make It Out Alone

[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

EDM and REBT

Deric Hollings

May 117 min read

Doing What I Can Before My Ride Shows Up

[DISCLAIMER] A little over a decade ago, nitape’skw (nee-dub-besk) told me about the life and death of Santee Sioux Nation author, poet, actor, musician, and political activist John Trudell. I miss the contact I had with nitape’skw, as I remain grateful for her having introduced me to the work of Trudell. In one of the most subjectively memorable exit announcements from life, Trudell’s family member reportedly posted on Facebook, “My ride showed up.” and “Celebrate Love.

Deric Hollings

May 106 min read

Avatar: Aang, the Last Airbender - Unconditional Acceptance

[ DISCLAIMER ] * Avatar: Aang, The Last Airbender (2026), also known as The Legend of Aang: The Last Airbender (2026), spoilers contained herein. Photo credit (unofficial movie poster), property of Paramount Pictures (Paramount+), Nickelodeon Movies, and Avatar Studios, fair use When providing psychoeducational lessons on mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “ mental health ”) within my blog—which predominately focuses on Rational Emotive Behavior T

Deric Hollings

Apr 1614 min read

We Gotta Rock It, Don't Stop... Until We Die

[ DISCLAIMER ] Because I don’t have many social media apps on my smartphone , regarding most sites such as Reddit, TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, and so forth, I often miss up-to-date news about celebrity deaths. This is as I prefer things to be in my life. Still, earlier today, when searching for material online for daily practice of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) I discovered that one source reports, “Influential musical artist Afrika Bambaataa died in Penn

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Apr 1011 min read

Either You Live, or You Die: It's Cut and Dry

[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Apr 29 min read

Reasoned Choice: Someone There Is Dying

[ DISCLAIMER ] In my youth, adults convinced me that heavy metal music was satanic (of, relating to, or characteristic of Satan or Satanism—obsession with or affinity for evil : specifically, worship of Satan marked by the travesty of Christian rites). Thus, I was forbidden from listening to metal. As such, I unfortunately missed out on enjoying metal music from Metallica . All the same, I was vaguely familiar with some of the band’s songs, because they were quite popul

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Feb 169 min read

Gallows Humor: Nihilist Penguin

[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit (edited), fair use Admittedly, I enjoy gallows humor (a style of comedy which makes light of subject matter that is generally considered taboo, particularly subjects that are typically considered serious or painful to discuss, aiming to influence discomfort, serious thought , and amusement for their audience). Since having begun the informal practice of life coaching in 1991, beginning formal practice of psychotherapy in 2011, I’ve come t

Deric Hollings

Jan 299 min read

The Awful, Very Bad, Horrible, Terrible, No Good, Unacceptable Elements of Life

[ DISCLAIMER ] With the exception of a couple years in my youth during which I lived in Aurora, Colorado, I was born and raised in Amarillo, Texas. With the latest estimate of a Texas citizenry comprised of 40.2% Hispanic or Latino people, I suspect this figure was similarly-sized during my youth. As such, I was raised around a lot of Mexicans. Notably, during the ignorance of adolescence, I befriended Mexican gang members predominately affiliated with the Crips and Su

Deric Hollings

Dec 21, 202516 min read