Clinicians Aren’t Magicians

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Magic and Magick

At an early age, I learned of magic. I’m not talking about magic (illusion) as “a performing art in which audiences are entertained by tricks, effects, or illusions of seemingly impossible feats, using natural means.” Rather, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines magic as:

[A] system of practices in which humans attempt to manipulate natural or supernatural forces through such means as rituals, incantations, and spells. Magic had an important social role in many prescientific societies, where its practitioners often held great power and authority.

In the modern world, magical belief has survived most obviously as an underground esoteric tradition (see occult) but also in many popular superstitions and New Age practices.

Magical rituals can be said to differ from religious rituals in that they involve a direct attempt to control certain physical facts (e.g., the weather), as opposed to a supplication to a higher power or powers.

Somehow, my late mom practiced both Christianity and the dark arts (any forbidden or malicious practices, often magical, used to control or influence, harm, or kill others, involving curses, harmful potions, and forbidden creatures). As a child, I was often confused about her behavior.

For example, I stated in The Dark One, “[T]here were times when my mom reportedly conjured malevolent spirits within our home. During other times, she would repeatedly whip me to the ground through use of a belt while demanding, “I rebuke you, Satan! In the name of Jesus Christ, leave this place!”

Alternatively, I stated in Existential Crisis: Hevel, Hevel, Everything Is Utterly Hevel, “As neighborhood children played outside our residence on Sunday mornings during my fifth grade year, my dad sat with me in the living room of our home to teach tenets of the Jehovah’s Witnesses faith, using a Bible textbook entitled The Truth That Leads to Eternal Life.”

I preferred my dad’s approach to knowledge, wisdom, and understanding about religion and spirituality. Also, he taught me about magicians (also singularly known as a mage, magus, magic-user, spellcaster, enchanter/enchantress, sorcerer/sorceress, warlock, witch, or wizard, is someone who uses or practices magic derived from supernatural, occult, or arcane sources).

According to my dad, magic and magicians weren’t merely a matter of fantasy. For instance, as he wholeheartedly believed that stories in the Bible represented supposedly infallible truth about objective morality, he required that I study Exodus 7:8-13, which states:

8 The Lord said to Moses and Aaron, 9 “When Pharaoh says to you, ‘Perform a miracle,’ then say to Aaron, ‘Take your staff and throw it down before Pharaoh,’ and it will become a snake.”

10 So Moses and Aaron went to Pharaoh and did just as the Lord commanded. Aaron threw his staff down in front of Pharaoh and his officials, and it became a snake. 11 Pharaoh then summoned wise men and sorcerers, and the Egyptian magicians also did the same things by their secret arts: 12 Each one threw down his staff and it became a snake. But Aaron’s staff swallowed up their staffs. 13 Yet Pharaoh’s heart became hard and he would not listen to them, just as the Lord had said.

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“Son,” my dad told me, “magic is real.” For context, some people spell magic as magick, with a ‘k’, to separate supernatural magick, ceremonial magick, or occult practices from stage illusion and sleight-of-hand (i.e., the distinction between magicians and illusionists).

At any rate, I’ve come to identify as agnostic (a person who holds the view that any ultimate reality, such as a supreme being, is unknown and probably unknowable). Maybe magic is real, maybe it isn’t. Personally, there’s been no convincing evidence challenging its unfalsifiability.

Now, consider Hitchens’s razor, proposed by the late Christopher Hitchens—what can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence. Now contemplate the Sagan standard, proposed by the late Carl Sagan— extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.

Still, I’m not trying to impede anyone’s practice of magick. In fact, I once worked with a client who was a high level witch. This individual and I were able to address matters of mental, emotional, and behavioral health (collectively “mental health”) without ideological clash.

Voilà, Personal Ownership

When further contemplating this topic, I’m reminded of Pluto (2012), the debut studio album by rapper Future. The anthology contained the track “Magic (Remix)”, featuring rapper T.I., and produced by K.E. on the Track. Lyrics of the chorus state:

Fishtailing out the parking lot, leaving Magic [City club]

Two bad bitches, and I got ‘em out of Magic [City club]

The way I make the work [drugs] disappear, call it magic

Sipping on the purple and the yellow [syrup], drinking magic [potion]

Voilà, magic, voilà, magic

Voilà, magic, voilà, magic […]

Per one source, “Voilà is borrowed from French, in which it translates as ‘see there.’ Saying voilà is a lot like saying ‘here it is,’ ‘look at this,’ or ‘check this out’ about the thing being presented or revealed.” Growing up, this term was often used by illusionists (i.e., magicians).

