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Let Go Without Attachment
[ DISCLAIMER ] When stationed aboard Camp Kinser in Okinawa, Japan while serving in the military (1997-1999), I participated in meritorious promotion boards (formal, competitive processes used to identify, evaluate, and promote exceptionally qualified enlisted Marines ahead of their peers). The last such event that I attended was aboard Marine Corps Base Camp Smedley D. Butler . I was a lance corporal (E-3), competing against other Marines of similar (though not equal) s

Deric Hollings
Feb 157 min read


Cold Feet: Can You Stand Them?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Years ago, I spoke with client X whose wife had recently departed. He reminded me of an important lesson about the distinction between low frustration tolerance (LFT) and high frustration tolerance (HFT)— Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) concepts. I now share his example with you. In common parlance, tolerance is defined as the capacity to endure pain or hardship. Additionally, according to the American Psychological Asso

Deric Hollings
Feb 108 min read


Master of My Own Domain
[ DISCLAIMER ] For many years, I was what could be described as a basshead (an audio enthusiast who has a preference for high-intensity, deep, and resonant low-frequency sounds referred to as bass—often seeking car audio systems which deliver powerful, physically felt, and high-quality bass). My fondness for this lifestyle began in the late ‘80s and early ‘90s when I was introduced to a subgenre of hip hop music known as Miami bass . For instance, as I lived in apartment

Deric Hollings
Feb 79 min read


It's Like This
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Feb 512 min read


A Matter of Concern: Loss of a New START
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit (edited), fair use My primary military occupational specialty (MOS) when in the United States (U.S.) Department of Defense , enlisted in the U.S. Marine Corps (1996-2007), was military police (MP). My secondary MOS was Marine Security Guard (MSG). Both positions were of a federal nature. Overlapping my military service, I became a subcontractor with the U.S. Department of Energy when working at Pantex (the primary U.S. nuclear weapons ass

Deric Hollings
Feb 57 min read


What I Was Telling Myself
[ DISCLAIMER ] “I already know what you’re going to ask me,” is a phrase that I often hear when providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to the clients with whom I work. “You’re going to ask me what I’m telling myself,” I’m then informed. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption , not the occ

Deric Hollings
Feb 38 min read


Ice Skating: Hold Your Balance
[ DISCLAIMER ] Earlier, when looking through video content from my time in the Marine Corps (1996-2007), for a Veterans Day blogpost, I came across footage of my first time ice skating. In 1998, when stationed in Okinawa, Japan, I found that there was no exception to gravity’s force when on ice. The memory of that subjectively humorous event reminded me of a Passport Rav song from his 2021 album Sand in My Carry On , entitled “ Ice Skating ”. For those who are unfamilia

Deric Hollings
Nov 11, 20255 min read


The True Measure of Wisdom
[ DISCLAIMER ] * Frankenstein (2025) spoilers contained herein. Property of Netflix, fair use Today’s daily practice example of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) regards unconditional acceptance (UA)—stemming from Frankenstein (2025), a gothic drama film based on Mary Shelley ’s 1818 novel Frankenstein; or, The Modern Prometheus . For context, UA relieves suffering through use of unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), a

Deric Hollings
Nov 9, 20257 min read


My Lil' Ol' Tie
[ DISCLAIMER ] My late stepmom used demeaning remarks when mocking people in her uniquely comical way. For context, “demeaning” is...

Deric Hollings
Sep 30, 20255 min read


Fallen
[ DISCLAIMER ] On Sarah McLachlan ’s 2005 electronic dance music (EDM) release Bloom: Remix Album was a track entitled “Fallen”...

Deric Hollings
Sep 29, 20257 min read


The 5 Stages
[ DISCLAIMER ] Throughout my adolescent years I heard people referencing the 5 stages of grief, which were proposed by Elisabeth...

Deric Hollings
Sep 27, 20258 min read


Impugning Motive: Swallowing a Toad
[ DISCLAIMER ] Quite often, when paying attention to arguments which take place during civil discourse, I observe people impugning...

Deric Hollings
Sep 21, 202510 min read


Ghost Rider
[ DISCLAIMER ] When living in a children’s home from half of seventh grade to the beginning of my sophomore year of high school, and...

Deric Hollings
Aug 5, 20259 min read


You'll Come Around
[ DISCLAIMER ] When serving on the Marine Security Guard (MSG) program in South America, I experienced many difficult interactions with...

Deric Hollings
Jun 18, 20258 min read


Agree to Disagree
[ DISCLAIMER ] Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and...

Deric Hollings
May 25, 20256 min read


I Can't Take It: It's More Than I Can Handle
[DISCLAIMER] Have you ever been exposed to a CS gas chamber? I have. In a blogpost entitled Resilience, I described my experience from...

Deric Hollings
May 19, 20256 min read


IDC
[ DISCLAIMER ] In the late ‘90s, when the Internet was still a relatively novel experience for most people, I participated in an online...

Deric Hollings
May 18, 20259 min read


Here We Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] In 1999, English electronic dance music (EDM) duo The Chemical Brothers released their highly successful album...

Deric Hollings
Feb 16, 20255 min read


Forgiveness vs. Acceptance
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , property of Buena Vista Pictures Distribution, fair use After many years have passed since I saw Grosse...

Deric Hollings
Feb 2, 20255 min read


It's Like That, and That's the Way It Is
[ DISCLAIMER ] In elementary school, one of the hip hop acts which was most popular among both children and adults with whom I...

Deric Hollings
Dec 28, 20248 min read
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