Own Up to What You Do in the Last Dayz
Eschatology
Though he’d ultimately sire four children—my older sister, me, and my younger sister by our late white mom, and my half-sister by her late black mom—my black dad who subscribed to the tenets of the Jehovah’s Witnesses voiced concerns about eschatology, of which one source states:
Eschatology concerns expectations of the end of the present age, human history, or the world itself. The end of the world or end times is predicted by several world religions, which teach that negative world events will reach a climax.
Belief that the end of the world is imminent is known as apocalypticism, and over time has been held both by members of mainstream religions and by doomsday cults. In the context of mysticism, the term refers metaphorically to the end of ordinary reality and to reunion with the divine.
Many religions treat eschatology as a future event prophesied in sacred texts or in folklore, while other religions may have concepts of renewal or transformation after significant events.
According to my dad, the Last Judgment of humankind was inevitable. Until that moment arrived, fallible human beings were said to have been living in the “last days,” per my dad. Confusingly, on more than one occasion, my dad shared concerns about having sired children.
Logic and Reason
Herein, I view events using the proverbial lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), as I’ll provide a psychoeducational lesson that involves thinking and believing which is rational (in accordance with both logic and reason), or not (i.e., irrational), as it regards REBT herein.
Here, “logic” is the interrelation or sequence of facts or events when seen as inevitable or predictable, and “reason” is a statement offered in explanation or justification. For instance, a modus ponens syllogism uses the following logical form: If p, then q; p; therefore, q.
Before I provide an example, it may be useful to know that one source states, “A theory is, in general, any hypothesis or set of ideas about something, formed in any number of ways through any sort of reasoning for any sort of reason.” Colloquially, a “theory” alludes to a mere belief.
If every theory in which I believe possibly could be true or real (p), then every theory in which I believe empirically must be true or real (q). Every theory in which I believe possibly could be true or real (p). Therefore, every theory in which I believe empirically must be true or real (q).
This proposition follows logical form; yet I argue that it isn’t reasonable, because what could be isn’t necessarily what is. Thus, I consider this syllogistic belief as that relating to irrationality. Nevertheless, I have little doubt that at least one person on this planet disagrees with my outlook.
Noteworthy, my worldview is subjective (characteristic of or belonging to reality as perceived rather than as independent of mind). Thus, not everyone agrees with what everybody else deems as rational or not. Irrespective of advocacy for equality, not everyone maintains the same views.
For clarity, the American Psychological Association (APA) defines subjective as “taking place or existing only within the mind,” and defines objective as “having verifiable existence in the external world, independently of any opinion or judgment.”
Also, a rational perspective for one person may not be considered rational by members of a group. For example, people dedicating themselves to the practice of science may fervently disagree with referring to a mere belief as a “theory.” I agree! Yet, this is my subjective view.
Regarding my dad’s shared concerns about having sired children, he told me, “Son, I love you, but I don’t know why I’d bring kids into this wicked world when we’re in the last days and you’ll suffer greatly.” I was confused by my beliefs about his communicated message.
Specifically, using a modus ponens syllogism, I considered my dad’s proposal that if this world is wicked (p), then bringing children into the last days is ill-advised (q). This word is wicked [per my dad] (p). Therefore, bringing children into the last days is ill-advised (q). Yet, here I am!
Personal Ownership
While I was confused by beliefs about my dad’s viewpoint, he was clearly troubled by his point of view regarding the matter of having sired children in spite of an eschatological view. In particular, my dad experienced guilt, which the APA thusly defines:
[A] self-conscious emotion characterized by a painful appraisal of having done (or thought) something that is wrong and often by a readiness to take action designed to undo or mitigate this wrong. It is distinct from shame, in which there is the additional strong fear of one’s deeds being publicly exposed to judgment or ridicule.
Much as humankind is said to one day remain subject to the Last Judgment, my dad disempoweringly ruled his actions of having sired children as morally wrong. In so doing, he caused his own guilt. Perhaps my dad could’ve owned up to what he did in the last days.
Importantly, when practicing REBT, I use personal responsibility and accountability (collectively “ownership”). For improved understanding, responsibility is defined as the quality or state of being responsible, such as a moral, legal, or mental accountability.