I can appreciate a voilà aspect of my function as a clinician, which the APA defines as “a medical or mental health care professional who is directly involved in the care and treatment of patients, as distinguished from one working in other areas, such as research or administration.”

It’s worth noting that clinicians aren’t magicians. There’s nothing magical occurring with how I approach mental health care. Importantly, I encourages the people with whom I work to own their outcomes, rather than relying on magical thinking of the fantasy or supernatural variety.

When practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I use personal responsibility and accountability (collectively “ownership”). For improved understanding, responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible, such as a moral, legal, or mental accountability.

Here, “responsible” is defined as liable to be called to account as the primary cause, motive, or agent, and being able to answer for one’s conduct and obligations—something, such as the demands of conscience or custom, that obligates one to a course of action.

Also, “accountable” is defined as subject to giving an account—a statement explaining one’s conduct. Accountability is defined as the quality or state of being accountable, especially regarding an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.

When providing psychoeducational lessons on REBT, a psychotherapeutic modality which arguably requires that one preferably should take personal ownership in order to reduce self-distress or self-disturbance, I lean heavily on both responsibility and accountability.

This is because I maintain that people have personal agency (a person’s ability to control one’s own reactions to activating events which are beyond one’s own dominion, especially when one’s response is limited by someone or something else). This is a matter of self-empowerment.

I find it disempowering to maintain that an external locus of control, versus an internal locus of control, somehow wields power over people. As far as I believe, there’s not a “voilà, magic” method of rational living. Rather, you own your own outcomes. Voilà!

REBT

One reason I’m writing this blogpost regards the observed reactions of people in response to the killing of Lindsay Clancy’s children. As a matter of full disclosure, I stated in Trials: Subjective and Objective Views of Justice and Injustice:

I lack enough information to judge the behavior of a woman who’s accused of killing her children.

Fascinatingly, I’ve observed the reactions of people who maintain starkly opposing views, as many individuals appear to be using a moral and ethical litmus test whereby they judge others—not merely beliefs or behavior, though globally evaluating people—which is an irrational act!

Favorably, I’m not persuaded by such nonsensical arguments. Moreover, their boos mean nothing, because I’ve seen what makes them cheer! Therefore, I plan on closely following the Clancy trial when it restarts, so that I may use Bayesian reasoning to then inform my view.

Even anticipating this event, I recognize that I’m not an unbiased observer; neither are you, and nor is anyone else—to include the judge, prosecution team, defense team, jurors, and so on and so forth. We’re all fallible humans, capable of committing heinous acts, and we retain bias!

Rather than offering an opinion of judgement regarding Clancy or her acts, I’ll demonstrate REBT by using a portion of one YouTube true crime video with a title that reads: “Lindsay Clancy: Evil Witch Or Mental Emergency? FBI Coffindaffer VS Brueski & FBI Dreeke!”

REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the occurrence itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence. This is known as distress or disturbance.

Noteworthy, with virtually any undesirable Action that occurs, it’s your unfavorable Beliefs which cause unpleasant distress or disturbance (Consequence). Given this framing of self-distress and self-disturbance, it’s worth noting that one REBT source states (page 71):

REBT conceptualizes [distress] as healthy even though it is intense. Other approaches to therapy have as their goal the reduction of the intensity of negative emotions. They take this position because they do not keenly differentiate between healthy negative emotions (distress) and unhealthy negative emotions (disturbance).

Now, REBT keenly distinguishes between healthy distress and unhealthy disturbance. Healthy distress stems from your rational beliefs about a negative activating event [Action], whilst disturbance stems from your irrational beliefs about the same event.

Complete elimination of distress is highly unlikely in an impermanent and uncertain world wherein people conceptually suffer, struggle, and battle with, or merely experience hardship. Still, individuals often make matters worse for themselves by disturbing about such instances.

