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Don’t Nobody Else Make Me Feel Like: Sadness
[DISCLAIMER] When browsing the Shuffle subreddit recently, I discovered one Redditor’s video that featured the electronic dance music (EDM) track “Make Me Feel” (2025) by oskar med k. In repetition, lyrics of the song state, “Don’t nobody else make me feel like.” According to one source: The song is built around a vocal sample, with its lyric cutting off after the phrase “make me feel like…”, letting place to synth melodies in where the missing word would normally land. O

Deric Hollings
2 days ago10 min read


Ataraxia: Life’s Too Short for the Bullshit
[DISCLAIMER] Three years ago, I sat with my friend “Blanca” at her residence in Virginia. Not long thereafter, for a number of reasons, we went our separate ways. Understandably, people in both my personal and professional life may experience self-distress or self-disturbance about the loss of friendship. Regarding this matter, I consider my approach to care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”). Specifically, I frame this topic throu

Deric Hollings
5 days ago10 min read


If We Could Be Love, Then We Must Be Love
[DISCLAIMER] I view many events through the proverbial lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). Herein, I’ll provide a psychoeducational lesson that involves thinking and believing which is rational (in accordance with both logic and reason), or not (i.e., irrational), as it regards REBT. Here, “logic” is the interrelation or sequence of facts or events when seen as inevitable or predictable, and “reason” is a statement offered in explanation or justification. Fo

Deric Hollings
Jun 99 min read


It Took a Lot From Inside of Me to Just Leave Silently
[DISCLAIMER] On the mixtape Sinatra 2 (2017), by subjectively underappreciated lyricist Vado, is the song “Egos”. When filtered through the lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), particularly the ABC model, the track discusses unhealthy and healthy negative emotions. For example, Vado states, “A good nigga, I tried to be. Hate when you lie to me. No more apologies, obviously. It took a lot from inside of me to just leave silently and not become violently, hones

Deric Hollings
Jun 55 min read


Idealistic Versus Realistic: Welcome Home
[DISCLAIMER] In Existentialism: Meaning Versus Meaninglessness, I discussed a fellow military police (MP) patrolman from the United States Marine Corps, when assigned to Camp Kinser (1997-1999), to whom I referred as “Jugador.” He and I were fairly close when stationed in Okinawa, Japan. Jugador and I wound up again being stationed together when I was assigned to Marine Corps Air Station Miramar (2001-2003). Unfortunately, he and I lost touch around the time when I experi

Deric Hollings
May 266 min read


Break My Heart
[DISCLAIMER] As one could imagine, when providing care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), predominately using Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I often work with so-called broken hearts. Describing this term, one source states: A broken heart (also known as heartbreak or heartache) is a metaphor for the intense emotional stress or pain one feels at experiencing great loss or deep longing. It is often greatly associated wit

Deric Hollings
May 2610 min read


Existentialism: Meaning Versus Meaninglessness
[DISCLAIMER] When serving as military police (MP) while in the United States Marine Corps, assigned to Camp Kinser (1997-1999), I befriended a fellow Texan to whom I’ll refer as “Jugador.” He and I were fairly close when stationed in Okinawa, Japan. However, so went the familiar phrase when I served in the military, Jugador was an “out of sight, out of mind” type of friend. This expression is used to mean that a person stops thinking about something or someone if he or sh

Deric Hollings
May 1916 min read


If You Keep Tempting Me, Then Eventually...
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
May 139 min read


What's Love Got to Do With It?
[DISCLAIMER] *What’s Love Got to Do With It (1993) spoilers contained herein. Photo credit, Property of Touchstone Pictures and Buena Vista Pictures Distribution, fair use My now-deceased mom was a fan of the late Tina Turner (born Anna Mae Bullock). As such, my mother owned a vinyl record of Private Dancer (1984) and played the song “What’s Love Got to Do with It” loudly from a stereo when cleaning our home. The chorus states: What’s love got to do, got to do with it?

Deric Hollings
May 1117 min read


If You Might Be Everything I Need in My Life
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Apr 199 min read


You'll Always Be the Place I Belong, but I'm Letting Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Xenia Torino (UA) , I heard her spin the track “ After Love ” by Anyma , from his album Genesys II (2024), featuring vocals by Delilah Montagu . The second verse states: Where does the feeling go when it’s gone? Will it reappear? When it finds its storm ? You’ll always be the place I belong, But I’m letting go . I’m not that strong. When contemplating these lyrics, I can relate from both a per

Deric Hollings
Apr 87 min read


Kno One: A Negative Evaluation - People Aren't Their Behavior
[ DISCLAIMER ] There was a time when I set out to write blog content regarding the Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) book Creative Marriage (1961). However, I admittedly haven’t contributed many posts to it in a while, and perhaps won’t do so again (current post excluded). That’s because I don’t endorse “sucka shit,” as one source thusly describes this term, “Anything that is not acceptable or violates the G code . This includes snitching, switching up on your t

Deric Hollings
Apr 37 min read


I Still Hear Your Name
[ DISCLAIMER ] Have you ever been in love with or simply loved someone so much that after the person leaves (i.e., a breakup, death, etc.) it’s almost as though (or actually, in some cases) you can still hear the individual’s name? If so, then you aren’t alone. Aside from the clients with whom I work, as a number of them report this experience, I was reminded of this matter when listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Vera Aire . Namely, she spun the tra

Deric Hollings
Mar 167 min read


Estrangement From Family and Friends: Loving From Afar
[ DISCLAIMER ] If memory serves, I met someone to whom I’ll refer as “Freckles” when living in a children’s home in 1991. Residing in my first cottage at the home, I attended Churches of Christ youth functions whereby Freckles and I became vaguely acquainted. After I was transferred to a separate cottage of the children’s home, switching church congregations to that wherein Freckles’s granddad was the minister, she and I became better acquainted. I thought of her as inte

Deric Hollings
Feb 610 min read


She Can't Stand Me
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Feb 19 min read


The Chemicals Between Us
[ DISCLAIMER ] In 1999, English alternative rock band Bush released their third studio album The Science of Things . The anthology contained a track called “ The Chemicals Between Us ” about which one source reports lead vocalist and rhythm guitarist Gavin Rossdale as having stated: Gavin Rossdale described the song as being “all about the differences and distances between people.” He also said the song was about misunderstanding and not being able to communicate. He s

Deric Hollings
Jan 2914 min read


If I Did It for You, It Came From the Heart
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Jan 279 min read


Jaded Shapeshifting: I'll Be Anything That You Like
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Jan 2012 min read


A Clean Break: Somebody That I Used to Know
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Jan 1610 min read


That Means We Are Not Lastin'
[ DISCLAIMER ] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs ). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness . For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable A ction occurs and you B elieve an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable a

Deric Hollings
Jan 1211 min read
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