Drive, Baby, Drive: Changing Your Perspective

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REBT

As Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is informed by Stoic philosophy, this blog entry is part of an ongoing series regarding a book entitled The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman.

Authors of The Daily Stoic quote ancient Stoic philosopher Epictetus who stated, “The task of a philosopher: we should bring our will into harmony with whatever happens, so that nothing happens against our will and nothing that we wish for fails to happen” (page 206).

In this quote, Epictetus used a recommendatory should statement. In REBT, this form of recommendation serves as a flexible belief that doesn’t necessarily cause unpleasant self-disturbance (how people upset themselves when using rigid, extreme, or irrational beliefs).

For context, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurrence itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence. This is known as self-disturbance.

In particular, there are four predominate irrational beliefs which people often use when unnecessarily upsetting themselves: global evaluations, low frustration tolerance, awfulizing, and demandingness. When contemplating these unproductive beliefs, think of the acronym GLAD.

Additionally, from a psychological standpoint, people disturb themselves using a Belief-Consequence (B-C) connection. Of course, this isn’t to suggest that in the context of the naturalistic or physical world there is no Action-Consequence (A-C) connection.

Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive philosophies of life in order to explore Effective new beliefs. Whereas rigid beliefs cause self-disturbance, flexible beliefs result in an un-disturbed condition.

REBT also uses unconditional acceptance (UA) to relieve self-induced suffering. This is accomplished through use of unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), and unconditional life-acceptance (ULA).

Whereas the ABC model is a scientific approach to wellness, UA serves as a philosophical method for un-disturbing yourself. I view the former as an abortive approach to disturbance and the latter as a preventative method. Of course, not all REBT practitioners use the same style as I.

With my approach to REBT, I incorporate author Stephen Covey’s concepts regarding the circles of control, influence, and concern, as well as an area of no concern. UA maps onto the circle of control (USA), circle of influence (UOA), and circle of concern and area of no concern (ULA).

The circle of control encompasses only oneself, the circle of influence encapsulates elements which may be subject to one’s sway, the circle of concern engrosses most matters one can imagine, and the area of no concern relates to all content which isn’t yet imagined.

When using the ABC model and UA, in Epictetian fashion, people recommendatorily should practice daily in order to bring their “will into harmony with whatever happens.” Given this contextual information, one of the functions of REBT is to help people change their perspectives.

According to the American Psychological Association, “perspective” is defined as “the capacity of an individual to take into account and potentially understand the perceptions, attitudes, or behaviors of themself and of other individuals.” Of this approach, I stated in Change Ur Beliefs:

REBT teaches clients to “recognize and change unreasonable attitudes, false beliefs, and expectations of failure.” […]

I don’t prescribe to clients what they [absolutistically] should do. Instead, I invite them to consider personal responsibility and accountability [collectively “ownership”] related to the consequences of their irrational beliefs. The beliefs you maintain lead to the consequences you’ll endure. […]

When I consider that the consequences of my beliefs could lead to a healthy, unhealthy, or neutral outcome, I find hope in my ability to influence outcomes. I don’t lie to myself by claiming to control matters beyond my abilities, though to flexibly accept what is.

Changing your perspective requires that you empirically must take personal ownership of your experienced outcomes in life. This further necessitates acknowledgement of how little control and influence you have in this impermanent and uncertain life.

Disclosure and Disclaimer

Before I proceed with a real-world example of a missed opportunity to practice REBT, I think matters of disclosure and a unique disclaimer is in order. First, I oppose illegal and/or unauthorized immigration within the United States (U.S.). As an example, I stated in Histrionics:

Unlike many of my colleagues in the field for care of mental, emotional, and behavioral health, I don’t value emotionality over rationality. From a logical and reasonable perspective, I use rational compassion rather than using empathy – an impossible phenomenon to say the least.

Ultimately, you can upset yourself with unfavorable beliefs about Trump’s actions toward illegal immigration. If you choose this option “you cry a baby cry a baby cry baby cry.” Bear in mind that irrational appeals to emotion won’t necessarily persuade others toward your position.

