[ DISCLAIMER ]   When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves  through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model  of wellness .   For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When in elementary school, I visited a Chinese food restaurant in Bomb City  with my assigned big brother from Big Brothers Big Sisters of America  (a non-profit organization that creates and supports one-to-one mentoring relationships with children). Also, his friends were in attendance.   One of my big brother’s friends, a woman I now believe to have been in her 20s, expressed appreciation for her late granddad. “That man,” she stated, “worked all his life

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set  by Holly Loo , I heard her spin the track “ Can You Feel It? ” (2024) by Chymamusique and Floyd D. , featuring vocals by Wanda Baloyi . Lyrics state in part:   Can you feel  it? I never thought I’d feel  this way About somebody else who is not me All these feels  that you’ve given me Are so brand new Oh, they’re new to me Could this be love? Could this be true? Could this be real between me and you?  

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set  by K_Oxana , I heard her spin the track “ Be a Better You ” by Daniel Jaeger , on the album Be a Better You  (2017). I then thought of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT). It’s my preferred self-help  strategy.   Worth noting, I think the version of the song spun by K_Oxana was by Jaeger, though it was contained on the album Criminal Bassline - Most Wanted Mixed by Daniel Jaeger (DJ Mix)  (2024)

[ DISCLAIMER ]   As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living  by Ryan Holiday  and Stephen Hanselman .   The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher Epictetus who stated, “What assistance can we find in the fight against habit? Try the opposite” (page 198). Similar to this recommendation , I

[ DISCLAIMER ]   Perhaps of little surprise to anyone who knows me, I don’t like groups (any collection or assemblage, particularly of items or individuals) or group counseling  (a method of providing guidance and support for clients organized as a group, as opposed to individual counseling).   There’s no profound explanation necessary for the admission, no need for careful analysis to determine what’s supposedly wrong with me. Much in the way that I don’t appreciate the ta

[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use   In What’s Beef? I stated, “In hip hop, a singular word encapsulates both drama and conflict: beef,” and, “In hip hop, rivalry among emcees is known as ‘beef,’ usually involving behavior whereby artists “diss” (disrespect) one another in their songs.” As well, in Beef Forever  I stated:   I recently spoke with a friend (“Blanca”) about something I heard rapper Cardi B  once state. In a social media clip from years ago, the rapper expr

[ DISCLAIMER ]   I recall listening to rapper Lil Wayne ’s ninth mixtape, No Ceilings  (2009), and hearing the track “ Sweet Dreams ” which featured vocalist Beyoncé and rapper Nicki Minaj . Thus, it was around the time of hip hop label Young Money Entertainment ’s reign that I became familiar with Minaj.   Personally, Minaj is a rapper and not a lyricist. For context, a lyricist concentrates on the art of storytelling, devotes attention toward written lyrics, experiments wi

[ DISCLAIMER ]   As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living  by Ryan Holiday  and Stephen Hanselman .   The authors quote ancient Roman emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius  who stated, “You could enjoy this very moment all the things you are praying to reach by taking the long way

[ DISCLAIMER ]   * PLUR1BUS  (2025) spoilers contained herein. Photo credit , property of Apple TV, fair use   Personal Anecdote   Before knowing anything about tools of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT), namely the ABC model  (a scientific method  of disputing one’s irrational beliefs ) and unconditional acceptance  (UA; a philosophical method  of tolerating unpleasant events), I suffered quite a bit.   From a young age, I was always different (partly or totally u

[ DISCLAIMER ]   As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living  by Ryan Holiday  and Stephen Hanselman .   The authors quote Epictetus  who stated, “If you are defeated once and tell yourself you will overcome, but carry on as before, know in the end you’ll be so ill and weakened that eventuall

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves  through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model  of wellness .   For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

[ DISCLAIMER ]   As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy , this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living  by Ryan Holiday  and Stephen Hanselman .   The authors quote ancient Stoic philosopher Seneca who stated, “We should  take wandering outdoor walks, so that the mind might be nourished and refreshed by the open air and deep breath

[ DISCLAIMER ]   Too Bad   On the 2024 EP She. , rapper ARDN  featured the track “ Too Bad ” in which he stated, “Too bad I… too bad, I know. Too bad I know. Too bad, I gotta get going. She too bad, I know. Too bad, I know. Too bad, I gotta  get going.” Considering the cited lyrics, definitions may be helpful.   The phrase “too bad” may be used to show that one is sorry or feels  bad about something. For example, when departing from a location in which his romantic partner

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy  (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves  through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model  of wellness .   For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When serving as military police  (MP) in the United States (U.S.) Marine Corps, I responded to bomb threats  (threats, verbal or written, to detonate an explosive or incendiary device to cause property damage, death, injuries, and/or incite fear , whether or not such a device actually exists).   Then, when serving as a Marine Security Guard  (MSG), I received specialized training for how to respond to such threats. This was especially important, because of U.

[ DISCLAIMER ]   Earlier this morning, when conducting my daily physical training activities, I heard the song “ Roaches ” from the album Punken  (2018) by groovy Houston lyricist Maxo Kream . At the end of the track, a woman believed to be Maxo’s mom states:   Punken, pull your pants up, boy But you know what? Punken, I’m so proud of you You came a long way Keep it up with your music You doin’ good, keep doin’ you   The vocal tone and inflection of the woman at the end of “R

[ DISCLAIMER ]   When recently listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set  by DJ Ellika , I heard her spin the track “ How I Feel (Am I Wrong) ” by Faul & Wad , Nico & Vinz , ALTÉGO , and Old Jim . Lyrics include the following:   So, am I wrong ? For thinkin’ that we could be something for real? Now, am I wrong? For tryna reach the things that I can’t see? But that’s just how I feel  (ooh) That’s just how I feel  (ooh) That’s just how I feel Tryna reach the things th