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It's Just Easy Come and Easy Go: Tolerance and Acceptance

[ DISCLAIMER ] When living in a children’s home during high school, a family with whom I attended Churches of Christ services asked me to live with them. They had a daughter, who was in the same grade as I and to whom I’ll refer as “Antebellum,” who at one point drove a red Chevrolet Corsica . Whether or not Antebellum knew I was in love with her for many years remains unknown, as we fell out of contact a couple decades ago. Nevertheless, she was my first love (the firs

Deric Hollings

15 hours ago8 min read

The Preferences Versus Expectations Paradigm: Love Is Not Enough, Though Virtue Is

[ DISCLAIMER ] Of his body of work that I’ve consumed thus far, I most enjoy Trunk Muzik (2010) by rapper Yelawolf . On the anthology is the track “ Love Is Not Enough ”, produced by WLPWR , and containing a sample of “ Hollywood ” (1978) by the late entertainer Rick James . Yelawolf’s song tells the all-too-familiar tale of intimate partner relationships and the preferences versus expectations paradigm (i.e., flexible desires for a specific outcome versus rigid demand

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Feb 217 min read

Is It Desire, or Is It Love?

[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

EDM and REBT

Deric Hollings

Feb 812 min read

Estrangement From Family and Friends: Loving From Afar

[ DISCLAIMER ] If memory serves, I met someone to whom I’ll refer as “Freckles” when living in a children’s home in 1991. Residing in my first cottage at the home, I attended Churches of Christ youth functions whereby Freckles and I became vaguely acquainted. After I was transferred to a separate cottage of the children’s home, switching church congregations to that wherein Freckles’s granddad was the minister, she and I became better acquainted. I thought of her as inte

The Daily Stoic

Deric Hollings

Feb 610 min read

She Can't Stand Me

Hip Hop and REBT

Deric Hollings

Feb 19 min read

The Chemicals Between Us

[ DISCLAIMER ] In 1999, English alternative rock band Bush released their third studio album The Science of Things . The anthology contained a track called “ The Chemicals Between Us ” about which one source reports lead vocalist and rhythm guitarist Gavin Rossdale as having stated: Gavin Rossdale described the song as being “all about the differences and distances between people.” He also said the song was about misunderstanding and not being able to communicate. He s

Deric Hollings

Jan 2914 min read

A Clean Break: Somebody That I Used to Know

EDM and REBT

Deric Hollings

Jan 1610 min read

I Will Never Cross the Line

Hope

Deric Hollings

Jan 159 min read

Can You Feel It?

[ DISCLAIMER ] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Holly Loo , I heard her spin the track “ Can You Feel It? ” (2024) by Chymamusique and Floyd D. , featuring vocals by Wanda Baloyi . Lyrics state in part: Can you feel it? I never thought I’d feel this way About somebody else who is not me All these feels that you’ve given me Are so brand new Oh, they’re new to me Could this be love? Could this be true? Could this be real between me and you?

EDM and REBT

Deric Hollings

Dec 29, 202511 min read