Second, I admit that a reported 10 million encounters handled by the U.S. Department of Homeland Security (DHS) represents my undesired outcome. Yet, I don’t support acts I’ve seen from personnel working on behalf of U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE).

My military occupational specialty in the Marine Corps was military police (MP)—technically the lowest tier of federal law enforcement officers (LEOs), though typically without the legal authority to conduct law enforcement activities outside of the jurisdiction of a military base.

My secondary billet related to service as a Marine Security Guard (MSG)—detachments which provide security at U.S. embassies, consulates, and other official U.S. government offices in cooperation with the U.S. Department of State, which administers the nation’s diplomatic posts.

Though my actions with the MPs and MSGs in the U.S. and abroad weren’t similar to the role of ICE, I maintain some knowledge of how federal LEOs operate. Seeing masked ICE personnel conducting themselves in a questionable fashion over the past year isn’t something I advocate.

The same rationale applies to U.S. Border Patrol (USBP) and United States Customs and Border Protection (CBP). As such, though I maintain that something recommendatorily should be done about the impact of immigration, I don’t back the observed actions of ICE, USBP, and CBP.

Last, I recognize that people who’ve legally and illegally immigrated to the U.S. over the past several years maintain inherent value—even if not particularly valuable to you, me, or others in specific. Explicitly, I stated in You See Right Through Me:

[E]ach and every individual alive is merely a fallible human being that is neither good nor bad (USA). When other flawed people (UOA) see right through an individual for the imperfection of life (ULA), no shame is necessary.

“They see right through me,” I may helpfully acknowledge, “and there’s nothing wrong with people observing my imperfection.” Simply because a human being exists, the individual has worth (USA). Even when fallible people make mistakes, they are worthy nonetheless (USA).

Even when other flawed individuals unfavorably drag people perceived to have made mistakes, those imperfect human beings are worthy, as well (UOA). “How do you do that shit? How do you?” I may ask. The answer is simple. In life, imperfect beings behave imperfectly (ULA).

I maintain that the U.S. economy can’t support the ostensibly endless wars in which we engage and other irrationally-motivated activities, let alone providing for the care of 10 million additional people. Nevertheless, immigrants to the U.S. have worth as human beings.

Likewise, ICE, USBP, CBP, and other DHS personnel who are led by Kristi Noem who apparently is LARPing as so-called “ICE Barbie” retain worth as fallible humans. The same is also true of Renee Good and Becca Good.

Drive, Baby, Drive!

Now, I’ll provide a real-world example of a missed opportunity to practice REBT. First, some context is needed. According to one source:

On January 7, 2026, Renee Good, a 37-year-old American citizen, was fatally shot by [an ICE agent] in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Good was in her SUV, stopped perpendicularly in the street. [The ICE agent] drove around her, circled her on foot, and approached the front of her car.

After more agents approached her and pulled her door handle, Good began driving forward and turning away as [the ICE agent] fired three shots, killing her. Federal officials and President Donald Trump defended the shooting, saying the agent acted in self-defense and that Good “ran him over”.

The account has been contested by eyewitnesses, journalists, and Democratic Party lawmakers, some of whom have called for a criminal investigation. Minneapolis mayor Jacob Frey and Minnesota governor Tim Walz called on ICE to end their presence in the city. Thousands have protested in Minneapolis, and more have protested in other cities including Chicago, New York City, and Washington, D.C.

Per another source, “[The ICE agent’s] camera captures the SUV as it barrels forward. Someone can be heard saying, ‘fucking bitch [after Renee was shot].’ The impact of the SUV crashing into a parked car and wooden pole can be heard as the camera pans down to the street.”

