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If Better Days Don’t Come, Then I’ll Get Up and Make Some
[DISCLAIMER] I enjoy the album The Dynospectrum (1998) by hip hop collective The Dynospectrum (comprised of lyricists Slug, I Self Divine, Sab the Artist, and Swift—all who performed under the pseudonyms Sep Se7en, Pat Juba, General Woundwart, and Mr. Gene Poole, respectively). Noteworthy, the first song on the anthology is “You Can Lose Your Mind” on which Sep Se7en states, “Became accustomed to carrying weight, and waiting for better days to come, and if they don’t come

Deric Hollings
Oct 149 min read


ABCs and 123s
[DISCLAIMER] In the United States (U.S.), “ABCs and 123s” refers to the fundamental building blocks of early childhood education, regarding the English (a Latin-script) alphabet (i.e., A, B, C…) for reading and literacy, and Hindu-Arabic numeral system (1, 2, 3…) for counting and basic math. Although I learned my ABCs and 123s at a young age, it wasn’t until adulthood that I was taught of another use for these fundamental building blocks of mental, emotional, and behavior

Deric Hollings
Oct 1312 min read


There’s a War Goin’ on Inside, Everything You See and Hear Pokes Holes in Your Mind
[DISCLAIMER] In There’s a War Goin’ on Outside, That’s Just the Way It Is, I addressed the song “Survival of the Fittest” by duo Mobb Deep (lyricists Havoc and the late Prodigy), in which it’s stated that “there’s a war goin’ on outside, no man is safe from.” It’s a classic hip hop track! Now, within that blogpost, I also stated, “As expressed by Mobb Deep, warlike conditions can exist in settings outside of formally declared warzones or areas of conflict.” For context, o

Deric Hollings
Sep 2910 min read


This Is My Place, My House, My Rules
[DISCLAIMER] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Kristen (formerly Kris May), I heard her spin the track “House (Solomun Remix)” (2024) by London Grammar, remixed by Solomun. The lyrics include, “This is my place, my house, my rules.” When living with my dad from half of my fifth grade to half of my seventh grade years, and then for a brief time after graduating high school, I often heard a similar narrative as was expressed in “House (Solomun Remi

Deric Hollings
Sep 287 min read


Negative, but Unhealthy Fear: Acting Against a Disturbing Behavioral Issue
[DISCLAIMER] I was once in an intimate partner relationship with a woman who had a phobia, which the American Psychological Association (APA) defines as “a persistent and irrational fear of a specific situation, object, or activity (e.g., heights, dogs, water, blood, driving, flying), which is consequently either strenuously avoided or endured with marked distress.” Also, the APA defines fear as: [A] basic, intense emotion aroused by the detection of imminent threat, invo

Deric Hollings
Sep 2112 min read


Startle Response and Instinct: Inductive and Deductive Reasoning
[DISCLAIMER] Earlier this morning, when checking my mailbox while the sky was still dark, I observed the behavior of an armadillo, of the nine-banded variety. Because the placental mammal is nocturnal by nature, it likely didn’t anticipate or expect me to be out and about while it strolled around. The creature probably had poor hearing, as my knees and ankles make the sound of crackling firewood when I walk. Thus, the armadillo didn’t hear me approaching, as I apparently

Deric Hollings
Sep 1716 min read


Healthfully Negative vs. Unhealthfully Negative Reactions
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful n

Deric Hollings
Sep 1610 min read


Needlessly Self-Disturbing
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. When providing psychoeducational lessons on the two main techniques of REBT, the ABC model and unconditiona

Deric Hollings
Sep 135 min read


Humility vs. Perfectionism: C’est la Vie
[DISCLAIMER] In childhood, my artistic skills were relatively good. For those who knew me when I used to draw – as I won art contests, surpassed the talents of other children through junior high school, and received many accolades – I was largely considered the best in my class at drawing. Not uncommonly, my older sister used to playfully tease me for the manner by which I stuck out my tongue slightly when fully concentrating on art projects. Then, self-aware of my behavi