In particular, there are four predominate irrational beliefs which people often use to distress or disturb themselves: global evaluations, low frustration tolerance, awfulizing, and demandingness. When contemplating these unproductive scripts, think of the acronym GLAD.

Worth noting, the two forms of should, must, and ought demands with which people most often distress or disturb are associated with use of absolutistic and conditional beliefs. Generally speaking, these scripts serve as inflexible commands used toward oneself, others, and life.

An absolute must narrative is, “You absolutely must do as I say!” A conditional should narrative is, “Either you should do as I say, or you should be punished!” Noteworthy, in REBT literature, demandingness of this sort is said to function as a primary appraisal mechanism of self-upset.

Global evaluations (i.e., self-downing, other-downing, and life-downing), low frustration tolerance (also known as frustration intolerance), and awfulizing (e.g., terrible, horrible, etc.) function as secondary appraisal mechanisms. Together, GLAD will make you sad or mad, etc.

While still functioning as prescriptive rather than descriptive, flexible use of recommendatory, preferential, ideal, empirical, moral and ethical, and legal ought beliefs won’t inevitably cause disturbance, as they may align with distress. Rigidity versus flexibility makes a difference.

Additionally, from a psychological standpoint, people distress or disturb themselves using a Belief-Consequence (B-C) connection. Of course, this isn’t to suggest that in the context of the naturalistic or physical world there is no Action-Consequence (A-C) connection.

From an A-C view, Clancy is alleged to have killed her three minor-aged children (Action), which resulted in legal action (Consequence). When considering this matter from a B-C view, one YouTube channel contemplated a false dichotomy.

Specifically, people on the channel discussed whether Clancy was either an evil (morally reprehensible, as in something that brings sorrow, distress, or calamity) witch, or she endured a genuine mental health emergency. I reject the premise, as it partially uses a global evaluation.

Still, imagine that person X considers the false dichotomy (Action), Believes, “Clancy is an evil witch [G], and I can’t stand her [L], because she’s awful [A], and any mother that kills her kids must die, as well [D],” and using this unproductive view, then experiences rage (Consequence).

Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive philosophies of life in order to explore Effective new beliefs. Whereas rigid beliefs cause self-disturbance, flexible beliefs result in an un-disturbed condition.

I’ve observed a significant amount of self-disturbed rage online, regarding the Clancy case, as people apparently aren’t owning up to their own unpleasant outcomes. Instead, it’s as though some supernatural force has gripped them, making them feel rage. Voilà, that’s irrational!

Setting aside the globally-evaluated nonsense, now consider how one source states that “the system that was supposed to catch her did not catch her. Everybody, and I mean, everybody in Lindsay’s life failed her and her children.” Some version of this narrative is common online.

For context, when used this way, the phrase “supposed to” serves as a demandingness derivative. In essence, it’s as though one expresses that “the system that should’ve caught her did not catch her.” Thus, personal ownership is abdicated in favor of collective ownership (e.g., clinicians).

Yet, clinicians aren’t magicians. By no means am I attempting to offer a defense for those who apparently treated (or mistreated) or managed (or mismanaged) Clancy’s symptoms. I simply don’t have enough information to make a definitive claim one way or another!

Ergo, I defer to Hitchens’s razor and the Sagan standard. All the same, I maintain that if one’s unaccommodating expectation is that clinicians absolutely must be held accountable for the actions of our clients, then I fully reject this proposition. Voilà, let’s not support irrationality!

For instance, using individual sessions, I work with clients via teletherapy. When my clients log off of a session, I’m not personally responsible or accountable for their actions. It’s stipulated in our negotiated informed consent documentation that they assume personal ownership. Voilà!

Perhaps you read my view and disagree, as you hypothetically believe that clinicians are magicians—controlling actions from afar. Imagine that you even propose that I’m supposed to be responsible and accountable for the behavior of my clients. To this, I offer one last tool of REBT.

Particularly, REBT uses unconditional acceptance (UA) to relieve self-induced suffering. This is accomplished through use of unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), and unconditional life-acceptance (ULA).

With my approach to REBT, I incorporate author Stephen Covey’s concepts regarding the circles of control, influence, and concern, as well as an area of no concern. UA maps onto the circle of control (USA), circle of influence (UOA), and circle of concern and area of no concern (ULA).