A separate source reports, “Renee Nicole Good’s wife was antagonizing ICE agents and even urged her to “drive baby, drive” just moments before the fatal shooting in Minneapolis, according to shocking new video taken on the agent’s own cell phone.” Yet another source says:

Progressive voices view Good’s killing as an example of ICE overreach, law enforcement brutality, and systemic abuse of power, especially against citizens exercising First Amendment rights. They emphasize Renee was a “legal observer” and had a constitutional right to protest. […]

Conservative commentators frame the shooting as justified self-defense against anti-ICE radicals who disrupted lawful operations. They emphasize Renee’s alleged aggression and Rebecca’s role in escalating the situation by shouting “You wanna come at us? Go get yourself lunch, big boy,” portraying the couple as part of a coordinated harassment campaign rather than passive observers or demonstrators. […]

Was Renee Good heroically intervening in an unlawful abduction and a victim of reckless police violence? Or was she someone who interfered with a lawful enforcement action and nearly ran over an officer?

Each interpretation feels obvious to those who hold it, and nearly invisible to those who do not. If you analyze both long enough, you might start to see the narratives and the chain of events that lead one to interpret this particular incident in a particular way after watching the exact same three minutes of video.

I can’t possibly opine, in any meaningful way, as to the inner-workings of the minds regarding Renee or Becca. The same is true concerning any DHS personnel involved in the unfortunate event. Therefore, I’ll use hypothetical individuals for a psychoeducational lesson on REBT.

Suppose that activist X positions her vehicle in a manner that obstructs the path of agent Y. Activist X maintains that DHS personnel absolutely shouldn’t apprehend immigrants, as agent Y believes that activists conditionally shouldn’t impede the performance of DHS duties.

Regarding the ABC model, the Action of this undesirable event and resulting Consequence is essentially the same for both activist X and agent Y. Activist X blocks the road with her vehicle (Action) and agent Y ultimately shoots activist Y, ending her life (Consequence).

From an A-C perspective, in the naturalistic word, impeding the performance of LEOs (Action) can result in the loss of life (Consequence). Noteworthy, I’m not advocating this real-world or hypothetical outcome. Rather, I’m simply discussing what so clearly is the case.

Nevertheless, from a B-C outlook, activist X’s impedance of LEOs performance (Action) isn’t what causes spouse Z’s self-disturbed anger, sadness, and guilt (Consequence) in this imagined scenario. Instead, what spouse Z Believes about the unfortunate event is what causes suffering.

Let’s examine this matter from a B-C view. For example, activist X is shot dead after impeding the performance of LEOs when spouse Z plausibly agitated the matter by ostensibly encouraging her intimate partner to engage in acts that ultimately resulted in her unfavorable demise (Action).

Spouse Z then Believes, “ICE agents are pieces of shit [G], and I can’t sand what they did [L]! It’s terrible that activist X is no longer here [A], because no one must die when standing up for others [D]!” With these GLAD scripts, spouse Z feels anger, sadness, and guilt (Consequence).

This unnecessary event applies to Epictetus’ recommendatory should statement. In particular, spouse Z could bring her will into harmony with whatever happens, so that nothing happens against her will and nothing that she wishes for fails to happen. This is possible with UA.

Therefore, UA is helpful for actually getting better (e.g., eliminating guilt through rigorous practice of REBT), not merely feeling better (i.e., the short-lived experience of catharsis). Here, a distinction between distress and disturbance may be useful. Per one REBT source (page 71):

REBT conceptualizes [distress] as healthy even though it is intense. Other approaches to therapy have as their goal the reduction of the intensity of negative emotions. They take this position because they do not keenly differentiate between healthy negative emotions (distress) and unhealthy negative emotions (disturbance).

Now, REBT keenly distinguishes between healthy distress and unhealthy disturbance. Healthy distress stems from your rational beliefs about a negative activating event [Action], whilst disturbance stems from your irrational beliefs about the same event.

Complete elimination of distress is highly unlikely in an impermanent and uncertain life wherein people conceptually suffer, struggle, and battle with, or merely experience hardship. Still, individuals often make matters worse for themselves by disturbing about such instances.