Deric Hollings
Aug 206 min read


I Don’t Give a Damn ‘Bout My Reputation
[DISCLAIMER] I recently watched The Runaways (2010), a biographical drama film about the 1970s rock band The Runaways, as I was reminded of band member Joan Jett. In particular, I recalled Jett’s debut solo album Bad Reputation (1980). It featured the song “Bad Reputation”, on which Jett sang: I don’t give a damn ‘bout my reputation Livin’ in the past, it’s a new generation A girl can do what she wants to do And that’s what I’m gonna do And I don’t give a damn ‘bout my

Deric Hollings
Aug 98 min read


Civil Libertarianism, REBT, and Standing on Principle
[DISCLAIMER] Civil Libertarianism Having been raised under the tenets of the Jehovah’s Witnesses faith, even as I now identify as religiously agnostic, I was taught to remain politically neutral. Thus, I don’t vote. Nevertheless, I currently identify with aspects of civil libertarianism, about which one source states: Civil libertarianism is a strain of political thought that supports civil liberties and rights, or which emphasizes the supremacy of individual rights and

Deric Hollings
Aug 620 min read


Why Bother?
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman. The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher and Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, who stated, “Don’t lament this and don’t get agitated” (page 360). Addressing this consideration, authors of The Dail

Deric Hollings
Aug 26 min read


Examination of Consequences and Allowing for Time Outs
[DISCLAIMER] I recently spoke with client X about the examination of consequences, as well as allowing for time outs when practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). As it can be challenging to provide this information in a session with limited time, I’ll now share it with you herein. First, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines examination as “a test, observation, or other means of investigation carried out on a patient to evaluate physical or men

Deric Hollings
Jul 279 min read


Mirroring and Demystification: Don’t Add Me to Your Group Chat
[DISCLAIMER] When attending graduate school for counseling, I was taught various tools for care regarding mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”). As an example, I learned of the mirror technique, which the American Psychological Association (APA) thusly defines: [T]he conscious use of active listening by the therapist in psychotherapy, accompanied by reflection of the client’s affect and body language in order to stimulate a sense of empat

Deric Hollings
Jul 219 min read


Tar-Baby: One’s Beliefs Cause the Consequences
[DISCLAIMER] In childhood, my sisters and I owned a vinyl record of the controversial live-action/animated musical drama film Song of the South (1946). Although I’m biracial (white and black), I’m not offended by my beliefs about the film’s racial dynamics. I’ll explain this view in a bit. Based on the collective written stories Uncle Remus: His Songs and His Sayings: The Folk-Lore of the Old Plantation (1886) by Joel Chandler Harris, the film follows a young boy named Jo

Deric Hollings
Jul 2111 min read


It’s Not the Thing Itself That Troubles You, but Only Your Judgment of It
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman. The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher and Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, who stated, “When you are distressed by an external thing, it’s not the thing itself that troubles you, but only your

Deric Hollings
Jul 1010 min read


Self-Distress and Distress Tolerance
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use Early in my graduate studies regarding professional care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I chose to practice Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), a psychotherapeutic modality developed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis. REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption,

Deric Hollings
Jul 711 min read


If Your Reaction Isn’t Disturbed, Then Why Is It Disturbed-Coded?
[DISCLAIMER] When providing professional care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I predominately use Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). For those who remain unfamiliar with this psychotherapeutic modality, allow me to discuss one of its tools. REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurren

Deric Hollings
Jul 17 min read


What If
[DISCLAIMER] Blog Entries Dating Back Several Years Have Vindicated My Views The photo above was taken in June 2020, during the early stages of the COVID-19 pandemic. Although I was highly skeptical of claims regarding the United States (U.S.) government’s response to COVID-19, masking procedures were required within my place of employment. I complied with guidance from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), World Health Organization (WHO), and Anthony Fa

Deric Hollings
Jun 2914 min read


Losing It
[DISCLAIMER] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by DJ Luane, I heard her spin the Henry Himself remix “Losing It (Henry Himself Remix)” (2025) of Fisher’s original track “Losing It” (2018). Repetitively, the lyrics state, “I’m losing it!” The phrase “losing it” is the past participle of “lose it,” as in “falling apart,” which means to yield to mental or emotional stress. For example, person X lost it when he was told there’d be yet another delay. As

Deric Hollings
Jun 235 min read
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