The circle of control encompasses only oneself, the circle of influence encapsulates elements which may be subject to one’s sway, the circle of concern engrosses most matters one can imagine, and the area of no concern relates to all content which isn’t yet imagined.

Regarding your circle of control and USA, you can acknowledge that you don’t wield supernatural powers. Concerning your circle of influence and UOA, you can admit that I’m not a magician either. Moreover, neither of us owns what the other does in our spare time.

Relating to the circle of concern and ULA, you can recognize that clinicians aren’t magicians, as this impermanent and uncertain life empirically must end for everyone—men, women, and kids. As for your area of no concern, that’s the stuff of magick, and I can’t help you with that. Voilà!

If you’re looking for a provider who tries to work to help you understand how thinking impacts physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral elements of your life, I invite you to reach out today by using the contact widget on my website.

As the world’s foremost hip hop-influenced REBT psychotherapist, I’m pleased to try to help people with an assortment of issues from anger (hostility, rage, and aggression) to relational issues, adjustment matters, trauma experience, justice involvement, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety and depression, and other mood or personality-related matters.

At Hollings Therapy, LLC, serving all of Texas, I aim to treat clients with dignity and respect while offering a multi-lensed approach to the practice of psychotherapy and life coaching. My mission includes: Prioritizing the cognitive and emotive needs of clients, an overall reduction in client suffering, and supporting sustainable growth for the clients I serve. Rather than simply trying to help you to feel better, I want to try to help you get better!

Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW

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Hollings, D. (2025, May 18). Learning to understand, attentively and deeply. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/learning-to-understand-attentively-and-deeply

Hollings, D. (2024, July 10). Legal should beliefs. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/legal-should-beliefs

Hollings, D. (2023, September 19). Life coaching. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/life-coaching

Hollings, D. (2025, January 8). Life-downing. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/life-downing

Hollings, D. (2026, May 17). Listening to reason through argument: Is the rhetoric of whataboutism persuasive? Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/listening-to-reason-through-argument-is-the-rhetoric-of-whataboutism-persuasive

Hollings, D. (2023, January 8). Logic and reason. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/logic-and-reason

Hollings, D. (2022, December 2). Low frustration tolerance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/low-frustration-tolerance

Hollings, D. (2024, June 20). Magical thinking. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/magical-thinking

Hollings, D. (2026, July 3). Manipulation. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/manipulation

Hollings, D. (2024, March 4). Mental, emotional, and behavioral health. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/mental-emotional-and-behavioral-health

Hollings, D. (2025, November 16). Mental health, mental illness, and mental disorder. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/mental-health-mental-illness-and-mental-disorder

Hollings, D. (2025, April 16). Mentally corrupt decisions. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/mentally-corrupt-decisions

Hollings, D. (2024, July 10). Moral and ethical should beliefs. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/moral-and-ethical-should-beliefs

Hollings, D. (2023, October 2). Morals and ethics. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/morals-and-ethics

Hollings, D. (2024, September 27). My attitude. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/my-attitude

Hollings, D. (2025, August 2). My philosophy. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/my-philosophy

Hollings, D. (2024, July 7). Non-dogmatic preferences. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/non-dogmatic-preferences

Hollings, D. (2026, June 9). Nonsense: It’s plainly pride. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/nonsense-it-s-plainly-pride

Hollings, D. (2026, April 4). Objective reality. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/objective-reality

Hollings, D. (2025, September 26). Observing eye and perceiving eye. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/observing-eye-and-perceiving-eye

Hollings, D. (2023, April 24). On truth. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/on-truth

Hollings, D. (2024, November 18). Opinions. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/opinions

Hollings, D. (2025, January 7). Other-downing. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/other-downing

Hollings, D. (2024, February 24). Personal agency. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/personal-agency

Hollings, D. (2022, November 7). Personal ownership. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/personal-ownership

Hollings, D. (2025, September 9). Personal responsibility and accountability. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/personal-responsibility-and-accountability

Hollings, D. (2025, September 19). Power. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/power

Hollings, D. (2024, July 10). Preferential should beliefs. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/preferential-should-beliefs

Hollings, D. (2026, March 18). Prejudice vs. discernment: Bias. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/prejudice-vs-discernment-bias

Hollings, D. (2024, January 13). Prevention, diagnosis, and treatment. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/prevention-diagnosis-and-treatment

