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Better Let It Go
[ DISCLAIMER ] In 2006, hip hop duo Little Brother (lyricists Phonte and Big Pooh ) released Separate but Equal which contained the track “ Let It Go ”, produced by 9th Wonder , that featured lyricist Yasiin Bey and a sample of “ Got to Get Along ” (1976) by Jamaican reggae fusion band Third World . Notably, the hook states, “ Let it go . Ah, ah, let it go. Better let it go. Ah, just let it go. Pull it back, let it go. Ah, and let it flow, like… (All my hopes were
Deric Hollings
Mar 612 min read
Cold Feet: Can You Stand Them?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , fair use Years ago, I spoke with client X whose wife had recently departed. He reminded me of an important lesson about the distinction between low frustration tolerance (LFT) and high frustration tolerance (HFT)— Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) concepts. I now share his example with you. In common parlance, tolerance is defined as the capacity to endure pain or hardship. Additionally, according to the American Psychological Asso
Deric Hollings
Feb 108 min read
We Must Seize What Flees
[ DISCLAIMER ] There’s a line on lyricist Murs ’s song “ Woke Up Dead ”, produced by Jesse Shatkin and from the album Have a Nice Life (2015), that states “gettin’ older as my life gets shorter.” It’s the sort of message that at first may seem like a throwaway line. Of course, we get older as our lives get shorter. Still, I wonder about how often (or not) people contemplate their own mortality. With each passing day, they grow older while their lives get shorter. All th
Deric Hollings
Nov 1, 20256 min read
My Lil' Ol' Tie
[ DISCLAIMER ] My late stepmom used demeaning remarks when mocking people in her uniquely comical way. For context, “demeaning” is...
Deric Hollings
Sep 30, 20255 min read
Is This the Tool You Want to Use?
[ DISCLAIMER ] Photo credit , property of Crunchyroll, fair use Not long after it first aired as an English dub version, I enjoyed the...
Deric Hollings
Sep 18, 20256 min read
Agree to Disagree
[ DISCLAIMER ] Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable A ction occurs and...
Deric Hollings
May 25, 20256 min read
I Can't Take It: It's More Than I Can Handle
[DISCLAIMER] Have you ever been exposed to a CS gas chamber? I have. In a blogpost entitled Resilience, I described my experience from...
Deric Hollings
May 19, 20256 min read
Life-Downing
[ DISCLAIMER ] The current blog entry is intended to serve as a threequel to recent blogposts entitled Self-Downing and Other-Downing...
Deric Hollings
Jan 8, 202510 min read
Insufferable vs. Undesirable
[DISCLAIMER] Having attended Valleyview Junior High School in my youth, I witnessed a homecoming football custom for which students...
Deric Hollings
Feb 14, 20246 min read
Resignation
[DISCLAIMER] Page seven of The REBT Therapist’s Pocket Companion invites Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) practitioners to help...
Deric Hollings
Jan 3, 20245 min read
Accept Yourself
[DISCLAIMER] Earlier this morning, when practicing self-improvement through physical training, I heard a line from rapper ANoyd’s song...
Deric Hollings
Jul 28, 20234 min read
Tolerating Tomfoolery
[DISCLAIMER] A number of years ago, before I ever heard of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I had a friend who I’ll refer to as...
Deric Hollings
Jul 17, 20235 min read
TnA
[DISCLAIMER] What is TnA? In no uncertain terms, I like tolerance and acceptance (stylized as T & A, T’n’A, or simply TnA). This is in...
Deric Hollings
Feb 16, 202310 min read
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