Havoc: How Do You Want It, Nigga?

[DISCLAIMER]

*Havoc (2005) spoilers contained herein.

I recently posted a blog entry on The Devil Wears Prada 2 (2026), as I stated, “I enjoyed it due to appreciating the acting of Meryl Streep, Stanley Tucci, Anne Hathaway, and Emily Blunt.” Since then, I’ve become aware of controversy surrounding Hathaway, as one source states:

She’s currently riding high on the success of the hotly-anticipated sequel, The Devil Wears Prada 2. Yet Anne Hathaway’s life couldn’t have been more tumultuous in the 20 years that have passed since the original film came out.

For in the early 2010s Anne suffered from a wave of online hate so vitriolic that it spawned the name ‘Hatha-hate’, resulting in her losing film roles and struggling with her mental health.

The Hollywood star became the subject of vile and toxic trolling, with the actress dubbed ‘fake’, ‘theatrical’ and winning the title of The Most Annoying Celebrity of 2013 according to a poll by The San Francisco Chronicle.

Even her Oscar win for Les Misérables [2012] that year couldn’t save her, with the opening line of her acceptance speech - ‘it came true’ - going viral after viewers branded her ‘pretentious’.

Apparently, some people are unable to separate the artist from the art. If I experienced the same disadvantaged worldview, then I likely wouldn’t participate in one of the most favored pastimes my life—watching movies (or “films,” if we’re going to be “pretentious” about the matter).

Personally, I don’t care about Hathaway’s human fallibility, as each and every one of us is an imperfect individual! Given this fact of life, I now present a psychoeducational lesson on mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”).

For this blogpost, I invite you to set aside The Devil Wears Prada 2, and instead consider Hathaway’s performance in Havoc (2005). Addressing a summary of the plot, one source states:

A pair of naive young girls learn that even the most insignificant actions can have lasting consequences. Influenced by the hip-hop thug lifestyle and seeking to explore life outside of their insulated, culturally homogenized suburb, pretty young teenagers Allison and Emily set their sights on East L.A. to experience the “gangsta” lifestyle firsthand.

By the time the pair meet a ruthless Mexican drug dealer named Hector, some true-life Latino gang-bangers, and realize just how far out of their element they really are, it may already be too late to turn back.

Having been born and mostly raised in Bomb City to a white mom and black dad, the predominately white population provided me with plenty of opportunity to interact with people like Allison and Emily who acted out characterized versions of how urbanites behaved.

Simultaneously, as I’ve identified throughout my blog, I spent a fair amount of time with members of street gangs in my youth. This predominately included Bloods, Crips, and Sureños—though I was never a validated member of any criminal organization.

To people who didn’t know me, my behavior probably looked a lot like Allison and Emily when I dressed as a cholo (a member of a Chicano and subculture or lifestyle associated with a particular set of dress, behavior, and philosophy which originated in Los Angeles, California).

Although my biracial identity didn’t correspond with Chicanos, it would’ve been reasonable for people to label me as a “wannabe” (a person who wants or aspires to be someone or something else or who tries to look or act like someone else). Favorably, I didn’t care what others thought.

Similarly, I see how Allison and Emily could be identified as “wiggers” (white niggers – white people whose clothing, language, and mannerisms are regarded as imitative of those stereotypically associated with black people, often emulating black influence in hip hop).

For example, in Havoc, Hathaway sings the lyrics of “How Do U Want It”, from the album All Eyez on Me (1996), by lyricist 2Pac and R&B duo K-Ci & JoJo. For context, the chorus states:

How do you want it?

How does it feel?

Comin’ up as a nigga in the cash game

Livin’ in the fast lane, I’m for real

[x2]

Property of Media 8 Entertainment and New Line Home Entertainment, fair use

For context, “nigga” is used as a pronunciation spelling of “nigger” (used as an insulting and contemptuous term for a black person), though as a double standard it’s used by some black people to refer to themselves or to another black person in a neutral or positive way.

To her credit, Hathaway played her wigger role by twice saying “nigga” when singing the song. For the record, I don’t support algospeak, so I don’t like the term “n-word” for “nigga.” Hathaway said it, I’m saying it, and now I’m inviting you to consider a lesson in this regard.

When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I use personal responsibility and accountability (collectively “ownership”). For improved understanding, responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible, such as a moral, legal, or mental accountability.

Here, “responsible” is defined as liable to be called to account as the primary cause, motive, or agent, and being able to answer for one’s conduct and obligations—something, such as the demands of conscience or custom, that obligates one to a course of action.

Also, “accountable” is defined as subject to giving an account—a statement explaining one’s conduct. Accountability is defined as the quality or state of being accountable, especially regarding an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.

When providing psychoeducational lessons on REBT, a psychotherapeutic modality which arguably requires that one preferably should take personal ownership in order to reduce self-distress or self-disturbance, I lean heavily on both responsibility and accountability.

This is because I maintain that people have personal agency (a person’s ability to control one’s own reactions to activating events which are beyond one’s own dominion, especially when one’s response is limited by someone or something else). This is a matter of self-empowerment.

If you’re offended, presumably by Hathaway’s use of the word “nigga,” then I invite you to take personal ownership for your reaction to Hathaway’s use of free speech. Perhaps you’ve been unhelpfully conditioned to believe that no-no words result in your reactions to them. Incorrect!

REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurrence itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence. This is known as distress or disturbance.

