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Negative, but Healthy Disappointment: Seasons Change, and Friends Do Too
[DISCLAIMER] When dabbling in amateur photography while residing in Bomb City during 2009, I met person X. She was an alternative model, associated with the scene subculture, and someone I once considered a relatively close friend (one attached to another by affection or esteem). To provide an adequate example of our tight bond, when person X told me that she received a death threat of imminent potential, not wanting to involve the police – as was the case with many of my

Deric Hollings
1 hour ago13 min read


Arousal: Negative, but Unhealthy Aversion – Fuck It!
[DISCLAIMER] Photo credit, fair use In the black comedy crime action-horror film From Dusk till Dawn (1996), directed by Robert Rodriguez and written by Quentin Tarantino from a concept and story by Robert Kurtzman, Cheech Marin plays a character named Chet Pussy, working as a doorman at the Titty Twister. At this upstanding establishment /s, also known as La Tetilla del Diablo, outlaws, bikers, and truckers are lured to the bar for unsuspecting nights of debauchery. Here

Deric Hollings
22 hours ago9 min read


Stigma: Sometimes, It Hurts; However, Nobody Can Insult You Without Your Permission
[DISCLAIMER] The James Talarico Fiasco In my personal and professional practice of care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I sometimes encounter the unhelpful effects of stigma—which the American Psychological Association thusly defines: [T]he negative social attitude attached to a characteristic of an individual that may be regarded as a mental, physical, or social deficiency. A stigma implies social disapproval and can lead un

Deric Hollings
1 day ago15 min read


I Could No Longer Take It, Had to Make Some Changes
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
2 days ago7 min read


Everything Has Got to Get Better
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
2 days ago6 min read


You Aren’t a No-Goodnik
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. Now, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelp

Deric Hollings
2 days ago7 min read


You Better Talk to Him
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
3 days ago8 min read


Girl Dads and Wife Guys: Care, Custody, and Control vs. Agency and Ownership
[DISCLAIMER] I Was Once a Girl Dad, Wife Guy, and Feminist When serving in the United States Marine Corps (1996-2007), I met a female Marine (i.e., woman) who was physically separated from her male Marine husband (i.e., man). Together, they had a daughter (i.e., girl) who was six-months-old at the time when I first met her. After finalizing her divorce, the woman proposed to me and I accepted her hand in marriage (2002). Thus, her daughter became my stepdaughter. Althou

Deric Hollings
3 days ago25 min read


Words Do Hurt, You Chopped Down That Man’s Pride: That’s Not How Life Works
[DISCLAIMER] On the album Brighter Days (2014), by lyricist Awon and music producer Kameleon Beats, is the track “Still Waters”. Containing a sample of the Four Tops’ song “Still Water (Love)” (1970), Awon states on the hip hop track: We all know what it’s like, surviving nights after fights With the love of our life, it’s never right You[’re] so restless, butt naked, even your mind’s froze Seeing his face every time your eyes close Words do hurt, you chopped down that ma

Deric Hollings
4 days ago7 min read


Social Learning: How You Perform Doesn’t Determine Your Self-Worth
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. Now, as the matter pertains to this blogpost, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines social l

Deric Hollings
4 days ago16 min read


Retroactive Revocation of Consent: Regret Isn’t Tantamount to Sexual Assault and Rape
[DISCLAIMER] Ain’t No Fun (If the Homies Can’t Have None) – Sexual Assault and Rape When I was in high school, rapper Snoop Dogg released his debut album Doggystyle (1993), which turned out to be a subjectively phenomenal joint serving as a soundtrack to the later portion of my sophomore year. It was a quintessential West Coast hip hop and g-funk classic! Noteworthy, the anthology contained the track “Ain’t No Fun (If the Homies Can’t Have None)” which featured the late