Grief, bereavement, and mourning associated with the loss of a loved one may include symptoms of anger and sadness experienced by spouse Z (Consequence)—as influenced by her Beliefs about the unpleasant Action concerning activist X. In The 5 Stages, I stated of this matter:

Throughout my adolescent years I heard people referencing the 5 stages of grief, which were proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, as this method of processing the experience of death and dying was often invoked. For context, one source states of this psychotherapeutic model:

In 1969, Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced the “5 Stages of Death,” also known as the “5 Stages of Grief®,” the “5 Stages of Loss®,” or simply “The 5 Stages.” These stages—Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance—reflect common emotional responses to change, loss, or shock.

While they are often depicted in a linear sequence for clarity, Kübler-Ross emphasized in her 1974 book, “Questions and Answers on Death & Dying,” that these stages are not necessarily experienced in a fixed order.

She also noted that these stages are applicable to various forms of grief, change, and loss. Additionally, her work explored other emotional responses, including partial denial, anticipatory grief, shock, hope, guilt, and anxiety. […]

UA is akin to Kübler-Ross’ final stage of acceptance. Whether or not her psychotherapeutic model is entirely reliable and valid is of little consequence to me. What I consider most relevant from her contribution to humanity is that we accept death and dying.

While anger and sadness represent healthy distress in spouse Z’s circumstance, guilt regarding how she apparently agitated the matter by ostensibly encouraging her intimate partner to engage in acts that ultimately resulted in her unfavorable demise represents unhealthy disturbance.

After all, one cannot retroactively take back potential incitement in the form of encouragement to “drive, baby, drive!” Thus, if working with spouse Z, I’d invite her to practice UA to eliminate unnecessary and unhealthy guilt regarding her ostensible role in the death of her partner.

Conclusion

Refocusing on the unpleasant outcome regarding Renee Good, Becca Good, and DHS personnel, I can understand varying sides of the issue. As a trained activist through my graduate studies in social work, I get how advocacy for seemingly oppressed people is a principle worth upholding.

Alternatively, in consideration of my former role as a low-tier federal LEO, I comprehend how use of deadly force could be substantiated within the performance of one’s duties. As is the case with complex systems, there aren’t always neat and tidy answers to difficult problems.

Thus, changing your perspective may be necessary in order to prevent or eliminate needless suffering. This requires that you empirically must take personal ownership for your experienced outcomes in life. Also, acknowledgement of how little control and influence you have is helpful.

To provide a personal example, I recognize that an additional 10 million people within the U.S. may overburden the economy. Likewise, I realize that ICE, USBP, CBP, and other DHS personal have been tasked to address this complex issue for which I don’t have meaningful solutions.

Still, I don’t like seeing masked agents behaving in a questionable way when there are plausibly other methods of resolving the immigration issue without the foolhardy theatrics led by people such as “ICE Barbie.” (How are any of you LEOs actively supporting your oaths in this regard?)

Nevertheless, I admit how little control and influence I have regarding all of the matters addressed herein. Relatively recent immigrants may remain in the U.S. The Trump administration will likely continue wiping its proverbial ass with the Constitution.

LEOs will probably continue serving the badge and a dollar rather than upholding their sworn oaths. U.S. citizens will possibly continue opposing actions of organizations such as ICE, and will perhaps continue dying when apparently impeding the actions of the State.

Bootlickers with Gadsden flags and who support the acts of DHS will perchance forget what that early symbol for the Continental Marines and Navy during the American Revolution actually represents. (Hint: It damn sure isn’t in support of a tyrannical government!)

People will doubtlessly carry on fighting amongst one another while the U.S. government continues syphoning money from us for its apparent unquenchable blood lust. And hardly anyone will read this post, except for the usual spooks and feds who I suspect monitor my blog.

All the same, I know that changing my perspective is how to un-distress and un-disturb myself rather than inciting personally unhealthy “drive, baby, drive” action. Now, I encourage you to do the same. There are plenty of tools available to you linked herein, as they require daily practice.

If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life—helping you to sharpen your critical thinking skills, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.

As a psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues ranging from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

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