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When Things Are Screwed Up, Change What You Can, and Accept Everything Else
[DISCLAIMER] In common parlance, suggesting that something is “screwed up” means that someone or something is acting or functioning in an erratic, confused, or otherwise undesirable way. A grittier version of this phrase is to say that something is “fucked up,” also “messed up.” In hip hop, the expression “screwed up” may also reflect music of the late and legendary Houston, Texas pioneer DJ Screw, who’s best known as the creator of the chopped and screwed DJ technique. I

Deric Hollings
May 176 min read


I'm Finding It Hard to Believe We're in Heaven or Hell: Agnostic
[DISCLAIMER] In 2002, I was romantically involved with a woman who shared my appreciation for electronic dance music (EDM). During that year, Louie DeVito released his album Dance Factory which contained the DJ Sammy track “Heaven”, featuring Yanou and the vocals of Do. From his album Heaven (2002), DJ Sammy’s song “Heaven” served as a cover to Bryan Adams’ song “Heaven” from the romantic drama film A Night in Heaven (1983), later released on Adams’ album Reckless (1984).

Deric Hollings
May 168 min read


Doing What I Can Before My Ride Shows Up
[DISCLAIMER] A little over a decade ago, nitape’skw (nee-dub-besk) told me about the life and death of Santee Sioux Nation author, poet, actor, musician, and political activist John Trudell. I miss the contact I had with nitape’skw, as I remain grateful for her having introduced me to the work of Trudell. In one of the most subjectively memorable exit announcements from life, Trudell’s family member reportedly posted on Facebook, “My ride showed up.” and “Celebrate Love.

Deric Hollings
May 106 min read


Eighty Years Here, We Live and We Die, It's Like a Blink of an Eye
[DISCLAIMER] When they were assembled, before apparently going on to pursue solo careers, the group Tragic Allies reminded me of golden age hip hop. Therefore, I still appreciate the album 14 Forms: The Book of Estee Nack (2015) by former group members lyricist Estee Nack and producer Purpose. As a side note, Estee Nack has more self-ascribed nicknames than any other rapper or lyricist of which I can think. A personal favorite is “Nacknuggets.” In any event, on the aforem

Deric Hollings
May 27 min read


Avatar: Aang, the Last Airbender - Unconditional Acceptance
[ DISCLAIMER ] * Avatar: Aang, The Last Airbender (2026), also known as The Legend of Aang: The Last Airbender (2026), spoilers contained herein. Photo credit (unofficial movie poster), property of Paramount Pictures (Paramount+), Nickelodeon Movies, and Avatar Studios, fair use When providing psychoeducational lessons on mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “ mental health ”) within my blog—which predominately focuses on Rational Emotive Behavior T

Deric Hollings
Apr 1614 min read


Mike & Nick & Nick & Alice: I Guess We Had a Good Run
[ DISCLAIMER ] * Mike & Nick & Nick & Alice (2026) spoilers contained herein. Photo credit , property of 20th Century Studios, Hulu, and Disney+, fair use I often share my opinions on movies, expressing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) about how I tolerate and accept outcomes of frustration, annoyance, and disappointment which stem from my beliefs. For clarity, one REBT source states (page 71): REBT conceptualizes [ distress ]

Deric Hollings
Mar 319 min read


The House Negro and the Field Negro: Suffer Peacefully
[ DISCLAIMER ] Message to the Grass Roots On his 2018 album I Self Lord and Master (I.S.L.A.M.) , lyricist Recognize Ali released the song “ Liftin Me Higher ” that featured a sample of the 1963 speech “ Message to the Grass Roots ” by the late black nationalist leader el-Hajj Malik el-Shabazz (better known as Malcolm X ) who said: All the revolutions that’s going on in Asia and Africa today are based on what? Black nationalism . A revolutionary is a black nationali

Deric Hollings
Mar 2418 min read


It's Just Easy Come and Easy Go: Tolerance and Acceptance
[ DISCLAIMER ] When living in a children’s home during high school, a family with whom I attended Churches of Christ services asked me to live with them. They had a daughter, who was in the same grade as I and to whom I’ll refer as “Antebellum,” who at one point drove a red Chevrolet Corsica . Whether or not Antebellum knew I was in love with her for many years remains unknown, as we fell out of contact a couple decades ago. Nevertheless, she was my first love (the firs

Deric Hollings
Mar 148 min read


Radical Change: Begin With What Simply Is
[ DISCLAIMER ] Years ago, when working in the field of nuclear security (2004-2008), I joined a running club with several coworkers and one of their spouses. Having developed a number of injuries associated with my military service (1996-2007), I underwent an adjustment period with running. That method of change was radical (very different from the usual or traditional), because I’d grown accustomed to simply being injured and not appreciating previously enjoyed activitie

