There's a Bullet in the Gun
- Deric Hollings
- 17 hours ago
- 9 min read
When providing psychoeducational lessons on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I teach people about the ABC model of self-disturbance (how people upset themselves through use of irrational beliefs). Now, I’ll address a finer point of this psychotherapeutic model of wellness.
For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate how when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurrence itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence. That negative outcome is disturbance.
In particular, there are four predominate irrational beliefs which people often use to disturb themselves: global evaluations, low frustration tolerance, awfulizing, and demandingness. When contemplating these unproductive Beliefs, think of the acronym GLAD.
It’s worth noting that the two forms of should, must, and ought-type demands with which people most often self-disturb are associated with use of absolutistic and conditional should beliefs. Generally speaking, these serve as rigid commands used toward oneself, others, and life.
An absolute must narrative is, “You absolutely must do as I say!” A conditional should narrative is, “Either you should do as I say, or you should be punished!” Significantly, in REBT literature, demandingness of this sort is said to function as a primary appraisal mechanism of disturbance.
Global evaluations (i.e., self-downing, other-downing, and life-downing), low frustration tolerance (also known as frustration intolerance), and awfulizing (e.g., terrible, horrible, etc.) function as secondary appraisal mechanisms. Together, GLAD will make you sad or mad, etc.
Noteworthy, with my approach to care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”), I invite people to consider mental scripts which are rational (in accordance with both logic and reason) – especially regarding events which correlate with strong feelings.
Logic is the interrelation or sequence of facts when seen as inevitable or predictable, and reason is a statement offered in explanation or justification. As such, I often use syllogisms (deductive schemes of formal argument consisting of a major and a minor premise and a conclusion).
Importantly, a syllogistic statement, proposition, or belief may be logical while simultaneously unreasonable. In this case, even though the logic consequentially follows (the conclusion is a necessary and inevitable result of previous facts or premises), it’s considered irrational.
While still functioning as prescriptive rather than descriptive, flexible use of recommendatory, preferential, ideal, empirical, moral and ethical, and legal ought beliefs won’t inevitably cause disturbance, as they may align with distress. Thus, rigidity versus flexibility makes a difference.
As well, a rigid form of irrational belief results in self-disturbance (e.g., rage) while a flexible form of rational belief results in self-distress (e.g., righteous indignation). Ergo, what one thinks, feels (i.e., emotions and sensations), and behaves reveals what type of beliefs are being used.
Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive philosophies of life in order to explore Effective new beliefs. Whereas rigid beliefs cause self-disturbance, flexible beliefs result in an un-disturbed condition.
Remarkably, natural forms of distress are tolerable (e.g., mild anxiousness, sorrow, frustration, annoyance, disappointment, etc.). Even though unnatural forms of disturbance are also tolerable (e.g., enragement), my approach to REBT seeks the outcome which is more likely to be endured.
Now, I offer a finer point of understanding in regard to the ABC model. In particular, I invite you to consider use of a modus tollens syllogism.
Form –
If p, then q; not q; therefore, not p.
Example –
Major premise: If I can tolerate the behavior of other people, then I’m less self-disturbed.
Minor premise: I’m not less self-disturbed.
Conclusion: Therefore, I can’t tolerate the behavior of other people.
Presuming you understand how a modus tollens syllogism functions and how it can impact one’s own belief system, I’ll further present electronic dance music (EDM) examples of this framework. Before doing so, I’ll share a photo of me that was taken in 1999.
When serving as a Marine Security Guard in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil, I spent time honing my skills with various firearms. When reflecting upon that time in my life while viewing the above photo, I recall a popular EDM track that shot through the dance clubs of Rio (pun intended).
In particular, British electronic music project Planet Perfecto (Paul Oakenfold, Ian Masterson, and Jake Williams) released the song “Bullet in the Gun” (1999). Lyrics include the following:
[Drop]
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh
There’s a bullet in the gun
There’s a fire in your heart
You will move all mountains
That stand in your path
[Refrain]
Fight fire with fire
Fight fire with fire
Light enemies with love
Fight fire with fire
Fight fire with fire
Light enemies with love
This is a fairly abstract message that may not apply to the concrete issues an individual faces on a usual basis. Therefore, I’ll provide a Planet Perfecto example and a real-world scenario regarding rational firearm restraint.
Form –
If p, then q; not q; therefore, not p.
Planet Perfecto example –
If there’s a bullet in the gun [i.e., a fire in your heart] (p), then you’ll fight fire with fire [i.e., love other people] (q). You won’t fight fire with fire (q). Therefore, there’s no bullet in the gun (p).
Form –
If p, then q; not q; therefore, not p.
Real-world example –
If there’s a bullet in the gun to use at your leisure (p), then you absolutely must fight with a firearm for any given problem (q). You absolutely mustn’t fight with a firearm for any given problem (q). Therefore, there’s no bullet in the gun to use at your leisure (p).
This relatively straightforward real-world example reveals inflexible (i.e., absolutely must) and flexible (i.e., absolutely mustn’t) forms of demandingness. Truly, if there’s a bullet in the gun, it doesn’t absolutely need to (i.e., must) be used at one’s leisure or to fight any given problem.
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As the world’s foremost EDM-influenced REBT psychotherapist—promoting content related to EDM, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.
At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!
Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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