Due Process: Too Much Power

[DISCLAIMER]

When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I often make use of linguistics, which the American Psychological Association (APA) defines as “the scientific study of the physical, structural, functional, psychological, and social characteristics of human language.”

Thus, I also dabble in semantics, which the APA defines as “in linguistics, the study of meaning in language, as opposed to the study of formal relationships (grammar) or sound systems (phonology)” and “aspects of language that have to do with meaning.”

In part, REBT functions as constructivist and postmodernist approach to care for mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”).Because the words we use matter, REBT places emphasis on the narratives one tells oneself regarding undesirable events.

This is a key feature of the ABC model, which is used to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurrence itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence.

These unpleasant outcomes include cognitive, emotive, sensational, and behavioral reactions. Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive assumptions in order to explore Effective new beliefs.

Additionally, an integral component of ABC model practice regards personal responsibility and accountability (collectively “ownership”). This involves acknowledgement of personal agency (the capacity, condition, or state of acting or of exerting power).

For clarity, the APA defines power as “the capacity to influence others, even when they try to resist this influence” Therefore, being personally responsible (liable to be called on to answer, or being the cause or explanation for) necessitates one’s ability to exercise power through agency.

Likewise, being personally accountable (subject to giving an account—a statement explaining one’s conduct) requires one’s exertion of power by way of agency. Without personal agency and ownership, one ostensibly renders oneself as liable for one’s own behavior as is a child.

As I work solely with adults when providing mental health services, I don’t advocate the practice of infantilization, which the APA defines as “the encouragement of infantile or childish behavior in a more mature individual.” Ergo, I treat the men and women with whom I work as adults.

This is true irrespective of sensitive matters which are brought to sessions, such as sexual assault and rape. And no, I don’t use infantilizing algospeak with my clients, referring to sexual assault as “S.A.” or rape as “grape.” That sort of safetyism simply isn’t how I conduct business.

For context, the APA defines sexual assault as “any sexual act imposed on an individual without their freely given and explicit consent.” This could include a slap on the ass, groping one’s gentiles, a nonconsensual kiss, and so on and so forth.

As the term applies to this blogpost, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network succinctly defines consent as “a mutual agreement to engage in sexual activity. It should always be clear, voluntary, and communicated without pressure, manipulation, or fear.”

In my professional life, when providing mental health care, I’m required to obtain consent for the services I render. In my personal life, if I hadn’t chosen celibacy by abstaining from sex over a decade ago, then I’d be equally required to obtain consent for sexual activity.

This point in the blogpost is where linguistics and semantics is of note. Comprehensibly, some people conflate sexual assault with rape. However, these two concepts aren’t synonymous. Specifically, the APA thusly defines rape:

[T]he nonconsensual oral, anal, or vaginal penetration of an individual by another person with a part of the body or an object, using force or threats of bodily harm or taking advantage of the individual’s inability to give or deny consent.

U.S. [United States] laws defining rape vary by state, but the crime of rape is no longer limited to female victims, to vaginal penetration, or to forcible situations, and the exclusion of spouses as possible perpetrators of rape has been dropped.

Rape could include a female (girl or woman) performing nonconsensual oral sex on another female who’s unconscious (e.g., blackout drunk), a male (boy or man) forcibly penetrating another male (e.g., anal rape involving a broomstick), and so forth and so on.

Contrary to online opinion, a woman serving as an educator who purportedly engages in sexual activity with a boy in middle or high school—who doesn’t meet the age of majority (i.e., a minor)—isn’t behavior synonymous with a “fling” or an “affair”; that’s an alleged act of rape.

Now, in the APA definition of rape is the term victim, which the APA defines as “an individual who is the target of another person’s violent, discriminatory, harassing, or assaultive behaviors.” Worth noting, I stated in a blogpost entitled Outcome: Victim Mentality and Playing the Victim:

I posit that there’s a difference between (1) being a victim and (2) using a victim mentality (an attitude or way of thinking, especially one that is seen as limited in some way). This is a relevant distinction when considering an outcome (something that follows as a result or consequence).

As an example, if someone assaults and batters person X, then person X may be the victim of a crime. However, if person X thereafter plays the role of a victim while expecting privileged treatment, then person X may be subject to victim mentality.