Here, “responsible” is defined as liable to be called to account as the primary cause, motive, or agent, and being able to answer for one’s conduct and obligations—something, such as the demands of conscience or custom, that obligates one to a course of action.
Also, “accountable” is defined as subject to giving an account—a statement explaining one’s conduct. Accountability is defined as the quality or state of being accountable, especially regarding an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.
When providing psychoeducational lessons on REBT, a psychotherapeutic modality which arguably requires that one preferably should take personal ownership in order to reduce self-distress or self-disturbance, I lean heavily on both responsibility and accountability.
This is because I maintain that people have personal agency (a person’s ability to control one’s own reactions to activating events which are beyond one’s own dominion, especially when one’s response is limited by someone or something else). This is a matter of self-empowerment.
According to one source, “If you own up to something, you’re admitting fault for it. If you own something, typically a thing that you did incorrectly. If you’re owning something, it’s usually a thing that is wrong/that you did incorrectly that you are not changing for whatever reason.”
My dad owned the fact that he had four children. Likewise, he could’ve empoweringly owned up to what he did in the last days when having decided to bring my sisters and me into what he labeled as a “wicked world.” After all, here we remain!
Last Dayz
When further contemplating this matter, I’m reminded of my high school years when the teen crime drama film Menace II Society (1993) was released. By that point in life, I’d already been placed in a children’s home, and then taken in by a family with whom I attended church services.
Now, there was a scene in the movie that depicted character “O-Dog” as having had little regard for the lives of other people. In some aspects, his maladaptive emotions and behavior reflected that of my own, as I befriended a number of gang members in adolescence.
One time, I unproductively described myself as O-Dog was referenced in Menace II Society, “The craziest nigga alive, America’s nightmare. Young, black, and didn’t give a fuck.” Apparently, the “wicked world” my dad warned me of wasn’t made better by my actions.
Not long after I’d viewed Menace II Society about half a dozen times, the album All We Got Iz Us (1995) was released by group Onyx (lyricists Fredro Starr, Suavé [also known as Sonny Seeza], and Sticky Fingaz, formerly also incorporating the late rapper and producer Big DS).
It contained the classic track “Last Dayz”, produced by Fredro Starr, and it contained samples of “Love Lips” (1979) by Bob James and Earl Klugh, “A Song for You” (1974) by Aretha Franklin, and “Outside Love” (1970) by Brethren. It also contained a reference to the quote about O-Dog.
Per one source, “In 1996, [a] riot broke out at Onyx’s concert during the performance “Last Dayz” in Newark, New Jersey. Fredro Starr told everybody in the audience that, they got the power to take over the world. They could do what the fuck they want to do. When Fredro said that, the whole crowd got vibrant.”
Superficially, having the so-called “power” to engage in nonadaptive behavior may’ve seemed like a matter of empowerment. However, that sort of action disempoweringly disregards one’s personal ownership for one’s own outcomes in life. Own up to what you do in the “Last Dayz”!
REBT
Now, REBT uses the ABC model to illustrate that when an undesirable Action occurs and you Believe an unhelpful narrative about the event, it’s your unfavorable assumption, not the event itself, that causes an unpleasant Consequence. This is known as distress or disturbance.
Noteworthy, with virtually any undesirable Action that occurs, it’s your unfavorable Beliefs which cause unpleasant distress or disturbance (Consequence). Given this framing of self-distress and self-disturbance, it’s worth noting that one REBT source states (page 71):
REBT conceptualizes [distress] as healthy even though it is intense. Other approaches to therapy have as their goal the reduction of the intensity of negative emotions. They take this position because they do not keenly differentiate between healthy negative emotions (distress) and unhealthy negative emotions (disturbance).
Now, REBT keenly distinguishes between healthy distress and unhealthy disturbance. Healthy distress stems from your rational beliefs about a negative activating event [Action], whilst disturbance stems from your irrational beliefs about the same event.
Complete elimination of distress is highly unlikely in an impermanent and uncertain world, wherein people conceptually suffer, struggle, and battle with, or merely experience hardship. Still, individuals often make matters worse for themselves by disturbing about such instances.