Noteworthy, with virtually any undesirable Action that occurs, it’s your unfavorable Beliefs which cause unpleasant distress or disturbance (Consequence). Given this framing of self-distress and self-disturbance, it’s worth noting that one REBT source states (page 71):

REBT conceptualizes [distress] as healthy even though it is intense. Other approaches to therapy have as their goal the reduction of the intensity of negative emotions. They take this position because they do not keenly differentiate between healthy negative emotions (distress) and unhealthy negative emotions (disturbance).

Now, REBT keenly distinguishes between healthy distress and unhealthy disturbance. Healthy distress stems from your rational beliefs about a negative activating event [Action], whilst disturbance stems from your irrational beliefs about the same event.

Complete elimination of distress is highly unlikely in an impermanent and uncertain world wherein people conceptually suffer, struggle, and battle with, or merely experience hardship. Still, individuals often make matters worse for themselves by disturbing about such instances.

In particular, there are four predominate irrational beliefs which people often use to distress or disturb themselves: global evaluations, low frustration tolerance, awfulizing, and demandingness. When contemplating these unproductive scripts, think of the acronym GLAD.

Worth noting, the two forms of should, must, and ought demands with which people most often distress or disturb are associated with use of absolutistic and conditional beliefs. Generally speaking, these scripts serve as inflexible commands used toward oneself, others, and life.

An absolute must narrative is, “You absolutely must do as I say!” A conditional should narrative is, “Either you should do as I say, or you should be punished!” Noteworthy, in REBT literature, demandingness of this sort is said to function as a primary appraisal mechanism of self-upset.

Global evaluations (i.e., self-downing, other-downing, and life-downing), low frustration tolerance (also known as frustration intolerance), and awfulizing (e.g., terrible, horrible, etc.) function as secondary appraisal mechanisms. Together, GLAD will make you sad or mad, etc.

While still functioning as prescriptive rather than descriptive, flexible use of recommendatory, preferential, ideal, empirical, moral and ethical, and legal ought beliefs won’t inevitably cause disturbance, as they may align with distress. Rigidity versus flexibility makes a difference.

Additionally, from a psychological standpoint, people distress or disturb themselves using a Belief-Consequence (B-C) connection. Of course, this isn’t to suggest that in the context of the naturalistic or physical world there is no Action-Consequence (A-C) connection.

From an A-C view, Hathaway says “nigga” (Action) and you hear her uttered syllables (Consequence). However, from a B-C perspective, Hathaway’s depiction of a wigger – during which she twice says “nigga” – isn’t what causes your reaction. Take ownership in this regard!

Hathaway says “nigga” (Action), you Believe, “Hatha-hate is worthless [G], and she’s insufferable [L], because it’s horrendous to hear a white person use the n-word [A], because only black people should be able to use that word [D],” and you then endure rage (Consequence).

Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive philosophies of life in order to explore Effective new beliefs. Whereas rigid beliefs cause self-disturbance, flexible beliefs result in an un-disturbed condition.

If you use an absolutistic attitude by maintaining “white people absolutely shouldn’t use the n-word” or a conditional script by concluding “either Hathaway doesn’t say things which I find disagreeable, or she shouldn’t act at all,” then you’ll likely self-disturb.

Alternatively, if you use preference-based narratives like “Hathaway preferably shouldn’t use derogatory terms,” or recommendatory views such as “it’s recommended that no one – not even black people – should use demeaning language,” then you’ll likely experience self-distress.

After all, irrespective of whether or not you use rigid or flexible beliefs, people will behave in ways which you’ll often find objectionable. When this occurs, you can take personal ownership for your reaction to these disagreeable events. So, how do you want it, nigga?

Also worthy of your consideration, REBT uses unconditional acceptance (UA) to relieve self-induced suffering. This is accomplished through use of unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), and unconditional life-acceptance (ULA).

With my approach to REBT, I incorporate author Stephen Covey’s concepts regarding the circles of control, influence, and concern, as well as an area of no concern. UA maps onto the circle of control (USA), circle of influence (UOA), and circle of concern and area of no concern (ULA).

The circle of control encompasses only oneself, the circle of influence encapsulates elements which may be subject to one’s sway, the circle of concern engrosses most matters one can imagine, and the area of no concern relates to all content which isn’t yet imagined.

Regarding your circle of control and USA, you can admit that you’re a fallible human being who behaves in ways that others may find disagreeable. Concerning your circle of influence and UOA, you can further acknowledge that the same consideration is true regarding other people.

In reference to your circle of concern and ULA, you can concur that life is impermanent and uncertain, as you have very little control and influence from birth to death, so if you don’t want to self-disturb, then how do you want it, nigga? Perhaps self-distress is preferable!

Given everything I’ve outlined herein, are you are unable to separate the artist from the art? I doubt it. Perhaps you’re willfully stuck, refusing to shed the proverbial dead skin of your social conditioning and instead take personal ownership for your reactions to undesirable events.

In this case, I invite you to consider that havoc is defined as wide and general destruction (e.g., a tornado wreaked havoc on the town two years ago), or great confusion and disorder (the blackout caused havoc in the city). In this way, you cause your own havoc when self-disturbing, nigga!

Now, I invite you to practice the ABC model and UA, as I’ve deliberately used the so-called “n-word” throughout this post to give you plenty of opportunity to move from self-disturbance (e.g., negative and unhealthy anger) to self-distress (e.g., negative and healthy disgust).

Of course, there’s the healthy third option of indifference. This is the perspective I used when watching Havoc, except for one scene in which Hathaway gave sloppy toppy (holla!). There, I’ve given you yet another element for daily practice of REBT… titties (holla!).

If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help you understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.

As the world’s foremost hip hop-influenced REBT psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

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