Deric Hollings
Mar 109 min read


Better Let It Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] In 2006, hip hop duo Little Brother (lyricists Phonte and Big Pooh ) released Separate but Equal which contained the track “ Let It Go ”, produced by 9th Wonder , that featured lyricist Yasiin Bey and a sample of “ Got to Get Along ” (1976) by Jamaican reggae fusion band Third World . Notably, the hook states, “ Let it go . Ah, ah, let it go. Better let it go. Ah, just let it go. Pull it back, let it go. Ah, and let it flow, like… (All my hopes were

Deric Hollings
Mar 612 min read


There's a War Goin' on Outside, That's Just the Way It Is
[ DISCLAIMER ] Mobb Deep, Heltah Skeltah, and 2Pac Among classic tracks from the golden age of hip hop , songs with which arguably even those individuals who don’t like rap music remain familiar, are “ Survival of the Fittest ” by duo Mobb Deep (lyricists Havoc and the late Prodigy ) and “ Changes ” by the late lyricist 2Pac . Featured on Mobb Deep’s second studio album The Infamous (1995), “Survival of the Fittest” was produced by Havoc and contains a sample from th

Deric Hollings
Mar 217 min read


Let Go Without Attachment
[ DISCLAIMER ] When stationed aboard Camp Kinser in Okinawa, Japan while serving in the military (1997-1999), I participated in meritorious promotion boards (formal, competitive processes used to identify, evaluate, and promote exceptionally qualified enlisted Marines ahead of their peers). The last such event that I attended was aboard Marine Corps Base Camp Smedley D. Butler . I was a lance corporal (E-3), competing against other Marines of similar (though not equal) s

Deric Hollings
Feb 157 min read


Cold Feet: Can You Stand Them?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Years ago, I spoke with client X whose wife had recently departed. He reminded me of an important lesson about the distinction between low frustration tolerance (LFT) and high frustration tolerance (HFT)— Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) concepts. I now share his example with you. In common parlance, tolerance is defined as the capacity to endure pain or hardship. Additionally, according to the American Psychological Asso

Deric Hollings
Feb 108 min read


Master of My Own Domain
[ DISCLAIMER ] For many years, I was what could be described as a basshead (an audio enthusiast who has a preference for high-intensity, deep, and resonant low-frequency sounds referred to as bass—often seeking car audio systems which deliver powerful, physically felt, and high-quality bass). My fondness for this lifestyle began in the late ‘80s and early ‘90s when I was introduced to a subgenre of hip hop music known as Miami bass . For instance, as I lived in apartment

Deric Hollings
Feb 79 min read


It's Like This
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Feb 512 min read


A Matter of Concern: Loss of a New START
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit (edited), fair use My primary military occupational specialty (MOS) when in the United States (U.S.) Department of Defense , enlisted in the U.S. Marine Corps (1996-2007), was military police (MP). My secondary MOS was Marine Security Guard (MSG). Both positions were of a federal nature. Overlapping my military service, I became a subcontractor with the U.S. Department of Energy when working at Pantex (the primary U.S. nuclear weapons ass

Deric Hollings
Feb 57 min read


What I Was Telling Myself
[ DISCLAIMER ] “I already know what you’re going to ask me,” is a phrase that I often hear when providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to the clients with whom I work. “You’re going to ask me what I’m telling myself,” I’m then informed. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption , not the occ

Deric Hollings
Feb 38 min read


Ice Skating: Hold Your Balance
[ DISCLAIMER ] Earlier, when looking through video content from my time in the Marine Corps (1996-2007), for a Veterans Day blogpost, I came across footage of my first time ice skating. In 1998, when stationed in Okinawa, Japan, I found that there was no exception to gravity’s force when on ice. The memory of that subjectively humorous event reminded me of a Passport Rav song from his 2021 album Sand in My Carry On , entitled “ Ice Skating ”. For those who are unfamilia

Deric Hollings
Nov 11, 20255 min read


The True Measure of Wisdom
[ DISCLAIMER ] * Frankenstein (2025) spoilers contained herein. Property of Netflix, fair use Today’s daily practice example of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) regards unconditional acceptance (UA)—stemming from Frankenstein (2025), a gothic drama film based on Mary Shelley ’s 1818 novel Frankenstein; or, The Modern Prometheus . For context, UA relieves suffering through use of unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), a

Deric Hollings
Nov 9, 20257 min read


My Lil' Ol' Tie
[ DISCLAIMER ] My late stepmom used demeaning remarks when mocking people in her uniquely comical way. For context, “demeaning” is...

Deric Hollings
Sep 30, 20255 min read
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