In particular, there are four predominate irrational beliefs which people often use to distress or disturb themselves: global evaluations, low frustration tolerance, awfulizing, and demandingness. When contemplating these unproductive scripts, think of the acronym GLAD.
Additionally, from a psychological standpoint, people distress or disturb themselves using a Belief-Consequence (B-C) connection. Of course, this isn’t to suggest that in the context of the naturalistic or physical world there is no Action-Consequence (A-C) connection.
To provide a meaningful distinction between the A-C and B-C connections, I thank you for granting me a professional anecdote. Recently, I spoke with client X who expressed excitement about becoming a dad. For context, his intimate partner is newly pregnant.
As is the case with many of my clients who prepare to have their first child, client X took to the Internet to gain knowledge about what may likely be expected with parenthood. Online activity being unpredictable, client X reportedly encountered unfamiliar narratives of eschatology.
‘People who bring children into this world are selfish,’ one individual purportedly stated, inferring an inflexible demand regarding how people absolutely shouldn’t have children in the last days of humankind. When contemplating this worldview, client X then experienced guilt.
Now, concerning an A-C view, client X and his spouse had sexual intercourse (Action), and this satisfying event led to a pregnancy (Consequence). All the same, when client X encountered disparaging comments online (Action), his B-C connection is what caused guilt.
Thus, client X encountered disparaging comments online (Action) and he likely Believed, “It’s useless to have kids in the last days [G], as I couldn’t bear to bring a child into a chaotic world [L], because things are horrific right now [A], so I absolutely shouldn’t have children [D]!”
When using this unaccommodating Belief, which ostensibly isn’t all that different from what my dad likely told himself about having my sisters and me, client X then experienced negative, though unhealthy guilt (Consequence). This GLAD narrative could plausibly lead to an abortion.
Addressing how people upset themselves with unhelpful attitudes, the ABC model incorporates Disputation of unproductive philosophies of life in order to explore Effective new beliefs. Whereas rigid beliefs cause self-disturbance, flexible beliefs result in an un-disturbed condition.
Client X Disputed his Belief, owned up to what he does in the last days, and he now uses the Effective new belief, “I can’t control and influence every aspect of this imperfect world, though my spouse and I aren’t selfish for wanting to provide a loving life to a child, which we can do.”
Additionally, it’s worth noting that client X also uses unconditional acceptance (UA) to relieve self-induced suffering. This is accomplished through use of unconditional self-acceptance (USA), unconditional other-acceptance (UOA), and unconditional life-acceptance (ULA).
With my approach to REBT, I incorporate author Stephen Covey’s concepts regarding the circles of control, influence, and concern, as well as an area of no concern. UA maps onto the circle of control (USA), circle of influence (UOA), and circle of concern and area of no concern (ULA).
The circle of control encompasses only oneself, the circle of influence encapsulates elements which may be subject to one’s sway, the circle of concern engrosses most matters one can imagine, and the area of no concern relates to all content which isn’t yet imagined.
Regarding his circle of control and USA, client X recognizes that although he can’t control a chaotic world, he can control his reaction to online comments. Concerning his circle of influence and UOA, client X admits that people online are free to express themselves however they want.
Relating to his circle of concern and UOA, client X acknowledges that while humanity appears to be in a perpetual state of the last days, he has no control or influence in this regard. Pertaining to his area of no concern, client X isn’t wasting his time imagining a world that doesn’t end.
Conclusion
I now invite you to consider how my dad self-disturbed with unhelpful Beliefs about siring children, contemplate how unproductive Beliefs resulted in maladaptive behavior at an Onyx concert, and think of how client X used an Effective new belief that aligned with his goals.
You can cause your own negative, though unhealthy outcomes in life. Alternatively, you can cause your own negative, but healthy results. When using the ABC model and UA, client X now tolerates and accepts his self-caused negative, but healthy disappointment (Consequence).
Ultimately, you can own up to what you do in the last days. Even if an eschatological view is incorrect, and the Earth never ends, your life will one day expire! Thus, you’re in your last days regarding a life of impermanence and uncertainty. Why not own your outcomes until you go?
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Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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