Unhelpfully, regarding the matter of sexual assault and rape, I’ve observed many people infantilizingly assuming a victim mentality. This occurs even with a mere allegation of wrongdoing, as this behavior is rewarded. Thus, I stated in a blogpost entitled Sex as a Weapon:

I remain cautious in regards to the direction in which society appears to be moving. Using sex as a weapon doesn’t seem to benefit the would-be oppressed as much as it allows for the weaponization of sexuality by perceived victims.

For the clients with whom I work, I encourage the use of personal ownership along with unconditional acceptance when faced with these matters. As such, my clients own their role in emotional and behavioral outcomes while accepting how little influence and control they have in life.

At this point, I thank you forgiving my use of personal anecdotes. First, a couple years ago, a woman with whom I’d entered into an intimate partner relationship after my divorce (“Lizzle”) spoke with me via telephone. I concluded that it preferably should’ve been our last conversation.

As far as romantic relationships go, Lizzle and I endured many of the usual ups and downs which couples often experience. Favorably, we were able to maintain a friendly relationship for years thereafter. However, something she expressed during our last call served as a cause for concern.

Ostensibly, Lizzle alluded to sexual assault or rape which allegedly occurred in regard to our sexual activity. “You remember when we used to [sexual act X]?” Lizzle stated, “I wasn’t ever comfortable doing that.” This was the first time I’d ever heard her express this point of view.

“No woman likes [sexual act X],” Lizzle continued. Treating the matter with enough sincerity that I maintained it merited, I asked questions. Lizzle then admitted, “I never told you, because I wanted to please you, so it wasn’t as though you knew I didn’t like it.”

“It sounds like we’re in sexual assault or rape territory here,” I responded. Lizzle then affirmed, “Oh no, I never told you ‘no’ or even let on that I didn’t like [sexual act X]. You didn’t violate my consent.” I appreciated Lizzle for sharing her experience years after our sexual encounters.

Nonetheless, I was also reasonably concerned with the potential of Lizzle one day possibly altering her account. Doing so could prove highly damaging for me in a number of ways. After all, I’ve been alleged to have sexually assaulted and raped females in the past.

Second, regarding other times when I was non-credibly accused of sexual assault and/or rape, I stated in a blogpost entitled Moral Panic: The Irrationality of Slogans Such as “Believe Women” and “Believe Victims”:

I recall sitting in a room at the children’s home, being interrogated by a female CPS [child protective services] investigator. It was clear to me that the matter was female-led—initiated by girls X and Y, reported by a woman who was one of my houseparents, and investigated by a woman. I thought I was doomed!

While it was true that I’d engaged in consensual and independent sexual contact with both girls X and Y, I hadn’t sexually assaulted or raped anyone. Fortunately, girl X spoke truth in this regard. As the door of the room in which she was interviewed opened, she then left sobbing. […]

My ex-partner alleged that I’d sexually assaulted and raped both her and her daughter who wasn’t even of school age. Those were outright lies!

After extensive investigations and thousands of dollars spent disputing the false allegations, I was cleared of any wrongdoing. The woman who accused me faced no repercussions for having apparently falsified her report and for ostensibly defaming me. […]

In both instances, females (i.e., girls and women) were believed (accepted as true, real, or valid, particularly in the absence of substantiation) to have been victims. […] However, as a male (i.e., boy and man), I wasn’t afforded the same benefit of belief.

In fact, I was practically punished (i.e., stripped of points in the children’s home and having my security clearance placed on pause in adulthood while spending thousands of dollars for defense).

This difference in treatment—predicated solely on the basis of sex and gender—meets the standard of irrationality (the state, condition, or quality of lacking rational thought). Nevertheless, it’s the manner to which males have been treated in the [U.S.]. […]

According to one source, “Believe women’ is an American political slogan arising out of the #MeToo movement. It refers to accepting women’s allegations of sexual harassment or sexual assault at face value.” This irrational slogan operates on the following syllogistic belief:

Form (modus ponens) –

If p, then q; p; therefore, q.

Example –

If females lack personal agency and ownership while males are automatically assumed guilty (p), then girls and women absolutely must be believed prima facie (q).

Females lack personal agency and ownership while males are automatically assumed guilty (p).

Therefore, girls and women absolutely must be believed prima facie (q).

Personally, this belief is sexist (prejudicial or discriminatory based on sex—either of the two major forms of individuals that occur in many species and that are distinguished respectively as female or male especially on the basis of their reproductive organs and structures). […]

As a nation, are we to simply slap the label of “victim” on any woman who alleges anything, anytime, and anywhere—case closed, no investigation? Are we to further label anyone who advocates rational thinking about such matters through use of ad hominem attacks?