Hollings, D. (2024, January 1). Psychoeducation. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/psychoeducation

Hollings, D. (2023, September 15). Psychotherapeutic modalities. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/psychotherapeutic-modalities

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Hollings, D. (2025, March 2). Questioning, challenging, and contradicting irrational beliefs. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/questioning-challenging-and-contradicting-irrational-beliefs

Hollings, D. (2026, August 22). Rage, rage disorder, and road rage: Negative, but unhealthy anger and aggression. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/rage-rage-disorder-and-road-rage-negative-but-unhealthy-anger-and-aggression

Hollings, D. (2022, March 24). Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT). Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/rational-emotive-behavior-therapy-rebt

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Hollings, D. (2024, July 18). REBT flexibility. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/rebt-flexibility

Hollings, D. (2024, July 10). Recommendatory should beliefs. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/recommendatory-should-beliefs

Hollings, D. (2023, February 17). Revisiting the circle of control. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/revisiting-the-circle-of-control

Hollings, D. (2024, January 4). Rigid vs. rigorous. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/rigid-vs-rigorous

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Hollings, D. (2026, July 7). Self-distress and distress tolerance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/self-distress-and-distress-tolerance

Hollings, D. (2022, November 1). Self-disturbance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/self-disturbance

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Hollings, D. (2022, October 7). Should, must, and ought. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/should-must-and-ought

Hollings, D. (2024, February 27). Suffering, struggling, and battling vs. experiencing. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/suffering-struggling-and-battling-vs-experiencing

Hollings, D. (2024, September 24). Supply and demand. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/supply-and-demand

Hollings, D. (2025, August 6). Take an inventory of your obligations. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/take-an-inventory-of-your-obligations

Hollings, D. (2022, June 20). Teletherapy. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/teletherapy

Hollings, D. (2022, December 23). The A-C connection. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-a-c-connection

Hollings, D. (2025, December 21). The awful, very bad, horrible, terrible, no good, unacceptable elements of life. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-awful-very-bad-horrible-terrible-no-good-unacceptable-elements-of-life

Hollings, D. (2022, December 25). The B-C connection. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-b-c-connection

Hollings, D. (2026, April 12). The Cartesian crisis: What do I control? What do I influence? Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/ the-cartesian-crisis-what-do-i-control-what-do-i-influence

Hollings, D. (2025, October 22). The construct. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-construct

Hollings, D. (2022, November 2). The critical A. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-critical-a

Hollings, D. (2025, December 12). The dark one. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-dark-one

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Hollings, D. (2026, February 21). The preferences versus expectations paradigm: Love is not enough, though virtue is. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-preferences-versus-expectations-paradigm-love-is-not-enough-though-virtue-is

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Hollings, D. (2025, January 9). Traditional ABC model. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/traditional-abc-model

Hollings, D. (2024, June 19). Treatment vs. management. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/treatment-vs-management

Hollings, D. (2026, September 5). Trials: Subjective and objective views of justice and injustice. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/trials-subjective-and-objective-views-of-justice-and-injustice

Hollings, D. (2026, March 14). Trolley problem: Distress or disturbance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/trolley-problem-distress-or-disturbance

Hollings, D. (2024, October 20). Unconditional acceptance redux. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unconditional-acceptance-redux

Hollings, D. (2023, March 11). Unconditional life-acceptance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unconditional-life-acceptance

Hollings, D. (2023, February 25). Unconditional other-acceptance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unconditional-other-acceptance

Hollings, D. (2023, March 1). Unconditional self-acceptance. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unconditional-self-acceptance

Hollings, D. (2023, October 22). Unfalsifiability. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unfalsifiability

Hollings, D. (2024, March 18). Unhealthy vs. healthy negative emotions. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unhealthy-vs-healthy-negative-emotions

Hollings, D. (2024, October 26). Unhelpful expectations. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/unhelpful-expectations

Hollings, D. (2025, September 28). War crimes: A rational course of action. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/war-crimes-a-rational-course-of-action

Hollings, D. (2025, October 20). Would there be enough evidence to convict you? Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/would-there-be-enough-evidence-to-convict-you

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Hollings, D. (2026, August 23). You’re supposed to be alive. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/you-re-supposed-to-be-alive

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