Deric Hollings
5 days ago20 min read


The Same Thing’ll Make You Laugh’ll Make You Cry
[DISCLAIMER] My late stepmom sometimes voiced the expression, “The same thing’ll make you laugh’ll make you cry.” Regarding this saying, it’s worth noting that the American Psychological Association (APA) thusly defines laughter: [V]ocal expression of amusement, enjoyment, or derision, characterized by inspiratory and expiratory movements occurring in rapid succession. Laughter is pleasurable because it serves to release tension built up when people listen to an amusing sto

Deric Hollings
5 days ago13 min read


Aspiration and Inspiration: Walk Away From Trouble, if You Can
[DISCLAIMER] The American Psychological Association (APA) defines aspiration as “an ambition, goal, or any kind of desired end that might be achieved through personal effort.” This is a matter that I address with personal and professional practice of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). In this regard, to assist with my approach to care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I tend to rely on inspiration, which the APA defines as

Deric Hollings
6 days ago8 min read


Carnales: I Wish You Were Here
[DISCLAIMER] My introduction to gangs and gang sets was in fifth grade, when I was occasionally assaulted and battered by members of the Crips during recess and after school let out for the day. Unlike the common saying “if you can’t beat them, join them,” I simply chose to befriend gang members. In doing so, I was no longer bullied. Then, after having continued friendly relations with the Crips until and throughout high school, I also befriended members of the Bloods and

Deric Hollings
Oct 611 min read


Never Gonna Stop
[DISCLAIMER] When listening to an electronic dance music (EDM) DJ set by Lysa Chain, I heard her spin the track “Never Gonna Stop” (2026) by Marie Vaunt. Unless my understanding of EDM genres is askew, the song represents both acid techno and hardcore styles. At any rate, I dig it! When listening to the fast-paced track, as the lyrics repeatedly state “never gonna stop,” I thought of a psychoeducational lesson on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). It’s my go-to met

Deric Hollings
Oct 57 min read


I Need to Find Some Kind of Peace of Mind
[DISCLAIMER] When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness. For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, n

Deric Hollings
Oct 59 min read


Don’t Label Your Entire Personhood as “Good” or “Bad”
[DISCLAIMER] As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) was formed by the late psychologist Albert Ellis, who reportedly developed the first cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) psychotherapeutic modality in 1955, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding his book, Ask Albert Ellis?: Straight Answers and Sound Advice from America’s Best-Known Psychologist. Now, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelp

Deric Hollings
Oct 57 min read


Between a Cock and a Hard Place: It’s All Men Until It’s No Men
[DISCLAIMER] All Men I occasionally write about my lived experienced pertaining to graduate studies at the University of Texas at Austin School of Social Work (SSW), regarding the University of Texas (UT) at Austin (2012-2014). For example, I stated in Woke: These Bitches Are Crazy!: I was told that all males (i.e., boys and men) were oppressors, maintained privileges not afforded to females (i.e., girls and women), and that members of my sex (i.e., male) and gender (i.

Deric Hollings
Oct 425 min read


Evaluate Your Behaviors, Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions According to Your Goals
[DISCLAIMER] In common parlance, the term loser relates to a person or thing that loses (to fail to win, gain, or obtain), especially consistently. With this in mind, I now turn to the album The Last Few Years (2022) by lyricist Endr Won, on which he released the track “Flowers” and states: When they said I was a loser, I was a lost cause—long gone, don’t waste your time. Just another drug abuser, an alcoholic, and for a while I was proving you right. I started to believe

Deric Hollings
Oct 412 min read


Diablita: She’s a Devil
[DISCLAIMER] I’ve made no secret of the fact that I befriended gang members when in high school. One gang set with whom I was close was the Sureños (also known as Southern United Raza, Sur 13, or Sureños X3 – groups of loosely affiliated gangs that pay tribute to the Mexican Mafia). Their main rival was the Norteños (also known as Northerners; Norteñas for females, and are the various affiliated gangs that pay tribute to Nuestra Familia). Because I was never a formal affi

Deric Hollings
Oct 26 min read
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