In conclusion, I don’t care what petty character attack people want to use toward me. I’m advocating justice (the process or result of using laws to fairly judge cases, redress wrongs, and punish crimes), not belief (i.e., blind confidence placed in something or someone).

I don’t believe women, victims, men, girls, boys, or otherwise. Rather, I hear what is stated and assess evidence. This is how I practice REBT. This is how I live my life.

In that post, I advocated due process, which the APA defines as “the administration of the law according to established and accepted principles, especially those upholding natural justice and the rights of the accused. In the [U.S.], due process of law is guaranteed by the 5th and 14th Amendments to the U.S. Constitution.”

Regarding a social rather than legal or constitutional function, people who accuse others of sexual assault and rape may be perversely incentivized to do so. For instance, when men run for public office, it’s not uncommon for women to receive attention for making allegations.

Unlike judicial settings, the court of public opinion doesn’t operate according to due process. Woman X can non-credibly accuse man Y, as she’ll then receive positive regard from others. Meanwhile, woman X can’t un-ring a bell. Thus, man Y will be perceived as though he’s guilty.

This phenomenon was something I observed taking place during the height of the MeToo movement. Now, as it pertains to the topic at hand, I recently listened to an episode of journalist Glenn Greenwald’s show System Update. Noteworthy, he stated:

The MeToo movement was all about this… ushering in this label “believe women.” It wasn’t ‘believe women with evidence.’ It wasn’t ‘believe most women’ or ‘someone.’ It was “believe women,” and a lot of people meant that. Just “believe women.”

I don’t believe anybody without evidence. Empowering people to destroy somebody else, simply by accusing them of something, is way too much of a potent power to avoid abuse. Few of us can have that power put in our hands and not have a temptation to abuse it. It’s too much. And it’s too easy to manipulate. It’s too easy to lie about.

And I think most people came to see the MeToo movement as ushering in a whole bunch of excessive, dangerous, sinister dynamics, because of that framework that was introduced—just a woman asserts something about a man, doesn’t have to be a rape or sexual assault.

People had their careers destroyed, because they said something on a date that the woman found creepy, or they sent DMs [direct messages] that were socially awkward. There was no critical evaluation permitted.

The accusation was tantamount to truth. We believed women, and then the men were all… there was no distinction made between rape or between socially awkward conversations or messages. It was all just conflated and lumped into bad, evil men who had their careers destroyed.

And I think most people came to believe, I certainly did from the start… I’m just somebody who does believe in due process—not just for prison, but for people’s reputation. That that’s too much, and we’ve thankfully abandoned that, for the most part.

I concur with Greenwald’s advocacy for due process. It’s too much power for anyone to wield against anyone else, being able to claim—without credible or substantial evidence—that sexual assault or rape occurred. Moreover, disempowering infantilization isn’t helpful.

Instead, it creates a system for reinforcing processes of victimhood. All the while, those who are non-credibly accused of sexual assault, rape, harassment, awkward conversations, and so on are actually victimized. This isn’t a rational way of conducting behavior within a civilized society.

Fortunately, as of yet, Lizzle hasn’t brought false allegations against me. Likewise, the other individuals I’ve mentioned herein who non-credibly accused me of sexual assault and/or rape weren’t able to substantiate their false claims. For this outcome, I remain grateful.

Still, I’ve lost track of how many boys and men I’ve known who were non-credibly alleged to have committed sexual assault and rape, and whose rung bells continue ringing till this day. Even when using tools of REBT, a person’s life may be ruined by such echoes of false accusations.

Also, it’s as though one can set a timer for an allegation of wrongdoing once a man chooses to run for public office. You want to be president? You have ambitions to serve as a state representative. You want to be a governor or mayor? Prepare to have your bell rung!

Until society stops rewarding bad behavior (i.e., holding proverbial trials in the court of public opinion) and begins judicially punishing those who bring false claims of sexual assault and rape, then due process will continue being trampled upon while too much power is given to women.

Still, irrespective of whether you’re a man or a woman, if you’ve been non-credibly accused of sexual assault or rape, I invite you to practice the techniques of REBT. Even of your life may be ruined by echoes of false allegations, you can tolerate and accept the ringing sound of injustice!

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As a psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues ranging from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

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